This is best suit for PRINCE now....get through it... and everything is going to be fine, the truth always stand stronger than the rest...
Dr.Prince
Friday, October 14, 2005
Prince: Mentality...
This is best suit for PRINCE now....get through it... and everything is going to be fine, the truth always stand stronger than the rest...
Dr.Prince
Prince: Mentality...
That's also a pitfall, because they will remember if you make them feel bad...they will also remember if you make them feel good...
Dr.Prince
Prince: Mentality...
Life is always about mistake, it depends on how you perceive your mistake.. and turn it into achievement...
Dr.Prince
Thursday, October 13, 2005
Prince: Tell me about your Wisdom...
How would you describe your wisdom to other?
None of them is able to describe to you their own wisdom because none of the human being knows how smart they are. Wisdom is something, automatically reflects from your personality, action, behavioral attitude & character, and lastly, your perception on matter surrounded you. No one is able to tell other the degree of wisdom as they has entitled to.
Wisdom is about how you see thing negatively, or positively.
Wisdom is about your psychological reaction to negative, and how you turn it into positive.
Wisdom is about optimistic over rule pessimistic.
Wisdom is about the mixture of flexibility & rigid.
Wisdom is not about moral but it is about application.
Wisdom is about how you set your accessible principle before you enforce them.
Wisdom is about making an effort to understand other.
Wisdom is when you know you are angry, and you want to turn it into happiness.
Wisdom is about controlling your temper and only release at the right time at the right degree.
Wisdom is about how to take other advice and view in other shoe.
Wisdom is about absorbing the right teaching
Wisdom is about believed in what has been made to believe but use it wisely and flexibly.
Wisdom is about advising neither commenting nor criticizing
Wisdom is about “talking with” not “talking to”
Wisdom is about sharing not enforcing
Wisdom comes after “to be led” not “to lead”
Wisdom is about unity, not discrimination
Wisdom is about open mind, not close mind
Wisdom is about solution not rejection
Wisdom is about transforming or shifting not “cut-off”
Wisdom is when you think other is doing something against your will and you will try to understand and view it positively, not against it negatively.
There are a lot about wisdom but have you followed any of the above listed at least?
Clubbing is bad as perceived by old people, drinking is as bad as clubbing, and smoking, and that most human being are doing it, with successful person constitute a portion of it. They consider it as entertainment or entertaining, and it has become a fact. Can prince despise clubbing, drinking and smoking? How would you use your wisdom to perceive this, as without element of craftiness, lies and other which against moral value? The fact that all the above activities are against moral value, Is it? Perhaps it may not so against the natural way of living from the outcome of transformation. Nothing is against the moral value as long as you do not pose harm to other living creatures or the society; some people may comment “over-drinking” may create harm, unless you let your will to perform the unnecessary. How many human beings beat their wife and blame liquor? Prince believes it is almost less than a % as compare to the number of drinkers? Last but not least, wisdom is about will not stubbornness.
None of them is able to describe to you their own wisdom because none of the human being knows how smart they are. Wisdom is something, automatically reflects from your personality, action, behavioral attitude & character, and lastly, your perception on matter surrounded you. No one is able to tell other the degree of wisdom as they has entitled to.
Wisdom is about how you see thing negatively, or positively.
Wisdom is about your psychological reaction to negative, and how you turn it into positive.
Wisdom is about optimistic over rule pessimistic.
Wisdom is about the mixture of flexibility & rigid.
Wisdom is not about moral but it is about application.
Wisdom is about how you set your accessible principle before you enforce them.
Wisdom is about making an effort to understand other.
Wisdom is when you know you are angry, and you want to turn it into happiness.
Wisdom is about controlling your temper and only release at the right time at the right degree.
Wisdom is about how to take other advice and view in other shoe.
Wisdom is about absorbing the right teaching
Wisdom is about believed in what has been made to believe but use it wisely and flexibly.
Wisdom is about advising neither commenting nor criticizing
Wisdom is about “talking with” not “talking to”
Wisdom is about sharing not enforcing
Wisdom comes after “to be led” not “to lead”
Wisdom is about unity, not discrimination
Wisdom is about open mind, not close mind
Wisdom is about solution not rejection
Wisdom is about transforming or shifting not “cut-off”
Wisdom is when you think other is doing something against your will and you will try to understand and view it positively, not against it negatively.
There are a lot about wisdom but have you followed any of the above listed at least?
Clubbing is bad as perceived by old people, drinking is as bad as clubbing, and smoking, and that most human being are doing it, with successful person constitute a portion of it. They consider it as entertainment or entertaining, and it has become a fact. Can prince despise clubbing, drinking and smoking? How would you use your wisdom to perceive this, as without element of craftiness, lies and other which against moral value? The fact that all the above activities are against moral value, Is it? Perhaps it may not so against the natural way of living from the outcome of transformation. Nothing is against the moral value as long as you do not pose harm to other living creatures or the society; some people may comment “over-drinking” may create harm, unless you let your will to perform the unnecessary. How many human beings beat their wife and blame liquor? Prince believes it is almost less than a % as compare to the number of drinkers? Last but not least, wisdom is about will not stubbornness.
Prince: Office Politic starts with Lies...
Office politic occurs when one party tells lies to the others, and that the lies blew out. However, the truth only comes around certain people, and those who do not know about the truth, will start to form another political party. This is about office politic!
Prince has been through a lot, and thought that staying in kindergarten can help him to lead a better life with better future, but it seems to him that the world is just the same. Somehow, leadership which not in role model can not convince the crowd and it will eventually split the team into two.
How can a person, tell lies, covering up his conscience, and do not feel guilty at all. Furthermore, they can lead the situation into believing the lies are the truth. They turn a victim into predator, while them, as predator into victim. The world is always living with politic, but office politic is what prince doesn’t want to live in…
Prince has been through a lot, and thought that staying in kindergarten can help him to lead a better life with better future, but it seems to him that the world is just the same. Somehow, leadership which not in role model can not convince the crowd and it will eventually split the team into two.
How can a person, tell lies, covering up his conscience, and do not feel guilty at all. Furthermore, they can lead the situation into believing the lies are the truth. They turn a victim into predator, while them, as predator into victim. The world is always living with politic, but office politic is what prince doesn’t want to live in…
Prince: House-Cleaning...
Multi-tasking is always part of prince’s work, and for the benefit of his career pathway, he has to make sure that he can accept the fact that multi-tasking provides an opportunity to learn. Today, he received an instruction to help a new teacher to clean up the classroom (Nursery 1). Principal, New teacher- Miss Leong, and together with another two corporate executives, and prince, they have to shift all the bookshelves, using ‘zip’ to rub off the stain on the table and shelves. Amidst of clean-up, three parents walked in for enquiry, and prince was on duty that day. He put his socks on, and took his shoe; rushing down to meet the three parents will ‘zip’ smell on his body…… that is multi-tasking…
Prince: FOlding FLyers...
Reaching 5.30pm, and prince would like to head back to his own sweet home, but was then called down to office. Upon arriving the office, he can see Fern, Fion and Kevin, were basically sitting there, folding up the open day flyers. Somehow, he knew what he had to do then- folding flyers so that it can be distributed tomorrow! There were 5 thousand copies, and they were able to get it done at 7.00pm. They enjoyed chatting, and joking, the whole process was tiring but interesting… ‘What an experience’, prince said to himself…
Wednesday, October 12, 2005
Prince:Personality Transform....
Your mentality will affect your personality as well as your perception on your surrounding. The explanation involves the process of transformation which one must be determined enough to take the challenge of changes. The very first stage involves the setting of direction, which encompasses of your overall expectation of what you want to be in future, and the expectation also involves how you expect other to perceive you- the first and lasting impression in their perception.
This type of perception should not only last for few minutes before you talk (that’s the reason why your mentality is so important to determine your overall character from inside out). The next step involves action which encompasses a few areas, such as observation, where you must be very observant of your own gestures which include your overall presentation in front of others. Apart from that, you must be able to design your own body language and gesture which impress your surrounding, and lead them to look-up on you. Very often, one is only able to change the outlook, because this appears to be the easier task of overall changing process. The most difficult part, lays on the mentality, which determine one’s behavioral attitude. This is also the real child inside of everyone inner world.
Of course, you may ask about the mentality transformation, in layman term, it is about the change of your thought. It is not tough but it is not easy as well. However, if you can get through this for a period of time, then nothing is impossible in your changing process. Let’s try it in prince’ way, with little effort from your part, to check if you are determine enough. The mental change does not come in an easy way, but a great determination. It must have a starting point, so the starting point is, if you are able and time allows, trying to spend one or two hours a day reading some books. Book of which is related strong to ancient history of war, mainly relating about a king gesture and life. Meanwhile, book about philosophy may appear to be very helpful in developing your foresight. If you can do this for 6 months, and must ensure you are able to finish the least 3 books, with deep thought of the meaning of the book, you are considered to be making the first step out of your world.
This type of perception should not only last for few minutes before you talk (that’s the reason why your mentality is so important to determine your overall character from inside out). The next step involves action which encompasses a few areas, such as observation, where you must be very observant of your own gestures which include your overall presentation in front of others. Apart from that, you must be able to design your own body language and gesture which impress your surrounding, and lead them to look-up on you. Very often, one is only able to change the outlook, because this appears to be the easier task of overall changing process. The most difficult part, lays on the mentality, which determine one’s behavioral attitude. This is also the real child inside of everyone inner world.
Of course, you may ask about the mentality transformation, in layman term, it is about the change of your thought. It is not tough but it is not easy as well. However, if you can get through this for a period of time, then nothing is impossible in your changing process. Let’s try it in prince’ way, with little effort from your part, to check if you are determine enough. The mental change does not come in an easy way, but a great determination. It must have a starting point, so the starting point is, if you are able and time allows, trying to spend one or two hours a day reading some books. Book of which is related strong to ancient history of war, mainly relating about a king gesture and life. Meanwhile, book about philosophy may appear to be very helpful in developing your foresight. If you can do this for 6 months, and must ensure you are able to finish the least 3 books, with deep thought of the meaning of the book, you are considered to be making the first step out of your world.
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
Prince: It doesn't matter to live Poor...
Quoted and as translated from a Chinese movie, “It doesn’t matter if you live poor, as long as you do not cause harm to other human being then you are a strong and well-disciplined man”. In whatsoever situation, as long as you do not cause harm to other, whatever you do is considered a well deed. Certainly, one may ask, “what about scolding other people?” it may not cause physical harm to other but it results the psychological pain on others. It is still a harm created by you even if you may have apologize aftermath.
As translated from a Chinese proverb, “one must not afraid of the sound of door knocking at night”, this explain that if you do not perform any matter that causes you the feeling of guilty conscience, then you must not afraid of being judge upon. This is a very important proverb which inheres in prince’s principles. In whatever situation, you must ensure your play your responsibility well, then no one is able to shaken your position.
As translated from a Chinese proverb, “one must not afraid of the sound of door knocking at night”, this explain that if you do not perform any matter that causes you the feeling of guilty conscience, then you must not afraid of being judge upon. This is a very important proverb which inheres in prince’s principles. In whatever situation, you must ensure your play your responsibility well, then no one is able to shaken your position.
Prince: My Leave again..!
Talking about leave application again, it was sent back to my superior, as according to her, she doesn’t want to sign unless he signs it first, in this case, if anything happen, my superior will be responsible, and keeps her our of responsibilities. This is completely non-sense, as if trying to play ‘Tai-Chi’, no doubt, ‘Tai-Chi’ is one of the self-defense strategy, but too irresponsible to practice. ..
Prince: My Leave....!
How long is it going to take her to approve my leave? I believe she still can’t get through her own barrier to give me an approval, since she wants to see everyone working every day without rest. The old paradigm employers always want their employee to work 24 hours a day non-stop, only then they feel worth to pay them, even the pay is only as little as merely enough to survive. Deprivation should not have occurred here, but if it is, then prince has to go all the way up to fight against it…think about what will you do if you are in his position…?
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Prince: Multi-tasking..Hanging Wind Fan...
Today, principal ‘acknowledged’ prince that; one line of the’ wind fan’ had fallen apart. She wanted prince to tie it back, and of course, it is not an easy task, because you have to untie the bottom part, and then bring the whole ‘wind fan’ up to first floor and throw it down after you tie the knob. Only then you are able to tie on the other end down stair. Wearing long sleeves with corporate look, performing such an incredible task has made prince sweat like showering! It released the sour smell…’hope no one smell my sweat’, he said to himself…
Monday, October 10, 2005
Prince:Mistake..? realise?
Human being just don’t have to gut to admit and change, even if they have the gut to admit, but the may not have the push to change. They make empty promises, but somehow, better than those who don’t even realize their own mistake, and keep making it again and again…This is the first time he met this type of human being, who always believe that they are right…and wants other to feel pity for them… They want to turn their position as predator into victim, and so to destroy the ‘real’ victim in the process, or oppress the ‘real’ victim to make a wrong move…
王子:人生是否很奥妙?
有时,王子想,人生是否很奥妙?
应该发生的, 始终会发生, 该来的, 始终会来.
人生有好也有坏, 有甜也有苦,
有快乐的也有伤心的.
这些都不是在人的空制之下.
终而言之, 要快快乐乐的过这人生就可以了.
王子
笔
应该发生的, 始终会发生, 该来的, 始终会来.
人生有好也有坏, 有甜也有苦,
有快乐的也有伤心的.
这些都不是在人的空制之下.
终而言之, 要快快乐乐的过这人生就可以了.
王子
笔
Prince: Multi-tasking...an excuse or an opportunity..?
What is it about multi-tasking in company? In the eye of employers, multi-tasking is one of the best cost-cutting-strategy. Employers expect employee to be able to do multi-task, so as to reduce the hierarchies in a company. While, in the eye of employees, very often, it is merely a deprivation of employees’ right because multi-tasking lead to variation in responsibility, including cleaning washroom, sweeping floor and cleaning dishes on day to day basis! However, employees must admit that multi-tasking provides an opportunity to learn, it is a learning opportunity where you are able to get hands on vary facet of the company activities. Unfortunately, employers tend to take for granted, and delegate frivolous responsibilities just for the sake of getting-thing-done-fast. Employees may have doubt, as when is the end of multi-tasking career in their career pathway? Is it when you are at the top management? Being promoted to a manager, would lead to the end of multi-tasking element in career? Or you still have to clean dishes every day at a manager level, for the sake of so called multi-tasking?
Sunday, October 09, 2005
Prince: Smoking..Drinking.....
Drinking can be bad, and smoking can a grief in future. No wonder government is willing to spend million of dollars to educate the smokers about the seriousness of smoking, as well as the disease it will bring. However, it is paradoxical that the government still allow the cigarette company to run their operation as if their home, while, on the other hand increasing tax with a lame excuse to reduce the number of smokers in the country! Anyway, let’s forget about the cigarette company, but to focus on what prince got to say about his process of giving up so many things.
Prince has tried hard to give up smoking for the past 1 year, and it is a call for achievement while he is able to stop smoking at home. Prince smokes in a few occasions since last year, and certainly it takes time to get rid of one habit. He still remembers that he used to smoke in office, in the car, at home, clubbing and mamaking! He also realized that he has to make a big sacrifice if he were to cut it down straight, moreover he is working in PR line, and entertaining client is a need for him.
One and half year ago, prince used to start his day with one cigarette, and jumping into the car while driving to office, he will certainly light another one or two cigarettes! It already took three in the morning, and was then working in office, he will take another one or two before lunch and that makes it five cigarettes.
During lunch time, he will take another one or two, and in the tea break time another one or two, which total up of nine cigarettes. Times to go back, and as soon as he jumped into his car, he will light another one and another one cigarettes while stuck in the jam. He found it pleasing and enjoying! During dinner time, he will take another one or two (usually he takes two at dinner time, only god knows why!). That makes it a number of 13 cigarettes. At home when doing nothing, or doing his revision, he will certainly take a few more cigarettes, depending on the duration of his study. That is how prince makes it to one box per day previously!
Finally, prince decided to cut down, because one box of cigarette cost $6, and 30 boxes will cost you another $180, which means, an amount that almost able to save a family in starvation for a few months in Africa! Prince think deeply, and he feels more worth to put the money into investment link or saving, rather than smoking which create no good at all! Prince started his plan to cut down his habit…
Firstly, he stops smoking in his car, as he is doing it for the past one year, confining himself into a smaller and smaller environment of smoking. Now his car smells better compare to last time.
Secondly, he stops smoking in office! Even lunch and dinner! Meanwhile, he cut down his lunch appointment because he knows that if his contacts are mostly smokers.
Thirdly, he stops smoking at home, and his room certainly smells even better now. Prince has a good appetite for the past 2 weeks, and god knows why, because he is trying to find something to fill up his mouth. It is not about smoking now but his appetite is getting stronger, and he still remember from the last time he cut down smoking, he is gaining 1 to 2 kg weigh, however, he managed to control his weigh with optimum work out of his own.
Fourthly, He plans to cut down clubbing though he knows that his circles of friends are mostly clubber. The reason is because clubbing can lead to smoking (first hand and second hand!). Moreover, clubbing can be a waste of money and time unless once in a blue moon, or once in a few month perhaps, and only for special occasion!
Fifthly, is the most difficult for the moment, this is the last stage of his curing and certainly he want to make it an achievement. He manages to cut down the number of time going out mamaking similarly to clubbing.
Last but not least, prince wonder how he deviated from his normal living since a few years back, and in fact, he can drill into his own interest of sporting, reading and writing again, while, sipping coffee in coffee bean and enjoying his book, is a pleasure of life. Once in a while, sitting in wine house, tasting the fine wine is another way of life, together with cigar! Prince is missing his old time……
Prince has tried hard to give up smoking for the past 1 year, and it is a call for achievement while he is able to stop smoking at home. Prince smokes in a few occasions since last year, and certainly it takes time to get rid of one habit. He still remembers that he used to smoke in office, in the car, at home, clubbing and mamaking! He also realized that he has to make a big sacrifice if he were to cut it down straight, moreover he is working in PR line, and entertaining client is a need for him.
One and half year ago, prince used to start his day with one cigarette, and jumping into the car while driving to office, he will certainly light another one or two cigarettes! It already took three in the morning, and was then working in office, he will take another one or two before lunch and that makes it five cigarettes.
During lunch time, he will take another one or two, and in the tea break time another one or two, which total up of nine cigarettes. Times to go back, and as soon as he jumped into his car, he will light another one and another one cigarettes while stuck in the jam. He found it pleasing and enjoying! During dinner time, he will take another one or two (usually he takes two at dinner time, only god knows why!). That makes it a number of 13 cigarettes. At home when doing nothing, or doing his revision, he will certainly take a few more cigarettes, depending on the duration of his study. That is how prince makes it to one box per day previously!
Finally, prince decided to cut down, because one box of cigarette cost $6, and 30 boxes will cost you another $180, which means, an amount that almost able to save a family in starvation for a few months in Africa! Prince think deeply, and he feels more worth to put the money into investment link or saving, rather than smoking which create no good at all! Prince started his plan to cut down his habit…
Firstly, he stops smoking in his car, as he is doing it for the past one year, confining himself into a smaller and smaller environment of smoking. Now his car smells better compare to last time.
Secondly, he stops smoking in office! Even lunch and dinner! Meanwhile, he cut down his lunch appointment because he knows that if his contacts are mostly smokers.
Thirdly, he stops smoking at home, and his room certainly smells even better now. Prince has a good appetite for the past 2 weeks, and god knows why, because he is trying to find something to fill up his mouth. It is not about smoking now but his appetite is getting stronger, and he still remember from the last time he cut down smoking, he is gaining 1 to 2 kg weigh, however, he managed to control his weigh with optimum work out of his own.
Fourthly, He plans to cut down clubbing though he knows that his circles of friends are mostly clubber. The reason is because clubbing can lead to smoking (first hand and second hand!). Moreover, clubbing can be a waste of money and time unless once in a blue moon, or once in a few month perhaps, and only for special occasion!
Fifthly, is the most difficult for the moment, this is the last stage of his curing and certainly he want to make it an achievement. He manages to cut down the number of time going out mamaking similarly to clubbing.
Last but not least, prince wonder how he deviated from his normal living since a few years back, and in fact, he can drill into his own interest of sporting, reading and writing again, while, sipping coffee in coffee bean and enjoying his book, is a pleasure of life. Once in a while, sitting in wine house, tasting the fine wine is another way of life, together with cigar! Prince is missing his old time……
Babies...
Sapel is from Iraq, everyone seems to like him a lot because he is cute. We somehow trying to teach him some simply language so that he can communicate with us and his fellow peers. He tends to open his hand wide whenever i walked in because he knows i will carry him around.....
Prince
Babies....
Genie has always smiles to me, i assume she is welcoming me to walk into the room......one thing for sure, she likes me to carry her around... ha! but unfortunately, I can't do that all the time because I don't want her to get used to it later... she needs to learn to be independent and walks though...
Prince
Babies.....
Ivan, I still remember he cried for the first day, and his motehr has to stay with him for the whole day, and when his dad came, his mother somehow cried together with him...probably she can afford to see Ivan cried. But after the first day, to our surprise, he is an active boy, running around with shunning away from people....he is cute...
Prince
Babies....
Nicole is a bit moody, she tends to ignore me and other children when she feels sleepy, and she will throw tantrum, but she likes to see fish, that's how i persuade her each time...her sensitive period has just started, and she absorbed knowledge very fast.....
Prince
Babies...
Adam is one of hte most active boy in the room, he has always run around, I still remember the first time i walk into the room and i play with other children. He walked to me and said, "I don't like you", theni pat his head, asking him why you don't like me, He just kept saying " I dont like you". after a while, i think of myself, perhaps, i have been neglecting him, and next time i made sure i pay as much attention to him as compare to others, to my amaze, the second time i walked in, he told me , "I like you".....This is how wonderful kid is...
Prince
Babies....
The one on the right hand is Susan....she keeps calling me Uncle each time... i am sratching my head as if i am 50 year old...Uncle..hm....
Prince
Babies...
I have always love to see babies, especially, those in my kindergarten, i always treated them as my own baby so that they could receive the love as if from their own parents....This is Sasa, she always smiles when she sees me...she knows i am going to appraoch her each time i walk into the room... so nice...
Prince
Saturday, October 08, 2005
Prince:....
王子是一個有‘過去’的人﹐在他心中﹐成功是必要的。他從不容許失敗因為他知道﹐他背著很多人的期望而‘前途’以不是他一個人的了﹐而是他一家人的﹐和他的親朋戚友。他很希望以後可以運用他本身所學的﹐來實行他的願望﹐那就是﹐搞生意﹐賺大錢﹐然後幫助一些有需要的人。
王子是出身于‘雞’年﹐而雞是屬于鳳﹐所以他的行格一直以來都是這麼瀟灑﹐師父也一直向他觀書君子之風﹐之學。然而﹐他也是鳳﹐也就是鳳鸀﹐在等待長大的一天。他也是一條臥龍﹐躲在山洞裡﹐在等待飛翔的一天。
王子
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王子是出身于‘雞’年﹐而雞是屬于鳳﹐所以他的行格一直以來都是這麼瀟灑﹐師父也一直向他觀書君子之風﹐之學。然而﹐他也是鳳﹐也就是鳳鸀﹐在等待長大的一天。他也是一條臥龍﹐躲在山洞裡﹐在等待飛翔的一天。
王子
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Prince:Moral & Ethic...
師父曾經說過﹐這世界上﹐論武功﹐就一山還比一山高﹐如果是論武德﹐那天下第一不是不可能的﹗哪是因為﹐武德是講就本身的修養和道德觀念﹐這不是每一個人都做到﹗
談到道德觀念﹐也不一定是盲目的跟隨傳統的信念才是對的。有時﹐是需要跟隨環境﹐和時間一起的轉變﹐要不然﹐就會被淘汰﹗
師父也曾經說過﹐以前有很多王帝﹐是因為女人而毀了江山﹐所以他要我們小心女人﹐他這番話﹐真的是影響了王子幾年的時間﹐自到現在﹐他才明白﹐為何前人會如此認為女人是媧水。那是因為愛情讓人陶醉﹐而也讓人迷失自我﹐但是﹐理智可決覺這問題。哪什麼是理智呢﹐你就要慢慢的思考了﹗
王子
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談到道德觀念﹐也不一定是盲目的跟隨傳統的信念才是對的。有時﹐是需要跟隨環境﹐和時間一起的轉變﹐要不然﹐就會被淘汰﹗
師父也曾經說過﹐以前有很多王帝﹐是因為女人而毀了江山﹐所以他要我們小心女人﹐他這番話﹐真的是影響了王子幾年的時間﹐自到現在﹐他才明白﹐為何前人會如此認為女人是媧水。那是因為愛情讓人陶醉﹐而也讓人迷失自我﹐但是﹐理智可決覺這問題。哪什麼是理智呢﹐你就要慢慢的思考了﹗
王子
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Prince: Working Non-Stop..
Prince has been working non-stop for the past few weeks, though, no rest, but he is still as energetic as usual with a diminish spirit. He soon, found himself, getting addicted to his work, even though he physically feels tired, but mentally he wants to continue. This can be bad, for his health, and social circle.
Prince:........
Have you ever been in a situation whereby you seem to know a lot about something, and able to tell and teach other of what they should be doing? Yes, the occurrence does not arise without fact. It is because you have got to know a lot about it, that you have been through it. This can be explaining with human development stages, in term of their maturity of thinking. Secondly, is the number of incident you been through within the period of your living as compare to others. The latter always creates an impact to the first one. Incident expedite your maturity of thinking, if you learn, of course, it will even teach you about analyzing and solving a problem. It is a life cinema where you carry your practical life, solving practical problem with your practical solution.
Talking about giving up smoking is something prince has planned over the year with much consideration, and fact was analyzed. Sometimes, it is not about doing something with temporarily emotion but must also use brain to think and execute with one clear direction. Prince has mention about initial-D, which one does not compare with other but to do what one thinks one likes. Prince has never compare with other as to when he can give up smoking, and never talk about giving it out so confidently by fixing a deadlock on his intention. It can be an excuse if it was misuse somehow, but for prince, he knows what misuse is.
Talking about giving up smoking is something prince has planned over the year with much consideration, and fact was analyzed. Sometimes, it is not about doing something with temporarily emotion but must also use brain to think and execute with one clear direction. Prince has mention about initial-D, which one does not compare with other but to do what one thinks one likes. Prince has never compare with other as to when he can give up smoking, and never talk about giving it out so confidently by fixing a deadlock on his intention. It can be an excuse if it was misuse somehow, but for prince, he knows what misuse is.
Prince: Again...Life is a Big Molecules...
Life is like a big molecule, formed by many small molecules. Each molecule represents a different facet of your life, such as your friendship, family, career and interest. All these molecules come together to form a life, and if each molecules are properly balanced, can achieve an ideal lifestyle. Similarly, all the molecules come together to form a life, and all the friendship circles as a small molecules which comes together to form a big friendship molecule.
However, if one of the molecules is growing uncontrollable, then it will affect the other molecules from achieving the balance. The simplest example is our friendship circle. Undoubtedly, human being needs friends, but when friendships circle is enlarging over time, it shows that you are having more and more circle of friends, and your friend could be from different backgrounds, and different character. When it grows over time in an uncontrollable behavior, it distorts the balancing effect, and certainly, talking about a normal and healthy lifestyle will be difficult to achieve.
For example, a couple will certainly face difficulty when they would like to settle down. They tend to receive invitation from different circles of friends, and it will grow unintentionally annoying with a busy schedule!
Sibling, relatives, parents, grandparents and others > Family >
Different circles of friends > Friendship circles >
Diploma, Degree, MBA, PhD & others > Academic > ----------------Life
Football, reading, tennis and others > Interest >
Colleague, superior, employer, suppliers and others > Career >
However, if one of the molecules is growing uncontrollable, then it will affect the other molecules from achieving the balance. The simplest example is our friendship circle. Undoubtedly, human being needs friends, but when friendships circle is enlarging over time, it shows that you are having more and more circle of friends, and your friend could be from different backgrounds, and different character. When it grows over time in an uncontrollable behavior, it distorts the balancing effect, and certainly, talking about a normal and healthy lifestyle will be difficult to achieve.
For example, a couple will certainly face difficulty when they would like to settle down. They tend to receive invitation from different circles of friends, and it will grow unintentionally annoying with a busy schedule!
Sibling, relatives, parents, grandparents and others > Family >
Different circles of friends > Friendship circles >
Diploma, Degree, MBA, PhD & others > Academic > ----------------Life
Football, reading, tennis and others > Interest >
Colleague, superior, employer, suppliers and others > Career >
Friday, October 07, 2005
Prince: Princess..Misses...
It is hard to let go sometime even though prince is in the mid of preparing for exam. He misses princess, and of course, it is because it has been a week not seeing her. He has so much to tell her from the bottom of his heart, but he afraid sometime it may be hurtful for certain topic. Prince can read so much, but he is trying to impart value in a slow pace, corrected her to the right path of thinking as he is planning for future sake. Relationship is something you will miss when you don’t have it, but you intend to take for granted when you have it, and prince will not allow this to happen because he knows, he loves princess and princess loves him…till then….
Prince: Good reason for being...
Forwarded by a friend of Prince....
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING A HONGKIE
1. We are Hongkies not Chinese
2. We can talk and shout and nobody gives a damn
3. Jackie Chan is our icon
4. We can live in 5' x 5' cubicle and call it luxury apartment
5. Our children can speak Cantonese at a young age
6. We get to blame everything on Feng Shui or Tung Chee Hwa or the
mainlanders
7. No one can threaten Hong Kong, except the few expat Cathay Pilots
8. Gambling is more interesting than sex
9. We produce a lot of Ms. Hong Kong to the enjoyment of the rich and
famous.
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING SINGAPOREANS
1. We are not Chinese
2. Everyone hates us except ourselves
3. Famous for Orchard Road
4. We have our own island
5. Proud of our world class Airport, world class MRT, world class
airline,world class telco......
6. We know how to spell 'Salvatore Ferragamo'
7. We know how to enjoy vacation in M'sia - keep a few RM50 notes before you
enter the highway: can throw anything, anytime,anywhere and always wash our
cars at the resort.
8. The men are always concerned, first question to ask a girl "Do u have
CPF?"
9. Never fear getting lost in our country - S$20 taxi ride will get u into
the sea.
10. We'll never hv to worry about finding Mr or Ms right coz Govt will find
one for us.
11. 1 Sing = 2.2 ringgit nyeh-nyeh-nyeh..
12. It's OK to be Kiasu. It's part of our culture.
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING INDONESIAN
1. We are not Australian
2. We live in the biggest country in South East Asia
3. No pirates in Indonesia water if u exclude the Navy and Coast guards.
4. Everything is cheap, even our salaries
5. We can blame everything on Suharto or Habibie or Gus Dur or Megawati
or...
6. Only in Indonesia can u get involved in real demonstrations daily for
different causes and see no results.
7. Our Rupiah is like a Yo Yo, it can go up and down just bcoz IMF say so...
8. We burn everything and nobody gives a damn
9. We dont need firefighters as our neighbours will provide...
GOOD REASONS BEING A MALAYSIAN
1. World tallest Building, Best F1 circuit, biggest pewter mug, highest
standard of university admission... coz Malaysia Boleh
2. we can be driving, picking our nose, cursing another driver, talking on
the handphone, adjusting radio and bribing the cop at the same time.
3. Divorce by sending SMS
4. Traffic summon can be settled on the spot with the cop.
5. Teh Tarek & Roti Canai is the favourite supper
6. We can save a lot of electricity bcoz our TV shows r so crappy
7. We can blame everything on the haze or George Soros or Keadilan or.....
8. Resourceful City Council, one person to drive the van, one to carry the
ladder, one to change a street bulb and three others watching.
9. We make 2 lane trunk roads into 3 lane highway and back to 2 lane when
cops are sighted.
10. There's always something for the PSD to do. They dig, resurface, dig and
resurface........
11. All main roads are designated highway coz it gives the govt a reason to
collect toll.
12. Our Govt can never be wrong. GOOD EH ???
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING A HONGKIE
1. We are Hongkies not Chinese
2. We can talk and shout and nobody gives a damn
3. Jackie Chan is our icon
4. We can live in 5' x 5' cubicle and call it luxury apartment
5. Our children can speak Cantonese at a young age
6. We get to blame everything on Feng Shui or Tung Chee Hwa or the
mainlanders
7. No one can threaten Hong Kong, except the few expat Cathay Pilots
8. Gambling is more interesting than sex
9. We produce a lot of Ms. Hong Kong to the enjoyment of the rich and
famous.
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING SINGAPOREANS
1. We are not Chinese
2. Everyone hates us except ourselves
3. Famous for Orchard Road
4. We have our own island
5. Proud of our world class Airport, world class MRT, world class
airline,world class telco......
6. We know how to spell 'Salvatore Ferragamo'
7. We know how to enjoy vacation in M'sia - keep a few RM50 notes before you
enter the highway: can throw anything, anytime,anywhere and always wash our
cars at the resort.
8. The men are always concerned, first question to ask a girl "Do u have
CPF?"
9. Never fear getting lost in our country - S$20 taxi ride will get u into
the sea.
10. We'll never hv to worry about finding Mr or Ms right coz Govt will find
one for us.
11. 1 Sing = 2.2 ringgit nyeh-nyeh-nyeh..
12. It's OK to be Kiasu. It's part of our culture.
GOOD REASONS FOR BEING INDONESIAN
1. We are not Australian
2. We live in the biggest country in South East Asia
3. No pirates in Indonesia water if u exclude the Navy and Coast guards.
4. Everything is cheap, even our salaries
5. We can blame everything on Suharto or Habibie or Gus Dur or Megawati
or...
6. Only in Indonesia can u get involved in real demonstrations daily for
different causes and see no results.
7. Our Rupiah is like a Yo Yo, it can go up and down just bcoz IMF say so...
8. We burn everything and nobody gives a damn
9. We dont need firefighters as our neighbours will provide...
GOOD REASONS BEING A MALAYSIAN
1. World tallest Building, Best F1 circuit, biggest pewter mug, highest
standard of university admission... coz Malaysia Boleh
2. we can be driving, picking our nose, cursing another driver, talking on
the handphone, adjusting radio and bribing the cop at the same time.
3. Divorce by sending SMS
4. Traffic summon can be settled on the spot with the cop.
5. Teh Tarek & Roti Canai is the favourite supper
6. We can save a lot of electricity bcoz our TV shows r so crappy
7. We can blame everything on the haze or George Soros or Keadilan or.....
8. Resourceful City Council, one person to drive the van, one to carry the
ladder, one to change a street bulb and three others watching.
9. We make 2 lane trunk roads into 3 lane highway and back to 2 lane when
cops are sighted.
10. There's always something for the PSD to do. They dig, resurface, dig and
resurface........
11. All main roads are designated highway coz it gives the govt a reason to
collect toll.
12. Our Govt can never be wrong. GOOD EH ???
Prince: Reading...
Prince likes to read, and has cultivated the reading habit since 13 years old, and since then, the collection of book in the book shelves are increasing in number. Only if you enjoy reading, you will find reading a great pleasure, because it allows you to open your mind, and thought especially. Prince is currently reading a book about family and babies, and another book about woman, namely, ‘When woman love too much’. He will try to share with you when time goes on, trying to put in up the blog so that each and every one of you would learn something….
Thursday, October 06, 2005
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
Yeap, this is me and my lovely wifey... and Lilian on the left...
Prince
Prince: Office Politic starts with Lies...
Office politic occurs when one party tells lies to the others, and that the lies blew out. However, the truth only comes around certain people, and those who do not know about the truth, will start to form another political party. This is about office politic!
Prince has been through a lot, and thought that staying in kindergarten can help him to lead a better life with better future, but it seems to him that the world is just the same. Somehow, leadership which not in role model can not convince the crowd and it will eventually split the team into two.
How can a person, tell lies, covering up his conscience, and do not feel guilty at all. Furthermore, they can lead the situation into believing the lies are the truth. They turn a victim into predator, while them, as predator into victim. The world is always living with politic, but office politic is what prince doesn’t want to live in…
Prince has been through a lot, and thought that staying in kindergarten can help him to lead a better life with better future, but it seems to him that the world is just the same. Somehow, leadership which not in role model can not convince the crowd and it will eventually split the team into two.
How can a person, tell lies, covering up his conscience, and do not feel guilty at all. Furthermore, they can lead the situation into believing the lies are the truth. They turn a victim into predator, while them, as predator into victim. The world is always living with politic, but office politic is what prince doesn’t want to live in…
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
THESE was the CULPRIT for the COCKTAIL.....oh....catch the thief....
Prince
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
I am not sure what they are playing but by that time we left oledi..
Prince
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
Sam was quite enjoying himself that night with all body guard around...
Prince
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
This is what they drink that night, so called cocktail, made by Mr. Big Brother..making everyone drunk..ha!
Prince
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
Hm....our lovely Kim Lian (from left), Skeptical Siew Ci, So-called Photgenic Fion and.....ok,, can't remember the last one..
Prince
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
Simon, Lilian &...not so sure about his name...but quite remember he is a good drinker..
Prince
Prince: Initial-D...
Prince still remember initial-D, the father told his son when showing him the hidden skills of the final modified car. He said, ‘son, don’t feel like competing with other, but do it as you like’. This statement has enlightened me a lot. It is important to achieve your dream as you like but not competing with others, because when you compete, you tend to compare. For example, you are admiring people having a CLK, and you will set your dream to own one in future. You are then comparing and competing, but if you arrive at such a goal without looking or judging at other people, then you are doing it for your own. When you drill into the comparison habit, you tend to foster strong self-esteem, and self-confidence, stage by stage until it becomes brag. When prince looks back on his phase of development, he thinks and asked, ‘am I doing it for myself? Or merely to compete and compare with others? Or merely to create a platform of comparison for others to compare with me?’ He soon found out that he does it for his own sake, merely, for interest, and for responsibility to achieve a better life, not because he seems what other have it, and he dreams to have it.
Wednesday, October 05, 2005
Barbecue in Sim's Sweet Home...
Sim and Jothan...they were having babrbecue in Simmy's house....
Prince
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
Prince: Autistic Child...
Woi Siang is an autistic child, studying in kindergarten. His mother came late today, and has called office not to make him wait until she arrived. However, for a child like him, has soon adapted to the timing of pick up, he took his bag and stood at the door waiting, while teacher was trying to bring him in, and he soon cried out loud.
Prince walked near him, and put a hand behind his back, pat him softly, and whispered in his ear, ‘Your mummy will arrive soon, don’t worry yea, let’s come in now’, prince was then move softly forward, with two hand wide open to hug him, amazingly, he allowed prince to take further action.
Prince brought him in, and sat down on the chair. Teacher would like to bring him in to wait in class so that they can watch him closely. However, he insisted to stay outside, and again, cried out loud, prince, again walked in and whispered to his ear while slowly taking off his bag and carried him up, then walked into the classroom.
Sometimes, you just need to know what the child need at that particular moment. Handling normal children are easier than handling an autistic child. Autistic child always has the tendency to speak to their own, and they won’t know what you are talking about. Prince opened his palm in front of his face, near of course, and asked him ’what is it’, by pointing to the ring. He answered, but what the child expressed is vaguely understood. You must always understand that children do not like excessive movement, or persuasion, but feeling of calm and soft movement will certainly win their heart.
Prince walked near him, and put a hand behind his back, pat him softly, and whispered in his ear, ‘Your mummy will arrive soon, don’t worry yea, let’s come in now’, prince was then move softly forward, with two hand wide open to hug him, amazingly, he allowed prince to take further action.
Prince brought him in, and sat down on the chair. Teacher would like to bring him in to wait in class so that they can watch him closely. However, he insisted to stay outside, and again, cried out loud, prince, again walked in and whispered to his ear while slowly taking off his bag and carried him up, then walked into the classroom.
Sometimes, you just need to know what the child need at that particular moment. Handling normal children are easier than handling an autistic child. Autistic child always has the tendency to speak to their own, and they won’t know what you are talking about. Prince opened his palm in front of his face, near of course, and asked him ’what is it’, by pointing to the ring. He answered, but what the child expressed is vaguely understood. You must always understand that children do not like excessive movement, or persuasion, but feeling of calm and soft movement will certainly win their heart.
Monday, October 03, 2005
Prince: Sickness..
The prince is having sore throat, with one side swollen, and can’t even eat properly. Hopefully he will get will soon enough for any challenge in life. Talking about sick, you may obtain vary definition of the word sick from different people from time to time, because human is vulnerable to many different kind of diseases. However, one must always remember that no matter what has occurred in your life, or you may have struck with a deadly disease. Your life still has to go on because many are looking up on you! That’s prince’s way….
Prince: The Phases...
Judging at Mr. Big Brother phase of development, prince thought of putting in one of his very own phase with in congruent to what he thinks is right and necessary.
1st Phase: The Foundation must be strong!
1. Getting a Degree (done)
2. Getting a MBA (in progress)
3. Getting a Phd (yet to be confirmed)
4. Supporting Family Housing Loan (Partially among siblings!)
2nd Phase: The Life has just begun! Family must be Union!
1. Getting Married (of course, with princess)
2. Getting an Apartment (whoelse to stay with, if not princess)
3. Getting a Car
4. Getting another Phd (purely an interest in Child / Education Psychology!)
5. Taking up Family Expenses (Partially among siblings!)
3rd Phase: Time for war, and salvation!
1. Thinking further in Career
2. Thinking of a Business
3. Thinking of Consultancy
4. Thinking of Saving
5. Thinking of helping those in need!
4th Phase: The war ended, peace soon arrives, and its time to rest!
1. Thinking of Retirement with Princess together
2. Thinking of spending time with Princess
3. Thinking of Buying Piece of Land & build a Prince & Princess Mansion
4. Thinking of Around the World with Princess, and Many MORE….
1st Phase: The Foundation must be strong!
1. Getting a Degree (done)
2. Getting a MBA (in progress)
3. Getting a Phd (yet to be confirmed)
4. Supporting Family Housing Loan (Partially among siblings!)
2nd Phase: The Life has just begun! Family must be Union!
1. Getting Married (of course, with princess)
2. Getting an Apartment (whoelse to stay with, if not princess)
3. Getting a Car
4. Getting another Phd (purely an interest in Child / Education Psychology!)
5. Taking up Family Expenses (Partially among siblings!)
3rd Phase: Time for war, and salvation!
1. Thinking further in Career
2. Thinking of a Business
3. Thinking of Consultancy
4. Thinking of Saving
5. Thinking of helping those in need!
4th Phase: The war ended, peace soon arrives, and its time to rest!
1. Thinking of Retirement with Princess together
2. Thinking of spending time with Princess
3. Thinking of Buying Piece of Land & build a Prince & Princess Mansion
4. Thinking of Around the World with Princess, and Many MORE….
Prince: Tickling...
Do you tickle your baby / child when they cry, sad or disappointed? If you do, then you are still able to refrain yourself from doing it.
Apparently, most Asian parent does that for one reason, ‘the faster way to see a smile on their child’s face!’ If you really love your baby / child, then please do not ever tickled you baby to smile or laugh, when he is amidst of crying for certain reason, because looking deep into it, they are not just crying for what you see on the surface, for example, when you thought they cry for milk, in fact, they don’t cry for milk, but they cry for hunger, and which in turn throwing expectation to their mother, who they trusted and find reliable to give them milk.
Similarly, when they cry in kindergarten and feel strongly to attach or cling up to you, it is not because they want to be a nuisance to you or other, neither they don’t want to study nor don’t like kindergarten, it is because they do not feel secure without you at their side. Tickled them to laugh will only make them wonder, and putting a big question mark on their head
When the situation lingers on, the ties between parent and the children will break away, because they find no synchronize in communication. You tickled them to laugh when they are asking for sense of secure, you tickled them to laugh when they are asking for reliable source for breast feeding, you tickled them to laugh when they simply do not want interference in they play and so on, the continuous break down in understanding will lead to a less perfect relationship in future, most importantly, the personality of the child will be affected in one way or another.
Apparently, most Asian parent does that for one reason, ‘the faster way to see a smile on their child’s face!’ If you really love your baby / child, then please do not ever tickled you baby to smile or laugh, when he is amidst of crying for certain reason, because looking deep into it, they are not just crying for what you see on the surface, for example, when you thought they cry for milk, in fact, they don’t cry for milk, but they cry for hunger, and which in turn throwing expectation to their mother, who they trusted and find reliable to give them milk.
Similarly, when they cry in kindergarten and feel strongly to attach or cling up to you, it is not because they want to be a nuisance to you or other, neither they don’t want to study nor don’t like kindergarten, it is because they do not feel secure without you at their side. Tickled them to laugh will only make them wonder, and putting a big question mark on their head
When the situation lingers on, the ties between parent and the children will break away, because they find no synchronize in communication. You tickled them to laugh when they are asking for sense of secure, you tickled them to laugh when they are asking for reliable source for breast feeding, you tickled them to laugh when they simply do not want interference in they play and so on, the continuous break down in understanding will lead to a less perfect relationship in future, most importantly, the personality of the child will be affected in one way or another.
Sunday, October 02, 2005
Prince:How to Stop a Child from Biting?
Children bite because they feel insecure, or that they may have been through a traumatic experience, and biting can be a basic mode of self-preservation. However, if the children are not properly taught that ‘bite can hurts’, it will, sooner or later developed in to a habit which will be difficult to withhold. Children bite for many reasons; it can be explained in term of children stage of development and the emotional stage development of it.
-5 month – 7 month-
- Discomfort due to teething, sometimes they bite caregivers or their mother during breast feeding.
- They learn not to bite by seeing and hearing the reaction of the person they have bitten
-8 month – 14 month-
- They bite when they are excited, it can be cure with a firm “NO”
-15 month – 36 months-
- They bite when they are frustrated, and want power to control, and usually, they will stop biting as they learn that biting is not acceptable behavior.
-After age 3-
- They bite because they feel powerless or scared or going to be hurt by others.
- They have problem of expressing feelings or self-control
(Quoted from: WebMD (2005), Why do children bite?[Online] available: http://my.webmd.com/hw/raising_a_family/hw43936.asp?src=Inktomi&condition=healthwise)
Emotional Development Stage of Biting
Experimental Biting
- Usually, this is done by infant or toddlers who places everything in their mouth, and sometimes bite in the process.
- This is can be solved by telling them biting is hurts
Frustration Biting
- When they do not know how to play cooperatively, and respond to demand of other by hitting and biting
Powerless Biting
- They bite to gain power of control
Stressful Biting
- When a child is upset, distress, or under pain.
- They couldn’t express their feeling, and tend to use biting as one of the way of expression.
(Quoted from: Children's Hospital and Health System (2005), Why Young Children Bite [Online] Available: http://www.chw.org/display/PPF/DocID/3106/router.asp)
What you can do?
In most situations, children bite because they feel powerless, and when they do not know how to express their demand, or expression of rejection. Thus, a Conducive Environment will certainly be able to help, for example, you can provide more toys so that there is less fighting over the toys or buy more than one of popular toys so very young children will not have to wait long to play with them (Todd, 2005).
Meanwhile, you can separate the children into a few groups, with 2 to 3 (or less) in a group, so that they do not need to fight and wait for others for toys. Of course, you need to pay close attention to the particular child who tends to exert biting habits often, especially in situations where you think biting is likely to occur.
If the child does bite, immediately remove the child from the others. (Do this after you have checked to see that the child who was bitten is okay!) Briefly explain that biting hurts others and will not be allowed. If you consistently remove the child when he bites, he will learn that he must stop biting if he wants to play with others.
As part of reinforcement in curing the habit, compliment can sometimes help to expedite the process of changing, for example, compliment the child when he is playing well with others. This will help the child realize that you value this kind of behavior, and it will also help build the child's self-esteem (Todd, 2005). You can encourage giving sticker to the biting child as a reward for not biting for one day or two days.
Since the children do not know the proper way to express their feeling, or they may not be at the level to express their personal feeling, thus, you patient is very much needed, one of the very effective method to reduce the biting incident, is to teach the child to say "no" if another child is doing something he doesn't like (Todd, 2005). When they bite, you must explain to the biter by pointing at the pint-sized biters, that bite is hurtful, at the same time teaches the bite to say ‘No’, or ‘Move’. The following is to teach the child to comfort the victim; the process is a good way to teach nurturing behavior (Oesterreich, 1996).
You need to continuously ensure that he is safe and redirecting him / her when he tenses up. Sometimes they tend to cry out loud, or throwing a tantrum, this can be a useful way for them to express their feeling without harming anyone, and must be encourage.
Meanwhile, you can use time-out whereby the biter goes to a corner and can not play with others and receives no attention. Generally, a child is given one minute of time-out for each year of age, for example, 5 year old get five minutes of time out (PHR, 2005).
One school of thought, suggested that after the child bites, tries to put something unpleasant in the child’s mouth to deter biting. Some parent uses spicy substances (PHR, 2005), but you may use something bitter, such as balsam peer or others which appears no harm to the child, and must ensure the child has no allergic to the particular substances.
References:
Todd, C.M. (2005), When Children Bite [Online] Available: http://www.nncc.org/Guidance/dc16_children.bite.html
PHR (2005), When Children Bite: How to stop a child from biting [Online] Available: http://www.pkids.org/healthissues.htm
Oesterreich, L (1996), Understanding Children; Biting [Online] Available: http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1529A.pdf
-5 month – 7 month-
- Discomfort due to teething, sometimes they bite caregivers or their mother during breast feeding.
- They learn not to bite by seeing and hearing the reaction of the person they have bitten
-8 month – 14 month-
- They bite when they are excited, it can be cure with a firm “NO”
-15 month – 36 months-
- They bite when they are frustrated, and want power to control, and usually, they will stop biting as they learn that biting is not acceptable behavior.
-After age 3-
- They bite because they feel powerless or scared or going to be hurt by others.
- They have problem of expressing feelings or self-control
(Quoted from: WebMD (2005), Why do children bite?[Online] available: http://my.webmd.com/hw/raising_a_family/hw43936.asp?src=Inktomi&condition=healthwise)
Emotional Development Stage of Biting
Experimental Biting
- Usually, this is done by infant or toddlers who places everything in their mouth, and sometimes bite in the process.
- This is can be solved by telling them biting is hurts
Frustration Biting
- When they do not know how to play cooperatively, and respond to demand of other by hitting and biting
Powerless Biting
- They bite to gain power of control
Stressful Biting
- When a child is upset, distress, or under pain.
- They couldn’t express their feeling, and tend to use biting as one of the way of expression.
(Quoted from: Children's Hospital and Health System (2005), Why Young Children Bite [Online] Available: http://www.chw.org/display/PPF/DocID/3106/router.asp)
What you can do?
In most situations, children bite because they feel powerless, and when they do not know how to express their demand, or expression of rejection. Thus, a Conducive Environment will certainly be able to help, for example, you can provide more toys so that there is less fighting over the toys or buy more than one of popular toys so very young children will not have to wait long to play with them (Todd, 2005).
Meanwhile, you can separate the children into a few groups, with 2 to 3 (or less) in a group, so that they do not need to fight and wait for others for toys. Of course, you need to pay close attention to the particular child who tends to exert biting habits often, especially in situations where you think biting is likely to occur.
If the child does bite, immediately remove the child from the others. (Do this after you have checked to see that the child who was bitten is okay!) Briefly explain that biting hurts others and will not be allowed. If you consistently remove the child when he bites, he will learn that he must stop biting if he wants to play with others.
As part of reinforcement in curing the habit, compliment can sometimes help to expedite the process of changing, for example, compliment the child when he is playing well with others. This will help the child realize that you value this kind of behavior, and it will also help build the child's self-esteem (Todd, 2005). You can encourage giving sticker to the biting child as a reward for not biting for one day or two days.
Since the children do not know the proper way to express their feeling, or they may not be at the level to express their personal feeling, thus, you patient is very much needed, one of the very effective method to reduce the biting incident, is to teach the child to say "no" if another child is doing something he doesn't like (Todd, 2005). When they bite, you must explain to the biter by pointing at the pint-sized biters, that bite is hurtful, at the same time teaches the bite to say ‘No’, or ‘Move’. The following is to teach the child to comfort the victim; the process is a good way to teach nurturing behavior (Oesterreich, 1996).
You need to continuously ensure that he is safe and redirecting him / her when he tenses up. Sometimes they tend to cry out loud, or throwing a tantrum, this can be a useful way for them to express their feeling without harming anyone, and must be encourage.
Meanwhile, you can use time-out whereby the biter goes to a corner and can not play with others and receives no attention. Generally, a child is given one minute of time-out for each year of age, for example, 5 year old get five minutes of time out (PHR, 2005).
One school of thought, suggested that after the child bites, tries to put something unpleasant in the child’s mouth to deter biting. Some parent uses spicy substances (PHR, 2005), but you may use something bitter, such as balsam peer or others which appears no harm to the child, and must ensure the child has no allergic to the particular substances.
References:
Todd, C.M. (2005), When Children Bite [Online] Available: http://www.nncc.org/Guidance/dc16_children.bite.html
PHR (2005), When Children Bite: How to stop a child from biting [Online] Available: http://www.pkids.org/healthissues.htm
Oesterreich, L (1996), Understanding Children; Biting [Online] Available: http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1529A.pdf
Prince: Baby + Curiosity + Freedom + Person
When baby is playing with its toy, he expects no interference from adults, because they are focusing on what they find to be interesting. At this stage, their right of learning should not be deprived by your ignorant and over whelming caring and understanding. For example, if the baby is playing with short plastic rulers, that particular ruler has caught his attention that he must hold-up to it. He picks it up, put it in his mouth, and takes it out, then drop to throw it away and pick it up again…the series of events are a result of his curiosity during this period, and at the end he drops it and looking at it. You are then try to pick it up for him, and put it in his hand, he grabs it again and drop it, this time, he is doing it on purpose. The reason is because he has found something more interesting than the ruler. Asian parents sometimes deprive their right to learn, and interferes their learning process due to overwhelming of care and understanding; moreover, they are lazy because of the dirtiness.
To be able to hold the fundamental wisdom about baby, you must be able to see a baby as a person, not as friends or anyone on earth because in person is the most profound element in development stage. Even if they have grown up, this idealism will remain as it is. The reason is because when a person sees you as a person, they know you have feeling, and basically your five senses make you a human, and construct you with other elements such as love, thinking, and many more. When you see a baby or a child as your friends, then you probably bound by your mindset of what friendship are, and of course, you would wish to treat him as a child (as you have done with it) but your brain will tell you unconsciously that leads you to place your care and understanding in a child-taker perspective. By seeing baby as a person, is more toward a give and take, where you must understand that the babies will eventually see you as a person. What has showed that baby sees you as a person; it is when baby is crying for milk, when baby is making a nuisance to you or when a baby is beating you. During this period of time, a proper set of value must impart to him for example, to educate him how to discern the real and not real. Mother is playing the disillusion role; this was mention in a book read by prince last night, mother must try to educate their child what is real and not real.
To be able to hold the fundamental wisdom about baby, you must be able to see a baby as a person, not as friends or anyone on earth because in person is the most profound element in development stage. Even if they have grown up, this idealism will remain as it is. The reason is because when a person sees you as a person, they know you have feeling, and basically your five senses make you a human, and construct you with other elements such as love, thinking, and many more. When you see a baby or a child as your friends, then you probably bound by your mindset of what friendship are, and of course, you would wish to treat him as a child (as you have done with it) but your brain will tell you unconsciously that leads you to place your care and understanding in a child-taker perspective. By seeing baby as a person, is more toward a give and take, where you must understand that the babies will eventually see you as a person. What has showed that baby sees you as a person; it is when baby is crying for milk, when baby is making a nuisance to you or when a baby is beating you. During this period of time, a proper set of value must impart to him for example, to educate him how to discern the real and not real. Mother is playing the disillusion role; this was mention in a book read by prince last night, mother must try to educate their child what is real and not real.
Prince: Baby cries...
When a baby cries, the baby is putting a hope / expectation on you, and that you have to fulfill their expectation. Once they stop crying the hope is gone, and you will never be able to gain it back again. That is human relationship with their baby, but if it is not properly nurture, the baby will grow up without knowing that, expectation needs action to fulfill, it leads to our current problem in human behavior. During infancy, human certainly can not expect their baby to fulfill their own needs, and that they can only cry to signal you about their needs. As a parent, will have to perform their responsibility to take full care of their needs and expectation, however, when times go on, parent tends to fall into the routine phenomenon of what they do, and they thought this is what they suppose to do, ignoring the fact that it leads to another problem in future.
Saturday, October 01, 2005
Prince: Wine-Ing...
Prince and princess were having wine in month kiara Le Deli, though, the fact that prince can’t really drink much, but what he used to dream of is to have a glass of wine at night while reading his favorite book under his own roof! However, the message may have been misinterpreted and almost causes disaster at night…
Prince: Thought...
Somehow, prince tries to remember how many event he actually organized before,and that, he gained so much experience, and falls in love with event organizing. The achievement is not about the outcome of the event, but what has inspired prince, is the team work, the process of each committees working together with joke and laugh. It brings a totally new meaning to event organizing. For example, the past lantern festival, working with all teachers are fun, they chat and shared with each others, and they have fun and joke with each others while doing their job right, that's the "feel" you won't find in any others office environment...
1999 - Fundraising Activity (Food Fair)
2000 – 1st Old Michaelian Gathering Ball Night 2000
2001- 2nd Old Michealian 3 in 1 Charity Annual Ball
2001 – Charity Carnival - Trinity Fundraising
2002 – Leo Charity Musical Night 2002 – “A token today, a future tomorrow!”
2003 - 3rd Old Michaelian Charity Annual Ball
2004 - 4th Old Michaelian Charity Ball Night 2004
2004 – Wheel Chair Marathon 2004
2004 – Restoration Project
2004 – Personal Grooming & Job Placement for Disabled
1999 - Fundraising Activity (Food Fair)
2000 – 1st Old Michaelian Gathering Ball Night 2000
2001- 2nd Old Michealian 3 in 1 Charity Annual Ball
2001 – Charity Carnival - Trinity Fundraising
2002 – Leo Charity Musical Night 2002 – “A token today, a future tomorrow!”
2003 - 3rd Old Michaelian Charity Annual Ball
2004 - 4th Old Michaelian Charity Ball Night 2004
2004 – Wheel Chair Marathon 2004
2004 – Restoration Project
2004 – Personal Grooming & Job Placement for Disabled
Prince: Babies...
The babies classes have finally move in to kindergarten, at last, family reunion, and prince has got a few more accompanies. Initially, the kindergarten only has 3 years old above, and the other branch is handling those below 3 years old, but after restructuring, they have finally move all under one roof.
It is now even happier for prince to be able to play with those babies, they look so innocent and cute, and furthermore, observing and studying their development stage are certainly, a privileged wisdom for human being. Asking yourself, that how many opportunities you have in life to look after, observe, study and get hand on experience in nurturing baby in a proper way (proper way means after careful study and find the best method in early childhood education! certainly not in the generation recipe so called parenting!).
When think twice, human being doesn’t really have much opportunity in baby, especially at this 21st century when couple is only expecting to have only one or two, thus the maximum that they are willing to go for is perhaps 3? But working in kindergarten, prince has the opportunity to mingle with more than 20 babies at one time, and each baby is born with different character, with certain behavioral tendency.
Getting along with babies can train your passion, and patience. It teaches you how to use love and care to nurture your baby, and it tells you when you should set rules, to introduce the reality of life to them. It is a total new experience as compare to conventional nurturing method which involves scolding, reprimanding or beating; it may meet your expectation for that particular moment when they quiet down but leading to a serious psychological impact on the babies.
Human, asked yourself how much you know about children now, and how much did you read about book on baby, children and human before you are able to tell other that you know your children. Parent sometimes living in their own shadow, and can’t walk out of the shadow to see the different world of nurturing that is the reason why parenting experience / recipe carries from generation to generation.
Prince also learns something yesterday; do you know that if you know about children behavior, then you will be able to know about adult behavior? This is because each human being has a child residing in their unconscious mind, playing around in their psychology stage.
It is now even happier for prince to be able to play with those babies, they look so innocent and cute, and furthermore, observing and studying their development stage are certainly, a privileged wisdom for human being. Asking yourself, that how many opportunities you have in life to look after, observe, study and get hand on experience in nurturing baby in a proper way (proper way means after careful study and find the best method in early childhood education! certainly not in the generation recipe so called parenting!).
When think twice, human being doesn’t really have much opportunity in baby, especially at this 21st century when couple is only expecting to have only one or two, thus the maximum that they are willing to go for is perhaps 3? But working in kindergarten, prince has the opportunity to mingle with more than 20 babies at one time, and each baby is born with different character, with certain behavioral tendency.
Getting along with babies can train your passion, and patience. It teaches you how to use love and care to nurture your baby, and it tells you when you should set rules, to introduce the reality of life to them. It is a total new experience as compare to conventional nurturing method which involves scolding, reprimanding or beating; it may meet your expectation for that particular moment when they quiet down but leading to a serious psychological impact on the babies.
Human, asked yourself how much you know about children now, and how much did you read about book on baby, children and human before you are able to tell other that you know your children. Parent sometimes living in their own shadow, and can’t walk out of the shadow to see the different world of nurturing that is the reason why parenting experience / recipe carries from generation to generation.
Prince also learns something yesterday; do you know that if you know about children behavior, then you will be able to know about adult behavior? This is because each human being has a child residing in their unconscious mind, playing around in their psychology stage.
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