A few days ago, Prince wrote something about parenting thought; somehow, Prince did not mention clearly what is love and affection with reward and promise. Parent must also remember that love is an aesthetic feeling, and must ensure a continuous flow of it. Love and affection, generally arouses when you realize yourself.
Parent must not bring their frustration and disappointment home, nothing awful should be shown in front of their children until their children have the reasoning ability. It is simply not easy to have free flow of love and affection, with much self-conscious, to realize what one is doing.
Reward and promise can be far easier than love and affection, in term, but reward and promise without real love and affection are no better than a cold lie. When a child does wrong, you can make him ‘promise’ with your ‘promise’, and eventually, rewards as reinforcement, to correct his misbehave.
For example; ‘Sweetie, this is wrong, if you do it again, daddy will not love you anymore, you must promise daddy you will not misbehave, and if you be really good, daddy will buy a story book’
Do you see a promise that creates another invisible promise? And;
Do you see a reward?
How the reward is going to affect the child?
If the reward is a movie pass, Pizza Hut, Computer Game or Money term, will it generate a greater impact in character building process?
What will happen if the parent beat, reprimand, scold or engage any soft of punishment on the child?
There is always a catch, and whatever the parent will do, aim to correct the child negative character, always leads to the same outcome, but different approach.
Prince was once told, 3 persons who are hungry, cook for themselves the similar dish, at the end of the day, they manage to fill-up their stomach, solving the major problem- hungry, but here comes a doubt, how tasty and delicious are the food?
All the parent knows, is to correct the children character, forcing them to be good. Here comes a doubt, How good they do it?
Parent must not bring their frustration and disappointment home, nothing awful should be shown in front of their children until their children have the reasoning ability. It is simply not easy to have free flow of love and affection, with much self-conscious, to realize what one is doing.
Reward and promise can be far easier than love and affection, in term, but reward and promise without real love and affection are no better than a cold lie. When a child does wrong, you can make him ‘promise’ with your ‘promise’, and eventually, rewards as reinforcement, to correct his misbehave.
For example; ‘Sweetie, this is wrong, if you do it again, daddy will not love you anymore, you must promise daddy you will not misbehave, and if you be really good, daddy will buy a story book’
Do you see a promise that creates another invisible promise? And;
Do you see a reward?
How the reward is going to affect the child?
If the reward is a movie pass, Pizza Hut, Computer Game or Money term, will it generate a greater impact in character building process?
What will happen if the parent beat, reprimand, scold or engage any soft of punishment on the child?
There is always a catch, and whatever the parent will do, aim to correct the child negative character, always leads to the same outcome, but different approach.
Prince was once told, 3 persons who are hungry, cook for themselves the similar dish, at the end of the day, they manage to fill-up their stomach, solving the major problem- hungry, but here comes a doubt, how tasty and delicious are the food?
All the parent knows, is to correct the children character, forcing them to be good. Here comes a doubt, How good they do it?
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