Prince: Tickling...

Do you tickle your baby / child when they cry, sad or disappointed? If you do, then you are still able to refrain yourself from doing it.

Apparently, most Asian parent does that for one reason, ‘the faster way to see a smile on their child’s face!’ If you really love your baby / child, then please do not ever tickled you baby to smile or laugh, when he is amidst of crying for certain reason, because looking deep into it, they are not just crying for what you see on the surface, for example, when you thought they cry for milk, in fact, they don’t cry for milk, but they cry for hunger, and which in turn throwing expectation to their mother, who they trusted and find reliable to give them milk.

Similarly, when they cry in kindergarten and feel strongly to attach or cling up to you, it is not because they want to be a nuisance to you or other, neither they don’t want to study nor don’t like kindergarten, it is because they do not feel secure without you at their side. Tickled them to laugh will only make them wonder, and putting a big question mark on their head

When the situation lingers on, the ties between parent and the children will break away, because they find no synchronize in communication. You tickled them to laugh when they are asking for sense of secure, you tickled them to laugh when they are asking for reliable source for breast feeding, you tickled them to laugh when they simply do not want interference in they play and so on, the continuous break down in understanding will lead to a less perfect relationship in future, most importantly, the personality of the child will be affected in one way or another.