Companionship and love relationship are from totally two different worlds, companionship is a dilemma in relationship; however, it can be the very first relationship stage before going further, or start with companionship, and love relationship can grow later (but this is seldom the case).
Companionship is friendship or merely, a relationship of expecting someone to only be with you, or to get rid of your loneliness. It may occur without commitment, responsibility and the feeling of love. Usually at this trap, couple no longer feel ‘young’ anymore, and the fire of love has not ignite for a long period of time (cooling period). Companionship could be mainly due to aging problem, before or after married.
If it happens before marriage, then it is usually at age before 28, when a couple has been together for more than a year, sarcastically, they deem it as boredom, have conquered their life. Meanwhile, it also happen for couple at age after 28, this is the most significant one because both parties at this age, merely looking for people who can accompany them until the end of their life, instead of feeling, feeling may no longer stay within the person itself.
Companionship also happens after marriage, when a bad incident occurs, you care, but you care for love or cares for companionship, can be a tricky question. You may cry, mourn and grieve over the incident, but the purpose of grieving is different. You grieve because you lost someone you like, not love, you cry because you afraid of loneliness instead of love. Sometime, you hear people, crying over a dead body, “how can you leave me like that for the rest of my life, I want to go with you!” this is a statement that you most hear in practical life.
Companionship and love relationship, a dilemma for a couple! You need to make sure you are on the right track.
Thursday, August 11, 2005
Prince:Relationship Involves Stages..
Every relationship is made up of stages, and the development stages differ. A relationship will have to go through the struggling period after the commencement, and after this period, will certainly lead to more understanding and a better relationship. The stages are very simple to explain but may be difficult to understand thoroughly.
A relationship should start true heartedly with the match or compatibility of the inner personality, it will eventually lead to love, which is a romantic feeling for both party. If a relationship starts true heartedly without faking effect, it will ultimately lead to a lesser possibility of struggling in the process.
A relationship will have to go through the struggling period, because the couple does not start true heartedly, they simply, faking themselves for each other, because they want to show their partner the best of them. If a normal relationship starts from ‘faking’, which is terribly wrong in its nature, instead, a normal relationship should start from the person itself. Struggling period will arrive very soon after they get along. The reason is because they find out each other weaknesses in the process, and trying hard to accept each other weaknesses. A break- up occurs when they have finally given up of accepting each others.
What they have to do during the struggling period is to find a solution, and the solution is to foster trust and create transparency to each other, at which they have neglected during the first stage.
During the struggling period, tolerance and understanding become a vital element. Couple is learning to tolerate their own weaknesses, and understanding their inner personality, which they did not explore thoroughly before the commencement.
When they have been through the struggling period, it leads to another stage of romantic relationship, however, it also lead to another stage, either you are already married or not, this is another problem stage which we call the cooling period.
It is very important for you to set rule in your a relationship, for example, couple promises each other to hold hand whenever they are together, giving each other morning kiss, good night kiss or a warm kiss when they meet each other again or many others.
These rules may not help to solve the cooling period, but, if the rules are laid down in a relationship, it may become an indicator for you, as when the cooling period has arrived. When cooling period arrives, either party will do less of the above rules, then you should know it is time to do something so as to spark off the relationship again. If you allows the cooling period to go on and on without thinking of a solution, then any solution will work in lesser effect as time moves on. Indicators can help to remind you about the cooling period so as you can design a solution to your problem and leads to a happy ending with feeling of love and compassion
When will the cooling period arrive, and how do we catch the start of a cooling period, for examples, when you feel the fading of passion through daily life concern; when you feel difficulty in bringing up discussion; when you start to talk to your partner instead of talking with; when you no longer want to hold your partner’s hand, waist or gently cuddling; when you can not / no longer able to imagine or no longer want to give morning kiss or good night kiss to your partner.
Cooling period doesn’t mean a break up or divorce, it can be in a lesser effect. For example, a couple hitting 40 year old, no longer feel love, you tend to notice most of the Asian couple at this age, tend to go shopping, either the wife or the husband tend to walk faster than the others, and they seem careless about each other, because at this stage, after the long cooling period, they have drifted apart, and only commitment, responsibility and companionship that tie them together, instead of the true feeling. If matter worsen, there MAY be ‘hu-ha’ in one family or quiet life until end of their life. When the cooling period get longer, the outcome can either break-up, divorce or the better way, divert their love to one of their children which means may possibly spoil their children. The fault lies at both parties who did not try to do something, there shall be no one to blame except the couple.
The realization of the commencement of cooling period is important, because one party effort can still help to spark if off, but when it drifted too long, it will then need both party to put tremendous effort in the ‘sparking’ process, which seems almost impossible based on real life observation. Long cooling period has made revitalization impossible to happen again.
A relationship should start true heartedly with the match or compatibility of the inner personality, it will eventually lead to love, which is a romantic feeling for both party. If a relationship starts true heartedly without faking effect, it will ultimately lead to a lesser possibility of struggling in the process.
A relationship will have to go through the struggling period, because the couple does not start true heartedly, they simply, faking themselves for each other, because they want to show their partner the best of them. If a normal relationship starts from ‘faking’, which is terribly wrong in its nature, instead, a normal relationship should start from the person itself. Struggling period will arrive very soon after they get along. The reason is because they find out each other weaknesses in the process, and trying hard to accept each other weaknesses. A break- up occurs when they have finally given up of accepting each others.
What they have to do during the struggling period is to find a solution, and the solution is to foster trust and create transparency to each other, at which they have neglected during the first stage.
During the struggling period, tolerance and understanding become a vital element. Couple is learning to tolerate their own weaknesses, and understanding their inner personality, which they did not explore thoroughly before the commencement.
When they have been through the struggling period, it leads to another stage of romantic relationship, however, it also lead to another stage, either you are already married or not, this is another problem stage which we call the cooling period.
It is very important for you to set rule in your a relationship, for example, couple promises each other to hold hand whenever they are together, giving each other morning kiss, good night kiss or a warm kiss when they meet each other again or many others.
These rules may not help to solve the cooling period, but, if the rules are laid down in a relationship, it may become an indicator for you, as when the cooling period has arrived. When cooling period arrives, either party will do less of the above rules, then you should know it is time to do something so as to spark off the relationship again. If you allows the cooling period to go on and on without thinking of a solution, then any solution will work in lesser effect as time moves on. Indicators can help to remind you about the cooling period so as you can design a solution to your problem and leads to a happy ending with feeling of love and compassion
When will the cooling period arrive, and how do we catch the start of a cooling period, for examples, when you feel the fading of passion through daily life concern; when you feel difficulty in bringing up discussion; when you start to talk to your partner instead of talking with; when you no longer want to hold your partner’s hand, waist or gently cuddling; when you can not / no longer able to imagine or no longer want to give morning kiss or good night kiss to your partner.
Cooling period doesn’t mean a break up or divorce, it can be in a lesser effect. For example, a couple hitting 40 year old, no longer feel love, you tend to notice most of the Asian couple at this age, tend to go shopping, either the wife or the husband tend to walk faster than the others, and they seem careless about each other, because at this stage, after the long cooling period, they have drifted apart, and only commitment, responsibility and companionship that tie them together, instead of the true feeling. If matter worsen, there MAY be ‘hu-ha’ in one family or quiet life until end of their life. When the cooling period get longer, the outcome can either break-up, divorce or the better way, divert their love to one of their children which means may possibly spoil their children. The fault lies at both parties who did not try to do something, there shall be no one to blame except the couple.
The realization of the commencement of cooling period is important, because one party effort can still help to spark if off, but when it drifted too long, it will then need both party to put tremendous effort in the ‘sparking’ process, which seems almost impossible based on real life observation. Long cooling period has made revitalization impossible to happen again.
Wednesday, August 10, 2005
Prince: Break up is a disease...
The bottom-line in relationship or in whatever you plan to do, must be crystal clear. Talking about relationship, the bottom-line must be true-hearted, regardless of the duration of each of your relationship, or any incident that may occurs during the process.
Eventually, you will fall into the process of learning, and most importantly, learn through the process and evaluate own mistake.
A break up is a disease in relationship, and must not allow it to happen, first occurrence may lead to the commencement of another relationship, but if the problem doesn’t solve, the second break up is possible.
Sometimes, the starting point is vital to determine the duration of a relationship, either forever, or short term period. How you should create and confine your own bottom-line, apart from true-hearted, there are many other look into, such as caring, real love and concern.
Eventually, you will fall into the process of learning, and most importantly, learn through the process and evaluate own mistake.
A break up is a disease in relationship, and must not allow it to happen, first occurrence may lead to the commencement of another relationship, but if the problem doesn’t solve, the second break up is possible.
Sometimes, the starting point is vital to determine the duration of a relationship, either forever, or short term period. How you should create and confine your own bottom-line, apart from true-hearted, there are many other look into, such as caring, real love and concern.
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Prince: Imitate & Emulate?
There are many successful examples in life, which you may follow or may not follow, however, the bottom-line is, we need to learn from them but not to imitate them. Certainly, when speaking about one successful story, may create such an impact on an ordinary people that it becomes a motivation for one human being to dip into the field for imitation or emulation.
Of course, nothing is impossible in life, but every one must remember that, you have your own life and, different human being carries different personality and characters at which no one can imitate, if you solely believes in the success of one person may lead to you as the second person that success in that particular field, can be a lame believe after all.
For example, a student may have successfully obtained his medical degree from a reputable university, but it doesn’t mean that you can obtain the same degree. Firstly, your interest is certainly a major hindrance to you; secondly, you may not exert your best in a field which you are not familiar with. Thirdly, different people has different objective in life which create the balancing effect. Eventually, your personality may become incompatibility with what you want to do or what to be in particular field.
Many human being simply, being affected by the talking or persuasion, which in turn create the fascination effect that lead them into the wrong track. Certainly, people need to learn the hard way, but, the hard way isn’t blindly believed in what you see. You need to take into consideration many facet of your personal life as to whether it fits you.
Of course, nothing is impossible in life, but every one must remember that, you have your own life and, different human being carries different personality and characters at which no one can imitate, if you solely believes in the success of one person may lead to you as the second person that success in that particular field, can be a lame believe after all.
For example, a student may have successfully obtained his medical degree from a reputable university, but it doesn’t mean that you can obtain the same degree. Firstly, your interest is certainly a major hindrance to you; secondly, you may not exert your best in a field which you are not familiar with. Thirdly, different people has different objective in life which create the balancing effect. Eventually, your personality may become incompatibility with what you want to do or what to be in particular field.
Many human being simply, being affected by the talking or persuasion, which in turn create the fascination effect that lead them into the wrong track. Certainly, people need to learn the hard way, but, the hard way isn’t blindly believed in what you see. You need to take into consideration many facet of your personal life as to whether it fits you.
Monday, August 08, 2005
Prince: Not everything in Natural Way...
The relationship theory tells us that everybody is connected to each other in this society, and that mutual understanding and tolerance are both important elements that attach us together. Before a human being is moving into committing themselves in a special relationship, they have to understand what the natural believe is and what is human force that can help to push thing happens, even in relationship. Nothing is natural all its way until the end of one life, however, one life must be brave enough to create and become the change agent in life.
The dull believes in natural happening may have create the stagnancy in life. How and why? The lame believe in natural happening, is one type of happy go lucky character, or merely, a statement to comfort a loser. For example, if you were defeated in a basketball competition, your friend may as well advice you to let it go, let the god determine or let it fated. But, in fact, this advice will only cover up your fear, anger and dissatisfaction.
If everybody is to believe in fate, and god, and let thing happens in a natural way, then no one would want to work hard, as they might as well waiting for the fate to come, the luck that god has endowed them. If every human being is to believe in this direction, then they will be no millionaire, there will be no imbalance in life, there will be no aggressiveness, and no sales, no revenue and no motivation theory needed.
Similarly, in a relationship, there’s no way for you to wait and wait again, because you tend to learn nothing, people, would rather believe in a romantic and long term relationship, eventually they will look for it, and find way to foster and maintain a good relationship. One human being may have been through many relationships before, but, as long as he/she learns in the process, at the end, they realize their mistake in each of their relationship. Through mistake, they understand what they should be doing in order to lead a better relationship, similarly, to work, or every facet of a human life.
When you ask for a date, it is no longer in a natural way, because you put in effort to ask for it, this, you must remember.
The dull believes in natural happening may have create the stagnancy in life. How and why? The lame believe in natural happening, is one type of happy go lucky character, or merely, a statement to comfort a loser. For example, if you were defeated in a basketball competition, your friend may as well advice you to let it go, let the god determine or let it fated. But, in fact, this advice will only cover up your fear, anger and dissatisfaction.
If everybody is to believe in fate, and god, and let thing happens in a natural way, then no one would want to work hard, as they might as well waiting for the fate to come, the luck that god has endowed them. If every human being is to believe in this direction, then they will be no millionaire, there will be no imbalance in life, there will be no aggressiveness, and no sales, no revenue and no motivation theory needed.
Similarly, in a relationship, there’s no way for you to wait and wait again, because you tend to learn nothing, people, would rather believe in a romantic and long term relationship, eventually they will look for it, and find way to foster and maintain a good relationship. One human being may have been through many relationships before, but, as long as he/she learns in the process, at the end, they realize their mistake in each of their relationship. Through mistake, they understand what they should be doing in order to lead a better relationship, similarly, to work, or every facet of a human life.
When you ask for a date, it is no longer in a natural way, because you put in effort to ask for it, this, you must remember.
Saturday, August 06, 2005
Prince: Fundamental Motivation ...
Salary is the fundamental motivation value for a company to retain their staff, and maintain the spirit of team work, and achievement. The basic motivation theory in one company management depends very much on the salary that one company is willing to pay.
The working mechanism of salary to foster motivation value in one company should go in line with company goals. Prince believes that if a human being was paid higher, they are tied with the commitment to show their ability, and their responsibility is virtually higher.
Company, who pays higher than the employee expectation, can help to create and foster higher value in employee’s responsibility and commitment. It can also help to increase the retention rate in one company.
Normal human being, perhaps, not every human being, has the sense of responsibility and commitment, however, these responsibilities and commitment are shattered only when dispute occurs.
If you were to assume dispute is a never happen matter in one company, then salary is always the basic value for employee motivation. Even if, dispute does occur in one company, if the salary is high enough to preserve his/her integrity and patient, his/her responsibilities and commitments, will still remain unshaken, but aggressiveness may be diminish as time moves on.
When you ponder deeply, what drive sales person to be aggressive, and what drive people to work? It always drilled down to the fundamental value- Material, which is money. People works for money, only a certain group of people, whom, money works for them.
Money is such a black magic; it can spoil your mind, your life and many other things. There is no ‘alphabetical’ stage as to how money should move up your stage of life, however, Prince can be sure that, it is a MUST for every human being to work for money at the early stage, before they are able to let the money work for them.
The working mechanism of salary to foster motivation value in one company should go in line with company goals. Prince believes that if a human being was paid higher, they are tied with the commitment to show their ability, and their responsibility is virtually higher.
Company, who pays higher than the employee expectation, can help to create and foster higher value in employee’s responsibility and commitment. It can also help to increase the retention rate in one company.
Normal human being, perhaps, not every human being, has the sense of responsibility and commitment, however, these responsibilities and commitment are shattered only when dispute occurs.
If you were to assume dispute is a never happen matter in one company, then salary is always the basic value for employee motivation. Even if, dispute does occur in one company, if the salary is high enough to preserve his/her integrity and patient, his/her responsibilities and commitments, will still remain unshaken, but aggressiveness may be diminish as time moves on.
When you ponder deeply, what drive sales person to be aggressive, and what drive people to work? It always drilled down to the fundamental value- Material, which is money. People works for money, only a certain group of people, whom, money works for them.
Money is such a black magic; it can spoil your mind, your life and many other things. There is no ‘alphabetical’ stage as to how money should move up your stage of life, however, Prince can be sure that, it is a MUST for every human being to work for money at the early stage, before they are able to let the money work for them.
Friday, August 05, 2005
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
Monday, August 01, 2005
The day of verdict..
Today is the day of verdict, which shows the capability of prince in organizing event for company. Prince has been through much event management, and this is the easier one, certainly, without intervention could have made it even easier. Prince was thrown into the swimming pool after the event, as a way to celebrate our success. Wet the whole body, prince running around hugging people, and he got Leo Lee, the Vice Principal Trainee, rubbing his body all over Leo, and he got wet too. Everything was cool, and prince likes the feeling of getting an event done…
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