Relationship is supposed to be aesthetic; perfection is what every couple looking for. But, how do you term perfection? Many believe that nothing is perfect, except, religion who always emphasize on perfection.
Do you believe in black magic? Previously, Prince called love a black magic, and rationality can overcome black magic, and Prince strongly stands by his statement. Rationality is a solution to black magic. But now, Prince would like to add on that Rationality no longer the only solution, the solution also makes up of attitude / character, relentless, decisive and Rationality, perhaps, can save you from being hurt, but sincerity is still very important when you step into relationship. The solution to black magic only applies when you have a problem.
After written so much about prince point of view in relationship, Prince have somehow be able to re-arrange the fact, and most important all his statements, to create a much more easier understanding about relationship and love.
A couple fall in love with each other, when they found something in common, or touch by the feeling of love flowing from each parties, or the first impression on sight that spark off the “love at first sight”. A progressive and consistent courting assume on both parties, and finally getting together.
During the courting progress, there’s always a parties that plays the dominant role in a relationship, it happens before and after a relationship, and this dominant position may switch, we may also call this as part of the power struggling in relationship, each party fighting with each other verbally, mentally and etc, just to be at the dominant position.
If you are courting a gorgeous lady, apparently, the lady plays the dominant role, because you need to touch her heart and get her attention, and you are trying every best. You will have to fly up to sky and grab the moon for her If she said she like to have the moon on the sky, you basically did whatever she said, though, may not necessarily all.
Once she has fallen in love with you, and emotionally and physically attached to you, the dominant party may change due to a few circumstances, you may be the dominant players because she starts to respect you and listen to you, and care for your feeling. However, her dominant position may stay, if, even if both already into relationship but still assume the mindset of courting, and that could be pretty terrible and misery for one party being dominated!
It is better to assume a balance domination of power, to avoid further power struggling and it can be fostered with mutual respect, love, care, understanding, patient and passion. What’s worse, human being is always selfish, especially man! Yes, even though Prince is a man, Prince still does not deny man is the most selfish creature on earth!
Once the dominant party falls on the man’s hand, and assume balance domination did not happen here, the boyfriends will start to control the his girlfriends. You may find his temper fickle from time to time; he may treat you well sometimes and treat you like shit sometimes. This is because man always fall into a phobia dilemma, whereby, what they see before the relationship and after getting into the relationship is very much different, they may have notice some thing in you that he doesn’t like, and he may start to regret. The dilemma arises because he has invested his feeling, as to whether love you or not love you. If it worsen, he may have lock another target, and be relentless to you.
Personally, this type of guy would be better to dump it! You wouldn’t want someone who does not even know what he himself is up to, and being so blur and immature in relationship.
But the situation will be very much different is both party share equal power through respect, even if relationship encounter problem in term of character or conflict of common interest, it is still much more easier to settle, they may appear to be very clear cut, and never linger with the problem that will lead to suffering at the end of the day.
Different type of relationship reflects different type of personality and character, and even reflects the maturity of the couple’s thinking. For the first scenario Prince explained, the couple may has too much imagination, and basically indulging into a dream instead of a real relationship. Meanwhile, second scenario, who shares mutual respect, and much more mature in handling relationship.
Different expectation
Define your expectation and find a solution or stop the problem; some people thought about relationship as controlling and heavy commitment, some people thought it suppose to be sweet. What about your relationship then? How would you term a perfect relationship? Is perfect relationship a relationship that has no argument at all? Prince considers that is just another excuse for more argument! Perhaps you may ask yourself if you can see a future with him/ her. That’s the main point even without commitment needed. That’s not about thinking of long term or short term relationship, it is about happiness and hopes, because nothing is perfect, problem arises and falls, up and down in life which may hurt you a lot if you set an expectation on your overall relationship.
Problem!
When you have a problem, and have tried many solutions, up and down, then it would be nice to stop the problem form lingering with your life and torturing you! Think big and work on it! Stop=Break-up!
Self confidence is important!
Sometimes, we need to evaluate our relationship as if the good and bad of your guy / girl, and see if the good one outperform the bad one, if not, what is the solution to it, or else no point getting into a relationship with someone who you may hate a lot more than love.
Set your guide
What is your basic requirement for your boyfriends? Set it and easier for you to make decision in future! Some girl likes guy even though he is a naughty, naughty fellow, but at least he is caring! Apparently, she only needs someone who are caring!
Do you believe in black magic? Previously, Prince called love a black magic, and rationality can overcome black magic, and Prince strongly stands by his statement. Rationality is a solution to black magic. But now, Prince would like to add on that Rationality no longer the only solution, the solution also makes up of attitude / character, relentless, decisive and Rationality, perhaps, can save you from being hurt, but sincerity is still very important when you step into relationship. The solution to black magic only applies when you have a problem.
After written so much about prince point of view in relationship, Prince have somehow be able to re-arrange the fact, and most important all his statements, to create a much more easier understanding about relationship and love.
A couple fall in love with each other, when they found something in common, or touch by the feeling of love flowing from each parties, or the first impression on sight that spark off the “love at first sight”. A progressive and consistent courting assume on both parties, and finally getting together.
During the courting progress, there’s always a parties that plays the dominant role in a relationship, it happens before and after a relationship, and this dominant position may switch, we may also call this as part of the power struggling in relationship, each party fighting with each other verbally, mentally and etc, just to be at the dominant position.
If you are courting a gorgeous lady, apparently, the lady plays the dominant role, because you need to touch her heart and get her attention, and you are trying every best. You will have to fly up to sky and grab the moon for her If she said she like to have the moon on the sky, you basically did whatever she said, though, may not necessarily all.
Once she has fallen in love with you, and emotionally and physically attached to you, the dominant party may change due to a few circumstances, you may be the dominant players because she starts to respect you and listen to you, and care for your feeling. However, her dominant position may stay, if, even if both already into relationship but still assume the mindset of courting, and that could be pretty terrible and misery for one party being dominated!
It is better to assume a balance domination of power, to avoid further power struggling and it can be fostered with mutual respect, love, care, understanding, patient and passion. What’s worse, human being is always selfish, especially man! Yes, even though Prince is a man, Prince still does not deny man is the most selfish creature on earth!
Once the dominant party falls on the man’s hand, and assume balance domination did not happen here, the boyfriends will start to control the his girlfriends. You may find his temper fickle from time to time; he may treat you well sometimes and treat you like shit sometimes. This is because man always fall into a phobia dilemma, whereby, what they see before the relationship and after getting into the relationship is very much different, they may have notice some thing in you that he doesn’t like, and he may start to regret. The dilemma arises because he has invested his feeling, as to whether love you or not love you. If it worsen, he may have lock another target, and be relentless to you.
Personally, this type of guy would be better to dump it! You wouldn’t want someone who does not even know what he himself is up to, and being so blur and immature in relationship.
But the situation will be very much different is both party share equal power through respect, even if relationship encounter problem in term of character or conflict of common interest, it is still much more easier to settle, they may appear to be very clear cut, and never linger with the problem that will lead to suffering at the end of the day.
Different type of relationship reflects different type of personality and character, and even reflects the maturity of the couple’s thinking. For the first scenario Prince explained, the couple may has too much imagination, and basically indulging into a dream instead of a real relationship. Meanwhile, second scenario, who shares mutual respect, and much more mature in handling relationship.
Different expectation
Define your expectation and find a solution or stop the problem; some people thought about relationship as controlling and heavy commitment, some people thought it suppose to be sweet. What about your relationship then? How would you term a perfect relationship? Is perfect relationship a relationship that has no argument at all? Prince considers that is just another excuse for more argument! Perhaps you may ask yourself if you can see a future with him/ her. That’s the main point even without commitment needed. That’s not about thinking of long term or short term relationship, it is about happiness and hopes, because nothing is perfect, problem arises and falls, up and down in life which may hurt you a lot if you set an expectation on your overall relationship.
Problem!
When you have a problem, and have tried many solutions, up and down, then it would be nice to stop the problem form lingering with your life and torturing you! Think big and work on it! Stop=Break-up!
Self confidence is important!
Sometimes, we need to evaluate our relationship as if the good and bad of your guy / girl, and see if the good one outperform the bad one, if not, what is the solution to it, or else no point getting into a relationship with someone who you may hate a lot more than love.
Set your guide
What is your basic requirement for your boyfriends? Set it and easier for you to make decision in future! Some girl likes guy even though he is a naughty, naughty fellow, but at least he is caring! Apparently, she only needs someone who are caring!
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