Prince: See what's gona happen...

I got a few thoughts after talking with one of my friends who has just broken-up with his girlfriend. We have a heated argument, and he practically get-away from it by shouting, ‘I find it disgusting when you quote about psychology, I do not care and you can put it up in your blog if you want!’

I find it a tough statement for a person not being receptive. I hope he would eventually understand then.

------------------------------------------------------------

He called himself ‘psychotic’…

A person who calls himself ‘Psychotic’ is not a psychotic at all; have you ever see madman tells you his madness?

-----------------------------------------------------------

He claimed his ‘conscious’ know what he is talking about; he also claims that ‘subconsciously’ he does not know what he wants.

A person who is at a clear stage of mind, and knowing what he wants; but called himself a ‘psychotic’, I would say he has something in minds and he is not ‘lost’. I call that as his intentions. What will be his intentions then?

To get her back?
To commit suicide?
To seek sympathy and pity?
To cover up his embarrassment?
To boost-up his ego and self-esteem?

----------------------------------------------------------

He pinned the mistake of his own relationship on his friends; he claimed that his friend know more than he does about his relationship and never have told him.

Firstly, if you do not know about your own relationship problem, since problems had occurred so many times previously; then you are not eligible to be in a relationship.

Secondly, it is even absurd to claim ignorance since his girlfriend has the tendency to communicate over any problems, and seek solution. It is his ‘less-thoughtfulness’ and ‘less-sensitivity’ that leads to an end.

---------------------------------------------------------

‘You can play your role by advising me, and use your influence to change me, and make me think, but it is up to me if I want to change; you just play your role, and if you give-up then that is, but I believe in what I believe’

A person, who does not have the heart for correction, will never be corrected; similarly, a person who does not have self-consciousness will ever know where he has done wrong.

A selfish person always relies on others effort and takes advantage of his friendship; an egoistic person always claims to be ‘number-one’.

Eventually, a person who is selfish and egoistic will make use of others but claims to be not, it is a good combination of two!

--------------------------------------------------------

‘I was not in the loop of any updates; you guys keep me out of the loop, and did not call me. I am having a positive thought that you all are busy and engage with something’

No one is working 24 hours a day and 7 days a week consecutively for a few months; it is more than enough as long as you have the heart to spend an hour or two for your friend.

But, where is your initiative? Even if we did not call, but where is your initiative to call us? You have done that previously, but why not now? We can do our part to understand your condition; but it does not mean you can take for granted.

An initiative to live-on is important; initiative can help to solve many problems in life instead of avoiding them.

It is good to have a positive thought. Positive thought is important but it does not mean having positive thought allows you to take thing for granted; for not believing in what you did is wrong.


---------------------------------------------------------

A kid accidentally spills-his milk on the table.

His mother reprimanded him, but he said, ‘mum, a cat jump-up the table, and run over my glass of water.’

‘Then it spilled’, he added.

*the kid put the blame on the cat; psychologically, I believe it makes the kid feel better, and thought he may have escaped from punishment.

-----------------------------------------------------------

A man who works to support a family of four; his father is a retiree; his mother is a housewife. He got a brother who is a freshman and a sister who is currently doing her Pre-University.

He claimed that his parent needs him to support the family for 8 years. That is mean he has to support his sibling education until they are able to stand on their feet. He continuously claims this particular issue among his friends, and he also claimed that he was born to serve in this life; and he will have to take-up the burden. Previously, he also stated that his parent does not allow him to have a girlfriend because he was not able to sustain at the moment. However, he always concluded that he is willing to do it and happy for it.

Nevertheless, his younger brother knows exactly the matter; and told that his parent has neither pushed him nor pressure him over the family issue. His parent has never asked for his support; and his parent his in fact wants him to settle down on himself.

Judging from the two different statements from him and his brother; it leads us into three different assumptions. It is they have sibling rivalry in the family, thus the hatred drives his younger to present an opposed-statement, or the man is lying to seek sympathy, and is seeking for an ego-boost among his friends. Last but not least, if it is his ‘self-initiative’ to take up the family burden; then he should have related it in a proper way.

---------------------------------------------------------

REMARK:-

I have lived through a quarter of my life, and have met many friends. However, I have never seen such an egoistic and stubborn person before. I wonder if our ‘face’ is that important, and that, urges you to create lies; make-up story to cover your embarrassment?

As friend, we have never treated each other as a laughing-stone. We adopt an ‘open-policy’, and ‘penetration’. Open-policy is when we talk about almost everything from the bottom of our heart. ‘Penetration’ is when information flows spontaneously either from the direct individual or other parties but related to the person.

We believe that when we are close enough and much information will then flow spontaneously; that is when ‘penetration’ occurs, and we got to know our friends better. That information is not necessarily from the related individuals but from others parties.

Since friendship can be so closed, then it is no point lying to your friends because the lies may be broken by your wife, family members or any accident that related.

For example, If I make-up a story about my family; and if you know my brother well enough, a denial from my brother will profess a whole different story.