Sunday, July 31, 2005
Prince thought of Time...
There is almost impossible for human being to chase after ‘time’, instead, they should let the time chase them. Prince adopts this principle since young, and he understands the importance of and mechanism of ‘time’. For example, punctuality is to follow the specified time, however, it doesn’t provide you the ability to beat ‘time’, instead, a slight delay will make you chase the ‘time’. Your position will change if you come 15 to 30 minutes earlier than the stated time, because you have allowed the time to chase you. Certainly, impatient is not part of the time theory because impatient can create a negative effect, it means creating a huge distance between ‘time’ and yourself.
Saturday, July 30, 2005
Prince feels the final push...
Approaching the final day of his preparation for the big day, prince has a strong team to execute the plan, which makes everything possible. He said to himself, an event will have a higher success rate if unity falls in the team. The academic team and the corporate team working hand in hand for this meaningful event, has made prince feels no doubt for success. Decoration is in place, all team member serve the same objective of making this event a successful one, certainly, prince doesn’t forget to give credit to his assistance, even though, she may have lousy in character, but her help and effort are the most significant one.
Thursday, July 28, 2005
War..War...War...
Prince has a major event on the way which he has no sweat at all, but with the constant interference from his superior, he feels strongly irritated. However, prince also believes that intervention has to effect to his event as long as he serves his objective.
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
Prince thought of life again...
Prince found his life no longer lonely with princess around, as he has realized that love can be so meaningful. He would feel happy to see princess every morning, and feel reluctant to leave for office, a good bye kiss mean a lot for prince, as for the start of a happy and yet busy day. Every minute, every second in any where, will help to remind prince about princess. In office, love turns into motivation, because prince realizes that material is important for a normal human being, and prince wants to provide the best to princess. After office hours prince feels happy to go back, not like those other human being who doesn’t like to go home, because prince can have a cozy home with a warm smile from princess. After dinner, prince starts to do revision, even though prince feels tired after the long working day, but he realizes the importance of doing revision, earning a MBA would certainly help in career advancement which in turn provide a better life, and better future being, living together with princess. This is what prince expects in life, he believes in what Kong Zhi has said in the past, this has always mentioned by his superior, as translated into English, ‘Unity in Family, Governing and Ruling Country, Conquering the world’, every facet occurs in a slow pace. Prince was then introduced one more initial area which every human being must meet, it is called ‘ self- governing’ , which is to establish yourself and manage to get along in the world; it is about the ways of conducting yourself in society. Thus, ‘Governing in owns life, Unity in Family, Governing and Ruling Country & Conquering the world’, should be the normal route of every human being.
Self-governing refers to principle, moral and ethical value in life, in order to gain respect from the society and establish self-stand, principle, moral and ethical value are very important. Unity in family means establish a family as it will become as backbone of one’s life. Meanwhile, ruling a country means, branching out of your normal life when life has been settled down, and ready for outside world. Eventually, it will help you to conquer the world, which means advancement in career with an happy ending.
Self-governing refers to principle, moral and ethical value in life, in order to gain respect from the society and establish self-stand, principle, moral and ethical value are very important. Unity in family means establish a family as it will become as backbone of one’s life. Meanwhile, ruling a country means, branching out of your normal life when life has been settled down, and ready for outside world. Eventually, it will help you to conquer the world, which means advancement in career with an happy ending.
Tuesday, July 26, 2005
Prince thought of Management Zero...
New management starts from Zero, thus, we shall call it Zero management approach. Every business that have a proper management model will succeed in the field as the market leader, however, the number of business people who understand the importance of management model, is still questionable.
While looking back at the market, taking food industry as an example, the emerging trends of ‘mamaking’ and the increasing popularity of ‘Nasi Kandar’ have created another opportunity in the food industry, but none of it dares to claim the market leader. Market leader doesn’t mean you have the most number of outlet, but to provide the distinctive product that many other do not have, and that you enjoy competitive edge which your customer favor the most. Even in many businesses to date, are still running their business instead of managing it. They will be drifted away not long in the field, and being eliminated.
A model consists of two elements, internally, and externally, internally consists of people, place, financial, infrastructure, product, policy and system and objective, meanwhile, externally, it consists of all elements in marketing and public relationship, and both element must have strategic consistency. Any business must first think of business model, to create internal consistency before they can grow big, or otherwise, many problem may arise internally which halt their expansion.
While looking back at the market, taking food industry as an example, the emerging trends of ‘mamaking’ and the increasing popularity of ‘Nasi Kandar’ have created another opportunity in the food industry, but none of it dares to claim the market leader. Market leader doesn’t mean you have the most number of outlet, but to provide the distinctive product that many other do not have, and that you enjoy competitive edge which your customer favor the most. Even in many businesses to date, are still running their business instead of managing it. They will be drifted away not long in the field, and being eliminated.
A model consists of two elements, internally, and externally, internally consists of people, place, financial, infrastructure, product, policy and system and objective, meanwhile, externally, it consists of all elements in marketing and public relationship, and both element must have strategic consistency. Any business must first think of business model, to create internal consistency before they can grow big, or otherwise, many problem may arise internally which halt their expansion.
Sunday, July 24, 2005
Prince thought of Advice...
When you intend to provide advice to your fellow peers, colleague, family or your superior, there is one rule to follow, which is to understand the position of your target. Prince has a problem persuading his superior, and sometime, has to succumb to their autocratic ruling, the reason behind is because prince adopted a modern and aggressive management thought with a high level of undependability, although sometime may not be perfect in its nature, but always contradict with those with traditional approach. Furthermore, traditional management approach doesn’t easily accept the modern management advice, especially advice from those young and coming executive. They believe that young executives are always bound their own experience barriers.
Prince finds it quite challenging to create the synergy with traditional management team; in fact, it has created many conflicts and difficulty in the reformation process. Either to conform to their value, or to cultivate the new value, none of the above is accessible. The reason, is because new management team always face difficulty in dealing with the traditional management team.
Prince realizes that stubbornness does not always penetrate the traditional management approach, however, if it does, in most cases, it will be difficult to look for a change management, and further, they are simply waiting for the doom to arrive in their culture. Meanwhile, it is good to believe that nothing is impossible, although synergy is vital for the change to take place, however, it never happen thoroughly, because practically, changes in paradigm will need aggressiveness and sacrifice, there is no way synergy can occurs all the way till the end of the paradigm change.
It is like the merge of two different companies, or two different kingdoms running with different management style and culture. It will eventually result to bloody war. Synergy can only cover the outlook of the war, it tends to give outsider the impression of peaceful integration, as a matter of fact, internally, cold and bloody war every where. This has been a norm in most of the merging incident, and political issues in transition period is the strongest ever been.
If new management were to plant the changes, professional advise will never appears in their mind, because they (traditional management) usually adopt the norm of business model such as heavy cost saving, deprivation of employee benefit, and many more which makes them filthy rich. Another major fall back will be the prolong of the expansion timeframe, you may come across many real life example of traditional business model, who spent year to expand, at the end, swamp by the wave of external environment changes, and market shifting from one paradigm to another which eliminated most traditional business before they are able to grow big.
Traditional business management will always remain in the struggling period, with sluggish services to customer, minor attention was paid to employee benefit, risk averse and most vital, being influenced with autocratic management styles, has not enable them to catch up with those predator in the market, worse still, they are always in the ‘prey’ position.
There is always a way for a will, even though traditional management tack along with fall backs, but if their ‘will’ to change is stronger, can out beat their own obstinate management concept.
Delegation is vital in one management; leader needs to know how to delegate their responsibility to their subordinate. Once delegation is done, set yourself a timeline or reporting policy so that subordinates can update you the progress of your project, instead of tailing your subordinate from time to time that would make you a lousy boss after all.
Trust, management without trust is management without peace. If you don’t trust your employee, then you will deprive them, if you don’t trust them, then don’t hire them, since you have hired them then you should trust them, there’s always a controversy in relationship between superior and subordinate. They claims to trust but in fact they don’t, to certain extend, they still tailing their subordinate in whatever project shall they undertake.
Open minded, traditional management must accept to change along, they must look at the big picture, the macro view with define objective, as long as the objective is met, they should not be any intervention in the progress, unless the route goes hair-wire, then intervention is necessary. However, it is a very subjective issue to discuss ‘hair-wire’, to some lousy superior; even a small mistake would lead them to perceive you as incapability.
Understanding of the changes necessary for the benefit of the company is very important, traditional team must understand that they needs to be indoctrinated with the modern management ideas in order to shift to a new paradigm. On the contrary and practically, traditional management may accept indoctrinate but being skeptical in term of execution, which is, many day to day operation decision-making is still based on own old value. They realize they have to change and understand that acceptance to change is important, but they can not bear to perform upon what they have realized. It makes the creation of synergy almost impossible to happen.
To avoid such a problem, traditional management team needs to ‘mind their own business’ to certain extend, meanwhile, new management team needs to constantly report their progress in meeting to clarify all their doubt.
Change management always come with a cost, and a choice, each choices have its own fall back and benefit. New management teams can terminate as much employee as possible and re-recruit a new group that matches their expectation and objectives. It certainly enjoys a higher percentage of success rates in over turning the company from bad to good and to the best. The second choices which appears to be lengthy, and time consuming is to merge the new team and old team, without terminating any of the employee, instead, to train them up to meet new team expectation, in the process, those who are still unable to meet up with the standard or unbearable with the pressure, will eventually leave. Apparently, it is a slow killing process, compare to the new one because those who can not perform will eventually leave, perhaps, the turn over rate may be lower than the first choice.
Prince finds it quite challenging to create the synergy with traditional management team; in fact, it has created many conflicts and difficulty in the reformation process. Either to conform to their value, or to cultivate the new value, none of the above is accessible. The reason, is because new management team always face difficulty in dealing with the traditional management team.
Prince realizes that stubbornness does not always penetrate the traditional management approach, however, if it does, in most cases, it will be difficult to look for a change management, and further, they are simply waiting for the doom to arrive in their culture. Meanwhile, it is good to believe that nothing is impossible, although synergy is vital for the change to take place, however, it never happen thoroughly, because practically, changes in paradigm will need aggressiveness and sacrifice, there is no way synergy can occurs all the way till the end of the paradigm change.
It is like the merge of two different companies, or two different kingdoms running with different management style and culture. It will eventually result to bloody war. Synergy can only cover the outlook of the war, it tends to give outsider the impression of peaceful integration, as a matter of fact, internally, cold and bloody war every where. This has been a norm in most of the merging incident, and political issues in transition period is the strongest ever been.
If new management were to plant the changes, professional advise will never appears in their mind, because they (traditional management) usually adopt the norm of business model such as heavy cost saving, deprivation of employee benefit, and many more which makes them filthy rich. Another major fall back will be the prolong of the expansion timeframe, you may come across many real life example of traditional business model, who spent year to expand, at the end, swamp by the wave of external environment changes, and market shifting from one paradigm to another which eliminated most traditional business before they are able to grow big.
Traditional business management will always remain in the struggling period, with sluggish services to customer, minor attention was paid to employee benefit, risk averse and most vital, being influenced with autocratic management styles, has not enable them to catch up with those predator in the market, worse still, they are always in the ‘prey’ position.
There is always a way for a will, even though traditional management tack along with fall backs, but if their ‘will’ to change is stronger, can out beat their own obstinate management concept.
Delegation is vital in one management; leader needs to know how to delegate their responsibility to their subordinate. Once delegation is done, set yourself a timeline or reporting policy so that subordinates can update you the progress of your project, instead of tailing your subordinate from time to time that would make you a lousy boss after all.
Trust, management without trust is management without peace. If you don’t trust your employee, then you will deprive them, if you don’t trust them, then don’t hire them, since you have hired them then you should trust them, there’s always a controversy in relationship between superior and subordinate. They claims to trust but in fact they don’t, to certain extend, they still tailing their subordinate in whatever project shall they undertake.
Open minded, traditional management must accept to change along, they must look at the big picture, the macro view with define objective, as long as the objective is met, they should not be any intervention in the progress, unless the route goes hair-wire, then intervention is necessary. However, it is a very subjective issue to discuss ‘hair-wire’, to some lousy superior; even a small mistake would lead them to perceive you as incapability.
Understanding of the changes necessary for the benefit of the company is very important, traditional team must understand that they needs to be indoctrinated with the modern management ideas in order to shift to a new paradigm. On the contrary and practically, traditional management may accept indoctrinate but being skeptical in term of execution, which is, many day to day operation decision-making is still based on own old value. They realize they have to change and understand that acceptance to change is important, but they can not bear to perform upon what they have realized. It makes the creation of synergy almost impossible to happen.
To avoid such a problem, traditional management team needs to ‘mind their own business’ to certain extend, meanwhile, new management team needs to constantly report their progress in meeting to clarify all their doubt.
Change management always come with a cost, and a choice, each choices have its own fall back and benefit. New management teams can terminate as much employee as possible and re-recruit a new group that matches their expectation and objectives. It certainly enjoys a higher percentage of success rates in over turning the company from bad to good and to the best. The second choices which appears to be lengthy, and time consuming is to merge the new team and old team, without terminating any of the employee, instead, to train them up to meet new team expectation, in the process, those who are still unable to meet up with the standard or unbearable with the pressure, will eventually leave. Apparently, it is a slow killing process, compare to the new one because those who can not perform will eventually leave, perhaps, the turn over rate may be lower than the first choice.
Friday, July 22, 2005
Prince hears...
After putting up some of prince writes up, some replies may not be necessarily good for prince, as his friend claims that, female reading those article may make their life difficult. Prince only has one thing to say, they are simply cheating too many female out there, serving an embarrassment for male species! Thus, afraid that what prince has said may become a useful reminder to female species. Pal, beware of the strike back!
Prince: talk...
The rule of talking about other without making other perceived you as back-stabbing. Prince believes in the fact, and the truth that has occurs in life. You shall only talk about the truth even though it is unnecessarily good.
Human being has the tendency to talk about others, either bad or good, without justification or worse still, sometimes, they do not tell the truth. They are simply being affected by personal prejudice.
However, if you stick to your principle clearly, which mean you speak only the truth experience of yourself and what other has encountered, then you shall not be blame for unfaithful or unethical.
Prince, sometimes, do not want to talk bad about someone, but to serve as an advise to other, and with the mere intention of sharing with other, may have made some people uneasy. If you are bad, then there is no hard feeling for other to talk bad about you. Somehow, if you are good, people will talk good about you.
Prince wrote this article based on the assumption that every human being bears the principle of talking only the truth and the fact, which similarly applies to prince.
Human being has the tendency to talk about others, either bad or good, without justification or worse still, sometimes, they do not tell the truth. They are simply being affected by personal prejudice.
However, if you stick to your principle clearly, which mean you speak only the truth experience of yourself and what other has encountered, then you shall not be blame for unfaithful or unethical.
Prince, sometimes, do not want to talk bad about someone, but to serve as an advise to other, and with the mere intention of sharing with other, may have made some people uneasy. If you are bad, then there is no hard feeling for other to talk bad about you. Somehow, if you are good, people will talk good about you.
Prince wrote this article based on the assumption that every human being bears the principle of talking only the truth and the fact, which similarly applies to prince.
Thursday, July 21, 2005
Prince said....
It is sad to know that some female individual claims male species are jerk, of course to certain extend, some male individual is jerk but not all perhaps. Prince hopes this write up can help female individual to understand more about male. It is advisable that every female and male should try to understand human behavior and so, not to be cheated by others in the society easily, at least. How human behavior works, the principle of causation applies, always, in every human behavior, but it requires meticulous observation to understand the hidden character.
Lets’ start our discussion lightly with question; have your boyfriend ever ask you for sex? If they did, how it comes about? If your boy friend is seeking for sex in your relationship, it is still acceptable if you are willing to give, perhaps, you may have your own thought, but if you have a different point of view, and rejected your boy friend in this particular request, he can be very frustrated and disappointed if he doesn’t understand you. However, if he is some types of a jerk (as some female has proclaimed), he will try his ever best to trick and trap you into this, the very norm is to make you feel guilty and ask you to prove by doing what he wishes you to do. Prince called this ‘trick of goad’, which stimulate your self-instinct of esteem power for honesty. They will first blame you for not giving them, and threatened you with some soft, could be a break up or many others, or they may even claims that you lie to him, perhaps having affair with others, and eventually asking you to prove it by giving it to him. It works for those innocent ladies, but not those smarter than them, thus, please be advised not to be easily fall into the trap, and put yourself in an alert mode for rationality. Man are crafty, thus, be beware.
When human needs something in return, they tend to try their ever best to obtain it, this help to serve their self-esteem, greediness and desire. However, with this type of mind set, will not ensure a long term commitment in a relationship, Prince dares to challenge every male species out there, who dare to claim he has not been through this. In relationship, they treat their favorable female partner better, and always promise to give the best; this is because their female partner has yet to take the bait. They simply wait, and try their ever best to talk the fish (female) into the bait (bed). You may sense their hostility / transformation after you are hook, worse still, you won’t even know if you are hooked! This is the nature power of a man, however, this is also the most childish thinking instill in a man (this is why many ladies called them jerk!)! Man is willing to even run up the moon to pluck it down for you when you asked for it! Man will fake themselves for anything they wish to obtain, thus, do beware.
A man in commitment is a man in honor? This is when men are willing to pick up the responsibility which many think; because man is usually rather running away from responsibility. However, Prince may not think it is the true explanation of the statement, or perhaps, not all. First of all, by looking at those male who hang around at night club, perhaps, prince can say more than half of it is already committed to someone in some soft, either boy friend or wife. However, what is the intention behind the rock, do you think they are merely there for a drink or dance? Many male individual cannot afford to run away from their own lust and desire, especially if they come across a pretty, hot and sexy female individual. The first symptom – they stick their eyes on them, (believe it or not, most of the male individual does that), second of all, their lust will push hem toward the female individual, to know them and to talk to them, somehow this may not necessarily happen to every male individual but prince believes the least 90% of them. Third of all, some male doesn’t dare to go for it, and that is the coward instinct that stops them from doing so, because they dare to be overwhelmed by their own lust but do not dare to accept the challenge. If they go for it, and that further enhance their desire, they will find way to be closer to you and asking for more…especially when it comes to sex! Men dare to do anything as their lust wish, thus, do beware.
Man at older age tend to treat their fond girl better than other, it is very difficult to judge if they are real, but most often they are real at this age. Well, let’s say a man is hitting 30 or 40, they are financially stable and career pathway is clearer in life, however, if they started a relationship at this age, they tend to treat their fond one better, because they are tired of looking around now. They are merely looking for someone to accompany them for the rest of their life, and as long as it looks so-so, and not too bad, or little feeling shall be alright for them.
Why men buy lingerie for their wife or girlfriend, they simply expecting their wife or girl friend to wear it for them. This is the ultimate fact about man, they always perform certain thing according to their wish, if they buy you a ring, certainly, they expect you to wear it, if they buy you some vegetable and fish, certainly they expect you to cook for them right away, a second delay or grumpy will certainly turn them off, men are always selfish though…this you must understand, just beware…
What can be a perfect relationship, long term relationship or flawless romance? A relationship should start with give and take, certainly with more ‘give’ than take, and both parties must understand how to give before take in a right manner. This starting point must be very clear, and that you start it with love, not to wish for something in return, this is wrong to do it in such a way, and here’s no different than those jerks (male) as they (female) claims out there. A relationship must be clear that love is a feeling and commitment is a burden in a relationship, however, if you start with love, and adopt the ‘give’ philosophy without asking for any return, then commitment will not be a burden for you anymore, instead, it is a gift. Both parties are willing to do anything, basically, for each other, without complaining. Both parties must respect each other, no trick and no trap, no hurting and no forcing. Willingness and sacrifice may be very important but must do it in a correct way; sex with no feel, no respect, no willingness and worse still no love is not a sacrifice! It is then merely a pleasing material in relationship, and can be scraped anytime when interest faded away…
Lets’ start our discussion lightly with question; have your boyfriend ever ask you for sex? If they did, how it comes about? If your boy friend is seeking for sex in your relationship, it is still acceptable if you are willing to give, perhaps, you may have your own thought, but if you have a different point of view, and rejected your boy friend in this particular request, he can be very frustrated and disappointed if he doesn’t understand you. However, if he is some types of a jerk (as some female has proclaimed), he will try his ever best to trick and trap you into this, the very norm is to make you feel guilty and ask you to prove by doing what he wishes you to do. Prince called this ‘trick of goad’, which stimulate your self-instinct of esteem power for honesty. They will first blame you for not giving them, and threatened you with some soft, could be a break up or many others, or they may even claims that you lie to him, perhaps having affair with others, and eventually asking you to prove it by giving it to him. It works for those innocent ladies, but not those smarter than them, thus, please be advised not to be easily fall into the trap, and put yourself in an alert mode for rationality. Man are crafty, thus, be beware.
When human needs something in return, they tend to try their ever best to obtain it, this help to serve their self-esteem, greediness and desire. However, with this type of mind set, will not ensure a long term commitment in a relationship, Prince dares to challenge every male species out there, who dare to claim he has not been through this. In relationship, they treat their favorable female partner better, and always promise to give the best; this is because their female partner has yet to take the bait. They simply wait, and try their ever best to talk the fish (female) into the bait (bed). You may sense their hostility / transformation after you are hook, worse still, you won’t even know if you are hooked! This is the nature power of a man, however, this is also the most childish thinking instill in a man (this is why many ladies called them jerk!)! Man is willing to even run up the moon to pluck it down for you when you asked for it! Man will fake themselves for anything they wish to obtain, thus, do beware.
A man in commitment is a man in honor? This is when men are willing to pick up the responsibility which many think; because man is usually rather running away from responsibility. However, Prince may not think it is the true explanation of the statement, or perhaps, not all. First of all, by looking at those male who hang around at night club, perhaps, prince can say more than half of it is already committed to someone in some soft, either boy friend or wife. However, what is the intention behind the rock, do you think they are merely there for a drink or dance? Many male individual cannot afford to run away from their own lust and desire, especially if they come across a pretty, hot and sexy female individual. The first symptom – they stick their eyes on them, (believe it or not, most of the male individual does that), second of all, their lust will push hem toward the female individual, to know them and to talk to them, somehow this may not necessarily happen to every male individual but prince believes the least 90% of them. Third of all, some male doesn’t dare to go for it, and that is the coward instinct that stops them from doing so, because they dare to be overwhelmed by their own lust but do not dare to accept the challenge. If they go for it, and that further enhance their desire, they will find way to be closer to you and asking for more…especially when it comes to sex! Men dare to do anything as their lust wish, thus, do beware.
Man at older age tend to treat their fond girl better than other, it is very difficult to judge if they are real, but most often they are real at this age. Well, let’s say a man is hitting 30 or 40, they are financially stable and career pathway is clearer in life, however, if they started a relationship at this age, they tend to treat their fond one better, because they are tired of looking around now. They are merely looking for someone to accompany them for the rest of their life, and as long as it looks so-so, and not too bad, or little feeling shall be alright for them.
Why men buy lingerie for their wife or girlfriend, they simply expecting their wife or girl friend to wear it for them. This is the ultimate fact about man, they always perform certain thing according to their wish, if they buy you a ring, certainly, they expect you to wear it, if they buy you some vegetable and fish, certainly they expect you to cook for them right away, a second delay or grumpy will certainly turn them off, men are always selfish though…this you must understand, just beware…
What can be a perfect relationship, long term relationship or flawless romance? A relationship should start with give and take, certainly with more ‘give’ than take, and both parties must understand how to give before take in a right manner. This starting point must be very clear, and that you start it with love, not to wish for something in return, this is wrong to do it in such a way, and here’s no different than those jerks (male) as they (female) claims out there. A relationship must be clear that love is a feeling and commitment is a burden in a relationship, however, if you start with love, and adopt the ‘give’ philosophy without asking for any return, then commitment will not be a burden for you anymore, instead, it is a gift. Both parties are willing to do anything, basically, for each other, without complaining. Both parties must respect each other, no trick and no trap, no hurting and no forcing. Willingness and sacrifice may be very important but must do it in a correct way; sex with no feel, no respect, no willingness and worse still no love is not a sacrifice! It is then merely a pleasing material in relationship, and can be scraped anytime when interest faded away…
Prince: Trust....
Trust is one of the most vital elements in a relationship, or any other daily communication with people who are inter-related to you or non-related to you. People simply do not know how to build trust, which sometime ruins their relationship with their fellow peers.
There is always a way to build trust in life, one of it which prince believes, very effective in its nature is to be transparent to people you meet. Prince does not deny that every human being has secret but the degree of confidential is in contrary with transparent and trust. The more you hide from people, the lowest degree of trust you obtain from your fellow peers, and your relationship partners. Thus, human bring needs to determine the degree of trust they intend to build among their fellow peers before they start thinking about building trust.
Trust is a vital element in life, you need trust in work, in relationship, in family, and it inter-related too many areas of your life. Transparent may be one thing, but in order to achieve it, you need to build in your personal value of open-minded and the degree of receptivity to others as well. If you have a low degree of acceptance, then you may not be able to receive transparent from others. You self hindrance has made other to be non-transparent to you due to the hesitation that they have perceived on you.
For example, if you are narrow minded or embracing a traditional thought due to the different upbringing, it may some how prevent other to be transparent to you. Once you hear it, know it, or feel the transparent, can instantly creates discomfort or anxiety, if worse, it may even instill hatred and anger in you towards those who have tried to be transparent with you.
Meanwhile, do remember, if you want other to trust you, you shall then try to trust other first, and if you want other to be transparent to you, you shall then make transparent to others, certainly with a high degree of acceptance to matter.
There is always a way to build trust in life, one of it which prince believes, very effective in its nature is to be transparent to people you meet. Prince does not deny that every human being has secret but the degree of confidential is in contrary with transparent and trust. The more you hide from people, the lowest degree of trust you obtain from your fellow peers, and your relationship partners. Thus, human bring needs to determine the degree of trust they intend to build among their fellow peers before they start thinking about building trust.
Trust is a vital element in life, you need trust in work, in relationship, in family, and it inter-related too many areas of your life. Transparent may be one thing, but in order to achieve it, you need to build in your personal value of open-minded and the degree of receptivity to others as well. If you have a low degree of acceptance, then you may not be able to receive transparent from others. You self hindrance has made other to be non-transparent to you due to the hesitation that they have perceived on you.
For example, if you are narrow minded or embracing a traditional thought due to the different upbringing, it may some how prevent other to be transparent to you. Once you hear it, know it, or feel the transparent, can instantly creates discomfort or anxiety, if worse, it may even instill hatred and anger in you towards those who have tried to be transparent with you.
Meanwhile, do remember, if you want other to trust you, you shall then try to trust other first, and if you want other to be transparent to you, you shall then make transparent to others, certainly with a high degree of acceptance to matter.
Wednesday, July 20, 2005
Prince realizes the importance of love...
Prince has a better understanding about love now, as time goes on, prince learns, and realizes the importance of love. Love can be either evil or angel, the interpretation diverse greatly according to individual value. Love happens when you feel reluctant to leave your love one in the morning to work, and when you feel so anxious to go return home because you know someone you love is waiting for you at home. Love motivates you to work harder so that you are able to give her the best, and love gives you the energy to run extra miles by just thinking of her...This is what happens to prince…
Monday, July 18, 2005
Prince feels...
Prince feels so much for princess, he has so much to tell, but little to spill out whenever he sees princess. Princess shares many of her personal life from love to family with him, and that make prince a little guilty to tell her his story. This is because prince starts out the relationship with the assumption of ‘let bygone be bygone’, but somehow, this can not run away when time comes. Prince still has to allow princess to have fully access to his past.
Prince played the ‘truth and dare’ game in Langkawi, whereby, everyone had to speak the truth when was asked to do so. Mr. Big Brother asked prince about when he lost his virgin, somehow, male species do not have such thing as virgin, to rephrase it, would better term ‘the first time’, prince answered, 16 year old. Princess questions how many relationship has prince been through, but prince was just too afraid to be too transparent after all. However, not to be transparent will not be able to build trust in relationship, and thus prince decided to spill out.
Prince was with someone at the age of 16, and they had the first time. For a teen who knows a little about sex will certainly like to know more at this age. He believes so, until now, every one will have their first time, it’s a matter of early or late. After that affair, prince had a few more relationships which kick start of his life. He couldn’t remember the number of girl he has been before, but truly, prince was real in every relationship. Sometimes things happen and there’s no possible explanation to that. Prince led a totally different life when time goes by, until 5 years ago, when prince met with his ex. He put up more than1100% of his feeling, and she was always in his future that can foresee until she went overseas to study. To not disturb her study, and further, allowed her not to feel the commitment of hanging along with prince even both of them realized that distance can be a problem. Prince was then made his first move to initial the broke up by not contacting her. It ended happily 3 years back, and from that onwards, prince totally shifted his focus on study and work, getting a good grade was important for prince.
Prince has been through 6 relationships as he can remember, but a short-term relationship as he would presume, but prince feels real for each relationship. There were too many reason for each of the break up, simply by difficult in communication and different types of behavior which brought about each broke up. Most importantly, prince does not trust relationship, and he put only a parcel of his feeling, he was too afraid to trust and love too much. When time goes by, prince learns, in order for a relationship to last long, trust is very important. Security is even important to him. Thus, he is now tried his ever best to make focus on trust and building trust in relationship, especially when he met princess. He realizes that he love princess very much, that trust can be the only element to determine the duration of the relationship. He is too afraid to tell princess about what his life in the past because he afraid that princess cares too much. He doesn’t want to lost princess just because he is stupid and ignorant in the past about relationship. But prince has decided to answer every question that may post by princess about his life, and he has even swear to do that no matter how, who knows what will happen next but prince knows this is important at this moment…till then…
Prince played the ‘truth and dare’ game in Langkawi, whereby, everyone had to speak the truth when was asked to do so. Mr. Big Brother asked prince about when he lost his virgin, somehow, male species do not have such thing as virgin, to rephrase it, would better term ‘the first time’, prince answered, 16 year old. Princess questions how many relationship has prince been through, but prince was just too afraid to be too transparent after all. However, not to be transparent will not be able to build trust in relationship, and thus prince decided to spill out.
Prince was with someone at the age of 16, and they had the first time. For a teen who knows a little about sex will certainly like to know more at this age. He believes so, until now, every one will have their first time, it’s a matter of early or late. After that affair, prince had a few more relationships which kick start of his life. He couldn’t remember the number of girl he has been before, but truly, prince was real in every relationship. Sometimes things happen and there’s no possible explanation to that. Prince led a totally different life when time goes by, until 5 years ago, when prince met with his ex. He put up more than1100% of his feeling, and she was always in his future that can foresee until she went overseas to study. To not disturb her study, and further, allowed her not to feel the commitment of hanging along with prince even both of them realized that distance can be a problem. Prince was then made his first move to initial the broke up by not contacting her. It ended happily 3 years back, and from that onwards, prince totally shifted his focus on study and work, getting a good grade was important for prince.
Prince has been through 6 relationships as he can remember, but a short-term relationship as he would presume, but prince feels real for each relationship. There were too many reason for each of the break up, simply by difficult in communication and different types of behavior which brought about each broke up. Most importantly, prince does not trust relationship, and he put only a parcel of his feeling, he was too afraid to trust and love too much. When time goes by, prince learns, in order for a relationship to last long, trust is very important. Security is even important to him. Thus, he is now tried his ever best to make focus on trust and building trust in relationship, especially when he met princess. He realizes that he love princess very much, that trust can be the only element to determine the duration of the relationship. He is too afraid to tell princess about what his life in the past because he afraid that princess cares too much. He doesn’t want to lost princess just because he is stupid and ignorant in the past about relationship. But prince has decided to answer every question that may post by princess about his life, and he has even swear to do that no matter how, who knows what will happen next but prince knows this is important at this moment…till then…
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