Prince has made a wrong assumption due to a few series of even happening around lately, at which he should have realized the underlying fact about the incident, and that he should have stood on his neutral ground to take into consideration of other factors.
Sometimes, when event is occurring in your life once, may give have given you the wrong idea of what has happened, and when it happens twice, it gives you another emphasize effect of what has happen and what you have assumed earlier on, which strengthen your belief.
This, sometime, may be wrong, the wrong-doer, may be another party who did not convey the right message across to the other. For example, when A told B to do something on behalf on C, B may have doubt of what C may have in mind, B may assume this is what C needs in the process, further at this junction, if C makes another move which may create an emphasized effect on what B has assumed initially, will eventually strengthen the assumption of what C has in mind.
It may be too naïve to believe only in A, without finding the fact, as if what A wants B to do for C is what C want. At this junction, when looking back and evaluate, 2 mistakes have been committed, firstly, A may have a miscommunication with C which lead to another misunderstanding, secondly, B assumes C needs ‘what to be done’. The emphasized effect comes in, if C unintentionally mentions to B something that may have related to what need to be done, and then it will strengthen B perception of what should be done or what C wants.
Wednesday, August 31, 2005
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
Prince: Decision is made to follow! its like promise!
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Human being should just make up their mind without hesitation, and do not shrink away from what they have decided. This is certainly affecting your credibility, especially on the promise you have made to other.
Prince recalls the event, and think, if Mr. Big Brother tell her frankly that he can’t make it for the drink, then prince will not have promise to pick him up, and if so, then prince will not be going out though.
Prince first option is not going; prince’s reason of going out comes into consideration of Big Brother, and second reason of ‘entertaining’. If the first reason was not fulfill, then prince will just dump the idea and stood on his ground without mercy for sure. However, human being sometimes, being to kind to friends, thus, the first idea was fulfilled because Big Brother has promised, then it won’t be nice if prince left his friend stranded, furthermore, Sim has literally voiced out his inconvenient to pick up Big Brother at that time, so he promised to go for a drink. After prince had promised, prince knew he can not break his promise, no matter how, even Big Brother broke it. Prince has no excuses to turn it down, if he has, he would not have made the promise at the first place. If prince turned it down literally after knowing Big Brother doesn’t need transport anymore, then, even with explanation to Fion and friends, their heart will still be broken, and your credibility will still be affected.
Prince learns, one decision can affect so many people in the process, and it has the causation effect, more importantly, it shows that human being is link with each other in a circle that it has become a reality! That each can influence others in the circle, and affect them as a whole, however, prince wasn’t affected because he knows his stand, no is no, and yes is yes, if he already says yes, then it must keep it Yes until the end.
In fact, prince could have kept the NO until the end without taking into consideration of others feeling, but prince can’t uphold his own stand until it jeopardizes other feeling in the process, it will make you look merciless and stubborn because it is your friend who needs transportation to meet the others friends which he had promised to do so. But what prince can do now is to share with them that, decision must be made and follow sometimes, and must voice out the bottom of your heart and don’t shrink at the middle of the way. Or else, your credibility is shaken!
Human being should just make up their mind without hesitation, and do not shrink away from what they have decided. This is certainly affecting your credibility, especially on the promise you have made to other.
Prince recalls the event, and think, if Mr. Big Brother tell her frankly that he can’t make it for the drink, then prince will not have promise to pick him up, and if so, then prince will not be going out though.
Prince first option is not going; prince’s reason of going out comes into consideration of Big Brother, and second reason of ‘entertaining’. If the first reason was not fulfill, then prince will just dump the idea and stood on his ground without mercy for sure. However, human being sometimes, being to kind to friends, thus, the first idea was fulfilled because Big Brother has promised, then it won’t be nice if prince left his friend stranded, furthermore, Sim has literally voiced out his inconvenient to pick up Big Brother at that time, so he promised to go for a drink. After prince had promised, prince knew he can not break his promise, no matter how, even Big Brother broke it. Prince has no excuses to turn it down, if he has, he would not have made the promise at the first place. If prince turned it down literally after knowing Big Brother doesn’t need transport anymore, then, even with explanation to Fion and friends, their heart will still be broken, and your credibility will still be affected.
Prince learns, one decision can affect so many people in the process, and it has the causation effect, more importantly, it shows that human being is link with each other in a circle that it has become a reality! That each can influence others in the circle, and affect them as a whole, however, prince wasn’t affected because he knows his stand, no is no, and yes is yes, if he already says yes, then it must keep it Yes until the end.
In fact, prince could have kept the NO until the end without taking into consideration of others feeling, but prince can’t uphold his own stand until it jeopardizes other feeling in the process, it will make you look merciless and stubborn because it is your friend who needs transportation to meet the others friends which he had promised to do so. But what prince can do now is to share with them that, decision must be made and follow sometimes, and must voice out the bottom of your heart and don’t shrink at the middle of the way. Or else, your credibility is shaken!
Monday, August 29, 2005
Prince: Event teaches you the right thought..
After come back from a tiring day on 22 August, prince finally able to take a nap before he started to do his Law assignment, this assignment had given him much headache as to think of how to place the argument correctly, and without flaw. Somehow, he did not get a good rest due to the hot weather, which has made his room another sauna.
When he was about to laid down, he received a message from Fion, his colleague, inviting him out for a drink together with another 2 colleagues of him. Frankly, prince was a bit frustrated because he was trying to sleep, and after he received the message for second time, he replied, “Call Big Brother & Simmy Boy”. Finally, prince thought he can have a good sleep after all, who knows the weather was really damn hot, that he had to wake up and took a shower.
After he switched on his laptop, thinking of how to structure his assignment, he received another message from her, and prince, still stand to his ground of not going out, however, the third message, plus a call from Siew Ci, asking Prince to pick up Mr. Big Brother. Prince kindly turned it down by asking Sim to pick him up instead, but Simmy told them that he will join late, and prince finally has not way to turn it down, and he pondered, ‘since they came down twice from Seri Kembangan to have drink with prince, big brother and Simmy, this time perhaps, we must show our courtesy to go down’.
As far as prince concern, he realized that this is part of give and take, even though he really doesn’t feel like going out due to his assignment. To make it work both ways, prince suggested making it a bit later, and picking up Big Brother. But 2 minutes after Big Brother agreed on the phone with Fion to join in, he called prince to turn it down! Furthermore, Simmy, stood on the time, and apparently claimed to join later, but at the end he is not joining as well.
Prince was in a very difficult position to make a move, he can not turn it down because if he could, then he should not have offered to pick up Big Brother, without forgetting the fact that, he thought, of going out because he has to pick up Big brother, who has no choice of transport. He doesn’t have the heart of going out though. Now, what prince learns here…?
When he was about to laid down, he received a message from Fion, his colleague, inviting him out for a drink together with another 2 colleagues of him. Frankly, prince was a bit frustrated because he was trying to sleep, and after he received the message for second time, he replied, “Call Big Brother & Simmy Boy”. Finally, prince thought he can have a good sleep after all, who knows the weather was really damn hot, that he had to wake up and took a shower.
After he switched on his laptop, thinking of how to structure his assignment, he received another message from her, and prince, still stand to his ground of not going out, however, the third message, plus a call from Siew Ci, asking Prince to pick up Mr. Big Brother. Prince kindly turned it down by asking Sim to pick him up instead, but Simmy told them that he will join late, and prince finally has not way to turn it down, and he pondered, ‘since they came down twice from Seri Kembangan to have drink with prince, big brother and Simmy, this time perhaps, we must show our courtesy to go down’.
As far as prince concern, he realized that this is part of give and take, even though he really doesn’t feel like going out due to his assignment. To make it work both ways, prince suggested making it a bit later, and picking up Big Brother. But 2 minutes after Big Brother agreed on the phone with Fion to join in, he called prince to turn it down! Furthermore, Simmy, stood on the time, and apparently claimed to join later, but at the end he is not joining as well.
Prince was in a very difficult position to make a move, he can not turn it down because if he could, then he should not have offered to pick up Big Brother, without forgetting the fact that, he thought, of going out because he has to pick up Big brother, who has no choice of transport. He doesn’t have the heart of going out though. Now, what prince learns here…?
Sunday, August 28, 2005
Prince: Don't look only at Surface..
Of course, this article is an outcome of discussion with Mr. Big Brother, who doesn’t believe in love, he, who believes materialistic is the only element used to gain trust and attention from female. Nothing is perfect in this world, certainly, nothing is impossible in this world, and thus nothing is fixed to your thought.
Not all female are materialistic. You can not find a basket of apple to be all fresh, and similar in size though. It is what you want in life that determines what you get. If you prefer girl with materialistic, certainly, you will set your eyes on those, only materialistic girl. Some human being likes branded stuffs; certainly, those non-branded stuff will not even catch their eyes, thus they simply arrived at an assumption that only branded stuff is durable.
If you only like those girls who set their eye on money and material, certainly, after failing in relationship a few times; you would assume all girls look similar, unless, you have self-realization, which you always retrospect on your mistake, and improve over time.
Sometimes, one has to be sensitive over what other say about you, either good or bad, because it can help you to change to a better person in life. If you are man chauvinist, then you must change your attitude toward becoming an understanding man.
Usually, when one makes a mistake, they tend to commit similar mistake again and again, some man only like sexy and hot lady, and they screw up most often because, they just simply don’t match with each other. Sometime, they may feel jealous to see other guys who are able to snare hot and sexy lady, then they tend to make assumption that only money can help them win girl because they found out that guys who get hot and sexy lady are rich!
Prince has mentioned previously, that human being likes to look thing on the surface. Thus, they are being affected because their belief and stand are not strong enough. When you fail, just don’t give up, of course, you must be able to think back, and improve.
Not all female are materialistic. You can not find a basket of apple to be all fresh, and similar in size though. It is what you want in life that determines what you get. If you prefer girl with materialistic, certainly, you will set your eyes on those, only materialistic girl. Some human being likes branded stuffs; certainly, those non-branded stuff will not even catch their eyes, thus they simply arrived at an assumption that only branded stuff is durable.
If you only like those girls who set their eye on money and material, certainly, after failing in relationship a few times; you would assume all girls look similar, unless, you have self-realization, which you always retrospect on your mistake, and improve over time.
Sometimes, one has to be sensitive over what other say about you, either good or bad, because it can help you to change to a better person in life. If you are man chauvinist, then you must change your attitude toward becoming an understanding man.
Usually, when one makes a mistake, they tend to commit similar mistake again and again, some man only like sexy and hot lady, and they screw up most often because, they just simply don’t match with each other. Sometime, they may feel jealous to see other guys who are able to snare hot and sexy lady, then they tend to make assumption that only money can help them win girl because they found out that guys who get hot and sexy lady are rich!
Prince has mentioned previously, that human being likes to look thing on the surface. Thus, they are being affected because their belief and stand are not strong enough. When you fail, just don’t give up, of course, you must be able to think back, and improve.
Saturday, August 27, 2005
Prince: Celebration & Burglary
Unlucky day today, prince’s house was broken in today, and he lost a laptop and one hand phone, the total cost amount to more than RM 3,000. Prince was informed about the burglary when he was on his way to Teluk Gong, Klang around 6pm, to celebrate his CEO’s birthday. He knew that there was nothing he can do, even if he shouted around, furious or feeling depress, his laptop will not come back again; thus, he spent his night with the group of colleague, together celebrating Uncle William’s birthday. He tried to forget about the matter, and only thought about it when he arrived home.
Prince: Sub Principle and Choices
Sub-principle is more appropriate to uphold hen living in the current society, no one is to blame for hypocrite, but to ensure a better living in life, sometimes, sub principle becomes important in life. Human being can still gain respect by setting a different set of principles, certainly, it is obvious that different human being arrives at a different set of principles, and further, it depends on how oneself to uphold their stands, sometimes it may arrive at such a point that other would rather consider it as stubborn.
One must believe that life is always about making choices, and making choices is about sacrificing what you think is not important, at which has a direct or indirect effect to your future. Sometimes, it would be better to use cost and benefits to analysis the choices in hand. Put it in layman term, it is like choosing to be a millionaires or a monk? But the question is always, how to be a millionaire but also a monk at the same time, or a monk but also millionaires. This is to assume that a millionaire is a rich person with no principle at all, while a monk is a poor fellow with high respect & principle.
Arriving at the conclusion, human being always tries to balance their life, to achieve the greatest balance of all. That is when sub principle comes in, nothing as hypocrite or non-hypocrite, but this has become a necessity. Sub principle helps to confine them from making mistake, and most importantly, to foster self-realization. Being kind is also part of principle as per say, but how kind can you be and how far can you go in life? Being refraining yourself from smoking and drinking totally is not impossible, but it depends on the environment and your direction. It would seem difficulty for those in entertainment line, perhaps, or Public Relations Line. But it is certainly possible for those who prefer a stable and quiet life for the rest of their life.
Meanwhile, sub principles also depend on the wisdom of one particular person, as to which part of the moral value they would emphasize the most. Some human being hates cheating; some may be careless about it, and some human being receptive to drinking and smoking but hates prostitution. For those who have a special preference, certainly, first, due to their personal experience and background which affected their choices? Secondly, it’s the environment that confines them to such an act, as to adapt to the environment.
Human being is given the wisdom of solving problem; sometimes being over use / misuse in the process that you may consider it as a hypocritical move. The question is always, are you the hypocritical types or you are not? A scenario was always made to many learners, when a 10 millions contract was put in front of you, and the only request from your client is to drink in the pub, while your principle is not to drink. Will you do the necessary action? Even one sip will allow you to earn a millions. Certainly, do not forget the fact that there’s no trick and treat in the principle, because that’s the ultimate goal of becoming a man with principles, without sub principles to bound you.
Certainly, this has become a difficult options for learners, perhaps, only 1 out of 100 would rather stick to their own principle of not even stepping into the worlds of liquor, some would like to play smart, while drinking only water, but entertaining their client still. Some may only wish to drink a glass of two. Many answer for above question, but obviously, the first one received the greatest respect however he has chosen a life of norm, without being affected by material value.
No one should be considered as hypocrite in the process; they are merely making their choices but still sticking to their principles. If a person who uphold their principle, there shall be no room for that person to think of anything against the principles, for example, if a person doesn’t like drinking, then that person should not even think of stepping into the world of liquor, merely, dancing or hanging out can be an excuses after all. Prince will never make such a principle in life, because every principle will have an effect to others, and when a principle is made, principles will uphold to it till the day when doom arrived. Thus, principle is not simply to be made to follow. When a principle is made, then the rule must follow which is, see no evil, feel no evil, and think no evil, to be a person of ultimate principle holder.
Please refer to ‘thought of the day-principles’ written on August 24 in this blog to know more about what it calls principles.
One must believe that life is always about making choices, and making choices is about sacrificing what you think is not important, at which has a direct or indirect effect to your future. Sometimes, it would be better to use cost and benefits to analysis the choices in hand. Put it in layman term, it is like choosing to be a millionaires or a monk? But the question is always, how to be a millionaire but also a monk at the same time, or a monk but also millionaires. This is to assume that a millionaire is a rich person with no principle at all, while a monk is a poor fellow with high respect & principle.
Arriving at the conclusion, human being always tries to balance their life, to achieve the greatest balance of all. That is when sub principle comes in, nothing as hypocrite or non-hypocrite, but this has become a necessity. Sub principle helps to confine them from making mistake, and most importantly, to foster self-realization. Being kind is also part of principle as per say, but how kind can you be and how far can you go in life? Being refraining yourself from smoking and drinking totally is not impossible, but it depends on the environment and your direction. It would seem difficulty for those in entertainment line, perhaps, or Public Relations Line. But it is certainly possible for those who prefer a stable and quiet life for the rest of their life.
Meanwhile, sub principles also depend on the wisdom of one particular person, as to which part of the moral value they would emphasize the most. Some human being hates cheating; some may be careless about it, and some human being receptive to drinking and smoking but hates prostitution. For those who have a special preference, certainly, first, due to their personal experience and background which affected their choices? Secondly, it’s the environment that confines them to such an act, as to adapt to the environment.
Human being is given the wisdom of solving problem; sometimes being over use / misuse in the process that you may consider it as a hypocritical move. The question is always, are you the hypocritical types or you are not? A scenario was always made to many learners, when a 10 millions contract was put in front of you, and the only request from your client is to drink in the pub, while your principle is not to drink. Will you do the necessary action? Even one sip will allow you to earn a millions. Certainly, do not forget the fact that there’s no trick and treat in the principle, because that’s the ultimate goal of becoming a man with principles, without sub principles to bound you.
Certainly, this has become a difficult options for learners, perhaps, only 1 out of 100 would rather stick to their own principle of not even stepping into the worlds of liquor, some would like to play smart, while drinking only water, but entertaining their client still. Some may only wish to drink a glass of two. Many answer for above question, but obviously, the first one received the greatest respect however he has chosen a life of norm, without being affected by material value.
No one should be considered as hypocrite in the process; they are merely making their choices but still sticking to their principles. If a person who uphold their principle, there shall be no room for that person to think of anything against the principles, for example, if a person doesn’t like drinking, then that person should not even think of stepping into the world of liquor, merely, dancing or hanging out can be an excuses after all. Prince will never make such a principle in life, because every principle will have an effect to others, and when a principle is made, principles will uphold to it till the day when doom arrived. Thus, principle is not simply to be made to follow. When a principle is made, then the rule must follow which is, see no evil, feel no evil, and think no evil, to be a person of ultimate principle holder.
Please refer to ‘thought of the day-principles’ written on August 24 in this blog to know more about what it calls principles.
Friday, August 26, 2005
Prince: Simplicity
The rules of simplicity does not always apply in our daily routine, and in some theoretical perspective, simplicity does not command respect at all. Human being misuse simplicity for an instant outcome but forgone many possible sequelae. Of course, one must believe that no pain no gain, as nothing should arrive easy in the current century. It is still difficult to impart the ‘value of effort’ in the process of living especially in childhood education, as prince has been through.
There are many options in life, some may appear to be lengthy and complicated but some may appear to be simple and easy, however, one must not forgone the indirect consequence of the aftermath. Similarly, nurturing children of yours, should not always expect an easy outcome, which may create an indirect impact to your children in future.
Many Asian parents prefer to use forces or enforcement in the process of nurturing their children, forces consist of beating, scolding, reprimanding, nagging and other physical abuse or mental threatening to arrive to an outcome that, apparently satisfy them for the moment, though, they may claim to show love to their children in the process.
All the above nurturing skills which impart to them since young, or through the experience they were brought up before, may not necessarily meet the corrective requirement. However, it is hard to voice for changes in them.
Many parents claim that they beat their children because they love their children, and that they show them love after ward, it may be too naïve to compare to a situation whereby someone slap you hard enough and apologies to you later. You may have forgiven them but the psychological impact will always remain, and it may be worse enough to create a nightmare.
Sometimes, nurturing children have to take into consideration of the psychological element of the children; parenting is talking about nurturing the inner personality of a child, from a zero based where the personality of a child is shaped.
If you scold your children, and show your love later, it can not cure the psychological impact which you have created at the first place. There are many way to teach a child to change but the process is lengthy of course, and complicated which requires parent to learn and apply. Some parents may have too lazy to learn, and impatience always becomes the major hindrance to them.
If a child commits a mistake, it takes you one second to vent out your anger, and it may not stop them from committing the same mistake again, what a parent should do is not only to teach the children the appropriate measure to prevent mistake, but also to rectify the mistake by their own self.
One must also believe that human being commits mistake, especially children, because they are too vulnerable to the environment. If enforcement can help to solve the problem, then how much enforcement is needed?
Thought for the day: Nurturing a child!
Every human being commits mistake, either repeated or first time, children is even vulnerable to commit mistake. Children should learn how to rectify mistake, in order to prevent committing mistake.
Human being walks though the path before a lane is made, and when a lane is made only the road is created. The reality is created by the society of mix behaviors, and it is our responsibility to rectify the reality so that it is congruent. No one should always obey to reality if it is already deviated to the wrong path.
Nothing arrives without effort, though, the fact that one always prefer the simple and easy way, but to consider the lengthy way may sometimes appears to be more appropriate.
Throw away your experience, only then you can arrive at a new conclusion, or perhaps, a new way of life.
Nothing can stop you from doing what you want to do, thus, nothing can stop you from committing the similar mistake again and again, until you are able to be receptive.
The reality or the fact about stock market, when drafting it into a graph, is like our life. It moves up and down, undoubtedly, human being is trying to stabilize the move; this will not happen if they succumb to the reality.
There are many options in life, some may appear to be lengthy and complicated but some may appear to be simple and easy, however, one must not forgone the indirect consequence of the aftermath. Similarly, nurturing children of yours, should not always expect an easy outcome, which may create an indirect impact to your children in future.
Many Asian parents prefer to use forces or enforcement in the process of nurturing their children, forces consist of beating, scolding, reprimanding, nagging and other physical abuse or mental threatening to arrive to an outcome that, apparently satisfy them for the moment, though, they may claim to show love to their children in the process.
All the above nurturing skills which impart to them since young, or through the experience they were brought up before, may not necessarily meet the corrective requirement. However, it is hard to voice for changes in them.
Many parents claim that they beat their children because they love their children, and that they show them love after ward, it may be too naïve to compare to a situation whereby someone slap you hard enough and apologies to you later. You may have forgiven them but the psychological impact will always remain, and it may be worse enough to create a nightmare.
Sometimes, nurturing children have to take into consideration of the psychological element of the children; parenting is talking about nurturing the inner personality of a child, from a zero based where the personality of a child is shaped.
If you scold your children, and show your love later, it can not cure the psychological impact which you have created at the first place. There are many way to teach a child to change but the process is lengthy of course, and complicated which requires parent to learn and apply. Some parents may have too lazy to learn, and impatience always becomes the major hindrance to them.
If a child commits a mistake, it takes you one second to vent out your anger, and it may not stop them from committing the same mistake again, what a parent should do is not only to teach the children the appropriate measure to prevent mistake, but also to rectify the mistake by their own self.
One must also believe that human being commits mistake, especially children, because they are too vulnerable to the environment. If enforcement can help to solve the problem, then how much enforcement is needed?
Thought for the day: Nurturing a child!
Every human being commits mistake, either repeated or first time, children is even vulnerable to commit mistake. Children should learn how to rectify mistake, in order to prevent committing mistake.
Human being walks though the path before a lane is made, and when a lane is made only the road is created. The reality is created by the society of mix behaviors, and it is our responsibility to rectify the reality so that it is congruent. No one should always obey to reality if it is already deviated to the wrong path.
Nothing arrives without effort, though, the fact that one always prefer the simple and easy way, but to consider the lengthy way may sometimes appears to be more appropriate.
Throw away your experience, only then you can arrive at a new conclusion, or perhaps, a new way of life.
Nothing can stop you from doing what you want to do, thus, nothing can stop you from committing the similar mistake again and again, until you are able to be receptive.
The reality or the fact about stock market, when drafting it into a graph, is like our life. It moves up and down, undoubtedly, human being is trying to stabilize the move; this will not happen if they succumb to the reality.
Thursday, August 25, 2005
Prince: Thought for the day..Principle..
What is a principle after all? Principle is a preventive measure in life, and it teaches your persistency. However, how to arrive at a principle person is always relied on the life that one person live through.
Is a monk a person with strong principle? Yes, of course, a monk uphold their religion principle in such a way that they will not even think about matter that against their own principles, for example, a monk, if forbid from taking meat, will not even think of meat at the first place or offering meat to other while they are not taking it.
A principle should have no trick or treat in the process, if there is any; it should then fall into sub principle. If you have decided not to drink, then you shouldn’t have even step into the world of liquor, this is to uphold your stand.
When you set your principle in life, you must set it carefully as to gain respect from others, for example, not to cheat in exam, then you must not give excuse to cheat in exam by saying everybody is cheating or you allow other to cheat but you are not cheating. Hopefully, it provides some clarification about principles.
Thought of the day:
‘Trick or treat’ – trick where you don’t involve, treat where you place your effort!
No one can pass the ‘wrong doing’ to others in the process of transmitting the guilt to other party. No guilty should pass to others; no wrong-doing should be encouraged.
Principle should be upheld in order to spread the good value to others, not only uphold solely on its own stand.
A mastermind behind a conspiracy is always a person who upholds their own principle in the society to cover their own wrong-doing. They support, direct, control, encourage but yet, they do not involve, this is the trick.
Principle in totality can help you to become a holy person, a person who, the society highly regard, and received the greater respect!
Is a monk a person with strong principle? Yes, of course, a monk uphold their religion principle in such a way that they will not even think about matter that against their own principles, for example, a monk, if forbid from taking meat, will not even think of meat at the first place or offering meat to other while they are not taking it.
A principle should have no trick or treat in the process, if there is any; it should then fall into sub principle. If you have decided not to drink, then you shouldn’t have even step into the world of liquor, this is to uphold your stand.
When you set your principle in life, you must set it carefully as to gain respect from others, for example, not to cheat in exam, then you must not give excuse to cheat in exam by saying everybody is cheating or you allow other to cheat but you are not cheating. Hopefully, it provides some clarification about principles.
Thought of the day:
‘Trick or treat’ – trick where you don’t involve, treat where you place your effort!
No one can pass the ‘wrong doing’ to others in the process of transmitting the guilt to other party. No guilty should pass to others; no wrong-doing should be encouraged.
Principle should be upheld in order to spread the good value to others, not only uphold solely on its own stand.
A mastermind behind a conspiracy is always a person who upholds their own principle in the society to cover their own wrong-doing. They support, direct, control, encourage but yet, they do not involve, this is the trick.
Principle in totality can help you to become a holy person, a person who, the society highly regard, and received the greater respect!
Tuesday, August 23, 2005
Prince: Emulate & example...is Self-Defeating theory..
Being a bread winner for a family, it is very important to understand the expenses of one family itself, especially when only one source of income is available in a family, and merely enough for the family to survive.
Human being can not merely refer to the past-life example of which they tend to emulate, sometimes; it may not necessarily be the same case. Prince’s family used to earn RM 2000 – RM3000 a month but the situation has no different than a poor family, due to the expense for which a family needs to survive.
His parent supported 3 siblings at which prince was the eldest, and now doing his MBA. The family has no extra saving, and have to source for money when crisis hit in the family, but today, prince still alive and kicking. Prince ponders, ‘Do I have to emulate my family?’ the answer is always NO, not that his family can do it, and prince has to do it as well; he would rather make his choice of managing a family instead of running it.
Some family may have earned less than RM 1000 but able to up bring their children, they have been through a life that, probably, many others who earn more than RM 1000 have or have not been through. For example, for prince, his family would have earn RM 3000 a month to support 3 children, but to compare to the RM 1000 income family, they have no different. Prince realizes the nature of it, because prince judges at his own family living styles, every lunch and dinner, his mother will prepare dishes which have meat, fish and soup, further, judging at his brother’s body size, can assume that he eats a lot. These, all can help to conclude if a family earns better can lead a better life, or at the similar pace of a RM 1000 income family.
A family can earn a few hundred a month but still alive and kicking until now, probably, they lead a prudent, thrifty and simple life, eat vegetable, and take meat once a while, cook only merely enough for all family members without wasting any food, and not affected by temptation and material in life, then a few hundred per month can certainly help you to lead through your life, meanwhile, assisted by the family background, for example, did the ancestor inherit anything for the family that they can use to sustain they current living, for example, an estate or an old house which they can sell off for money? Under this type of family circumstance, moral value is very important, and further, a small amount of money can help to sustain the family for a very long period due to the prudence value.
In conclusion, it drilled down to the sacrifices and choices that one human being has to make, but certainly, not to follow the pace of others. Rationality is important, and a good management is as vital too. Sometimes, what we think it is may not construct what it is…
Human being can not merely refer to the past-life example of which they tend to emulate, sometimes; it may not necessarily be the same case. Prince’s family used to earn RM 2000 – RM3000 a month but the situation has no different than a poor family, due to the expense for which a family needs to survive.
His parent supported 3 siblings at which prince was the eldest, and now doing his MBA. The family has no extra saving, and have to source for money when crisis hit in the family, but today, prince still alive and kicking. Prince ponders, ‘Do I have to emulate my family?’ the answer is always NO, not that his family can do it, and prince has to do it as well; he would rather make his choice of managing a family instead of running it.
Some family may have earned less than RM 1000 but able to up bring their children, they have been through a life that, probably, many others who earn more than RM 1000 have or have not been through. For example, for prince, his family would have earn RM 3000 a month to support 3 children, but to compare to the RM 1000 income family, they have no different. Prince realizes the nature of it, because prince judges at his own family living styles, every lunch and dinner, his mother will prepare dishes which have meat, fish and soup, further, judging at his brother’s body size, can assume that he eats a lot. These, all can help to conclude if a family earns better can lead a better life, or at the similar pace of a RM 1000 income family.
A family can earn a few hundred a month but still alive and kicking until now, probably, they lead a prudent, thrifty and simple life, eat vegetable, and take meat once a while, cook only merely enough for all family members without wasting any food, and not affected by temptation and material in life, then a few hundred per month can certainly help you to lead through your life, meanwhile, assisted by the family background, for example, did the ancestor inherit anything for the family that they can use to sustain they current living, for example, an estate or an old house which they can sell off for money? Under this type of family circumstance, moral value is very important, and further, a small amount of money can help to sustain the family for a very long period due to the prudence value.
In conclusion, it drilled down to the sacrifices and choices that one human being has to make, but certainly, not to follow the pace of others. Rationality is important, and a good management is as vital too. Sometimes, what we think it is may not construct what it is…
Monday, August 22, 2005
Prince: Experience & Change equal to conflict!
A human being with 20 year experienced, learns his lesson through hard knock university, and encounters a problem. He consults a professional young executive for a solution, and he was given Solution B, meanwhile, he also comes out with his own solution which is Solution A.
In the process, he finds himself difficult to accept solution B because based on his own experience, thinking that solution A is the best way because he has used to apply that solution in use before. The young executive thinks through, and said, ‘You are bound by your own knowledge barrier, this time, it is not because lack of knowledge that stop you from changing, but, instead, though your 20 year times experienced, has made you stagnant to new change.’
In the process, he finds himself difficult to accept solution B because based on his own experience, thinking that solution A is the best way because he has used to apply that solution in use before. The young executive thinks through, and said, ‘You are bound by your own knowledge barrier, this time, it is not because lack of knowledge that stop you from changing, but, instead, though your 20 year times experienced, has made you stagnant to new change.’
Sunday, August 21, 2005
Prince: Your B controls D, or D Controls B?
Which type are you? Your brain controls your dick, or your dick controls your brain? This can help to tell if you are mentally strong enough to uphold your stands and principles. Unless you are willing to let it go, but, what’s wrong with letting go part of your life to adapt to the environment. However, you will still gain your respect as long as it was done without tricky or gimmick.
When you stand strong to your principles, it is not the principles that matter, but it was the mental stability and firmness that matters. This is the first stages of shaping your lifestyles, belief and building trust and respect.
It always start with the question, either your brain controls your dick, because if you are mentally firm enough to stand to whatever stand you hold, then you may consider yourself pass the holy test and move on to second stage. The second stage is to allow you to choose the ‘principles’ that you would like to uphold to, and then third stage where you choose your sub-principles.
When you stand strong to your principles, it is not the principles that matter, but it was the mental stability and firmness that matters. This is the first stages of shaping your lifestyles, belief and building trust and respect.
It always start with the question, either your brain controls your dick, because if you are mentally firm enough to stand to whatever stand you hold, then you may consider yourself pass the holy test and move on to second stage. The second stage is to allow you to choose the ‘principles’ that you would like to uphold to, and then third stage where you choose your sub-principles.
Saturday, August 20, 2005
Prince: The Solution...?
The transparency in the management becomes important to establish the unity and team work within the management itself. This may be the only solution to the wave of transition, to avoid further turn over, looking at the situation of turn over, employer must sit tight and evaluate the problem, receptivity becomes an important element to changes and continuous improvement, no other solution is applicable, if employers rather believe in their own perspective of self-management skills.
Eventually, the reason for some establish company to conduct exit interview, is to prevent problem lingering in the company so as to identify the reason for high turn over and further rectify the situation. However, company must then adopt the belief that employee is the greatest asset of all.
Eventually, the reason for some establish company to conduct exit interview, is to prevent problem lingering in the company so as to identify the reason for high turn over and further rectify the situation. However, company must then adopt the belief that employee is the greatest asset of all.
Friday, August 19, 2005
Prince: Argument makes a difference...
Prince has an argument with princess last night, princess blamed prince for looking at other ladies in the club on Saturday night, while dancing with princess. Simply, princess felt uncomfortably, because prince was staring on other ladies in the club. However, princess may have just too sensitive over the issues, and couldn’t accept the fact that every human being will have the tendency to catch moving items with their eye balls, especially when something interesting triggers their mind, they may observe, staring in one kind, but it doesn’t mean that they will do accordingly. This is a simple theory, whose knows, princess doesn’t seem to understand it, and rather, believe in what she thinks is right to protect her own stand. She forgone rationality and prince has to give way to resolve for a solution. Eventually, prince decided to cut off clubbing, and this is what he has wanted to do initially. But to avoid worry about princess driving late at night, Prince offers to pick and drop her off during clubbing. His stubbornness may have caused a lot of inconvenient in life but he knows this is what he has to do after all. He hopes princess doesn’t feel bad about it, and respect his decision… truly-heartedly…
Prince: Waves of Transition...
On 22 July, prince posted a write-up about what he thought of merging & management from zero, merging is a lengthy process which involves two different choices, either starts everything from the scratch again, or creating synergy within the management. The latter is always involving the stages of trust creation which is always, artificially covers the surface of the political war of transition period.
During the merging process, that major concern is the waves of transition, not just one, but a few transition period that will create a high staff turns over. The transition period, not only involves old staff but also new staff in the process, whereby, synergy clashes between both parties’ interest.
If the transition period begins, it becomes contagious, unless the ‘fundamental problem’ is resolved. The fundamental solution is to ‘neutralize’ the old culture in the management. Synergy will only ‘soften the conflict’ but does not solve it. When transition period begins, it shows that the ‘virus’ has infected the management, and the turn over rate will continue to rise, it is called waves of transition, the duration can be vary from time to time but will not stop. New team comes in, and goes at the end of the day before the objective is attained. This is an unhealthy trend in one company because the trend will go on and on without ending, and affect the morale and productivity of one company.
The management can not avoid the plague of transition if the problem of transition has not resolved at the early stages, or otherwise, when the virus permeated the culture and rooted permanently, it will be difficult, almost impossible to curb anymore.
New team working in the company, will have to prepare for a ‘marathon’, it is, somehow, like running a marathon in a sprint! Those who can’t sustain the marathon will suffer from ‘self-eliminating’ effect, which means they are swamped by the waves of transition.
The indicator of the commencement of transition is when any one of the employees decided to leave, and once he/she left, the rest who can not sustain will follow suit, and that marks the start of the transition wave.
If a company is adopting the attitude of continuous improvement, then there may be a solution to the problem before the virus spreads to others, or otherwise, new and old team will be replaced. Most often, when the wave hits, company will be too vulnerable to curb with the virus, practically in real life management.
Footnote:
Fundamental problem – The management sickness which will erode the management value, such as deprivation of employees’ freedom, benefit and etc
Neutralize – Old management, may appear to be over protective, intimidating or too softening, thus, new management needs to first balance the power.
Soften the conflict – to create synergy whereby, mutual understanding becomes important
The transition can vary from time to time – Employees may stay with one company for a certain period of time before they finally leave the company for good sake, they may stay for a few months, or a few years, second teams may stay longer or shorter, similarly to the third transition period which marks the new born of third team.
Running a marathon in a sprint – Marathon is supposed to run at a speed of medium pace, but in an expanding company, they will run the marathon in a sprint due to their speed of expansion, the time frame has set them into fast speed within the certain time frame.
Self-eliminating – Employee resigned, due to in-sustainable condition.
Transition wave – the cycle of turn over or changes
Continuous improvement is one type of management who are continuously looking for improvement, and solution to a problem, instead of creating problem itself.
During the merging process, that major concern is the waves of transition, not just one, but a few transition period that will create a high staff turns over. The transition period, not only involves old staff but also new staff in the process, whereby, synergy clashes between both parties’ interest.
If the transition period begins, it becomes contagious, unless the ‘fundamental problem’ is resolved. The fundamental solution is to ‘neutralize’ the old culture in the management. Synergy will only ‘soften the conflict’ but does not solve it. When transition period begins, it shows that the ‘virus’ has infected the management, and the turn over rate will continue to rise, it is called waves of transition, the duration can be vary from time to time but will not stop. New team comes in, and goes at the end of the day before the objective is attained. This is an unhealthy trend in one company because the trend will go on and on without ending, and affect the morale and productivity of one company.
The management can not avoid the plague of transition if the problem of transition has not resolved at the early stages, or otherwise, when the virus permeated the culture and rooted permanently, it will be difficult, almost impossible to curb anymore.
New team working in the company, will have to prepare for a ‘marathon’, it is, somehow, like running a marathon in a sprint! Those who can’t sustain the marathon will suffer from ‘self-eliminating’ effect, which means they are swamped by the waves of transition.
The indicator of the commencement of transition is when any one of the employees decided to leave, and once he/she left, the rest who can not sustain will follow suit, and that marks the start of the transition wave.
If a company is adopting the attitude of continuous improvement, then there may be a solution to the problem before the virus spreads to others, or otherwise, new and old team will be replaced. Most often, when the wave hits, company will be too vulnerable to curb with the virus, practically in real life management.
Footnote:
Fundamental problem – The management sickness which will erode the management value, such as deprivation of employees’ freedom, benefit and etc
Neutralize – Old management, may appear to be over protective, intimidating or too softening, thus, new management needs to first balance the power.
Soften the conflict – to create synergy whereby, mutual understanding becomes important
The transition can vary from time to time – Employees may stay with one company for a certain period of time before they finally leave the company for good sake, they may stay for a few months, or a few years, second teams may stay longer or shorter, similarly to the third transition period which marks the new born of third team.
Running a marathon in a sprint – Marathon is supposed to run at a speed of medium pace, but in an expanding company, they will run the marathon in a sprint due to their speed of expansion, the time frame has set them into fast speed within the certain time frame.
Self-eliminating – Employee resigned, due to in-sustainable condition.
Transition wave – the cycle of turn over or changes
Continuous improvement is one type of management who are continuously looking for improvement, and solution to a problem, instead of creating problem itself.
Thursday, August 18, 2005
Prince: Life & Passion...
For prince, life is good, and passion is love. Love covers a wide area.
Love can be your career, when you love your career; you tend to develop your passion. Meanwhile, passion is also closely related to confidence. If you are deprived of your confidence, certainly, you won’t be able to show your passion. The inner passion will remain where it is.
In relationship, love is more than a companionship, commitment and responsibility. It’s about sacrifice and give and takes. Love is like a sparker in life, revitalize your youthfulness.
In family, love is unity, and love is filial and responsibility. You need to love your family in order to retain your filial.
In friendship, love means friendship, a friendship that last longer, a friendship without love, is without loyalty and principles. A friendship without love is a friendship with betrayer.
In the child nurturing process, love means nurturing, instead of teaching, and love can create concern, caring and many more.
You need to love what you have; love plays an important role, because without love, you will not be able to appreciate things around you. You need to love what you have, only then you are able to appreciate.
Love can be your career, when you love your career; you tend to develop your passion. Meanwhile, passion is also closely related to confidence. If you are deprived of your confidence, certainly, you won’t be able to show your passion. The inner passion will remain where it is.
In relationship, love is more than a companionship, commitment and responsibility. It’s about sacrifice and give and takes. Love is like a sparker in life, revitalize your youthfulness.
In family, love is unity, and love is filial and responsibility. You need to love your family in order to retain your filial.
In friendship, love means friendship, a friendship that last longer, a friendship without love, is without loyalty and principles. A friendship without love is a friendship with betrayer.
In the child nurturing process, love means nurturing, instead of teaching, and love can create concern, caring and many more.
You need to love what you have; love plays an important role, because without love, you will not be able to appreciate things around you. You need to love what you have, only then you are able to appreciate.
Wednesday, August 17, 2005
Prince: Passion & Anger
Passion and anger can not be quantified, and is misleading when you only judge from the surface. When people talks with anger, is falling at the borderline of passion. When you are carried away by your inner anger, the manner of expressing may look similar to the pattern in passion talking. Your voice tends to rise, and you tend to confidently expressing your view, because you speak your heart, which you think you are right.
Judging from different perspectives, you need to look at or judge at a person from different perspectives, as to collect ‘information’ from different angle. A person’s background, living styles, character and attitude, may help you to determine their level of passion, instead of merely judging from the pattern of them expressing their view. People who can confidently express their view, may not because they are passion enough, it may be due to the knowledge they have in that particular topic too.
Of course, at this particular circumstance, we can not quantify knowledge, the basic understanding of this theory, is people has different level of understanding in different topic, and when the discussion touches on certain topic which they are familiar with, they can certainly out beat others in the process. The old one has always said, ‘perform only if you know best, and they talk only confidently when they own the knowledge in what they plan to talk’.
Judging from different perspectives, you need to look at or judge at a person from different perspectives, as to collect ‘information’ from different angle. A person’s background, living styles, character and attitude, may help you to determine their level of passion, instead of merely judging from the pattern of them expressing their view. People who can confidently express their view, may not because they are passion enough, it may be due to the knowledge they have in that particular topic too.
Of course, at this particular circumstance, we can not quantify knowledge, the basic understanding of this theory, is people has different level of understanding in different topic, and when the discussion touches on certain topic which they are familiar with, they can certainly out beat others in the process. The old one has always said, ‘perform only if you know best, and they talk only confidently when they own the knowledge in what they plan to talk’.
Tuesday, August 16, 2005
Prince:Character, Attitude...all contagious...
Today, Prince was laughed by his CEO that he has been through so many relationships before, and can be a counselor in love and relationship. However, prince doesn’t think that way though, what prince has learned are the rationality in relationship, and apply a rational judgment on how to maintain a good relationship.
Prince’s seriousness in relationship can help in his career tremendously. He believes that a person’s attitude in certain field will have a contagious effect, for example, if you treat people honestly, and this good value can help to carry yours, other daily routine.
It is about morality & ethical, for example, if you are committed in a relationship, you tend to commit to your work as well, and eventually, your family. The value that one person carries, will have a contagious effect, which subconsciously, applies in another facet of your life.
If you are a person who cans only ‘talk but no action’, then your execution skill will certainly range at a lower rate. In relationship, or in work, your responsibility, dignity and integrity will be affected as well. It is not only in one part of your life, but overall, it carries down and infected other molecules. A person, who tends to lie to friend, will tend to cheat company as well. A person who avoids responsibility in relationship will tend to avoid responsibility in work too.
Eventually, it drilled down to the balancing effect in life, for an iron woman, who spend most of her time in work, although, she may have been very responsible and committed to her work, but she has the higher possibility of neglecting her family, or sacrifice most of her family time. A perfect human being must be able to balance their life, equally share their time among other molecules of their life.
However, there is a person who has a huge achievement in career, but lousy husband or a lousy manager but a lovely husband or wife. These types of people, most possibly affect by the artificial value in character, whereby, they are intentionally or unintentionally covered by their artificial value, which always opposite of what they perceived they are. Faking is one of the major concerns in the society now, this type of people live with only artificial moral and ethical value. They do not realize that they are carrying a double-sided value in life. Thus, to avoid falling into the artificial of one-self, self-realization becomes important to maintain oneself in the same pathway.
Prince’s seriousness in relationship can help in his career tremendously. He believes that a person’s attitude in certain field will have a contagious effect, for example, if you treat people honestly, and this good value can help to carry yours, other daily routine.
It is about morality & ethical, for example, if you are committed in a relationship, you tend to commit to your work as well, and eventually, your family. The value that one person carries, will have a contagious effect, which subconsciously, applies in another facet of your life.
If you are a person who cans only ‘talk but no action’, then your execution skill will certainly range at a lower rate. In relationship, or in work, your responsibility, dignity and integrity will be affected as well. It is not only in one part of your life, but overall, it carries down and infected other molecules. A person, who tends to lie to friend, will tend to cheat company as well. A person who avoids responsibility in relationship will tend to avoid responsibility in work too.
Eventually, it drilled down to the balancing effect in life, for an iron woman, who spend most of her time in work, although, she may have been very responsible and committed to her work, but she has the higher possibility of neglecting her family, or sacrifice most of her family time. A perfect human being must be able to balance their life, equally share their time among other molecules of their life.
However, there is a person who has a huge achievement in career, but lousy husband or a lousy manager but a lovely husband or wife. These types of people, most possibly affect by the artificial value in character, whereby, they are intentionally or unintentionally covered by their artificial value, which always opposite of what they perceived they are. Faking is one of the major concerns in the society now, this type of people live with only artificial moral and ethical value. They do not realize that they are carrying a double-sided value in life. Thus, to avoid falling into the artificial of one-self, self-realization becomes important to maintain oneself in the same pathway.
Monday, August 15, 2005
Prince: When Love too much...
When a woman loves too much, they tend to be irrational in relationship. The old one always said, in love, a couple is willing to do almost anything for each other. But it is harmful to see if ONLY one party is willing to perform anything for the other.
They tend to channel their belief, and fall into the common dilemma in relationship, of loving too much. When you are not appreciated anymore in your relationship, you first, need to find solution to your problem. Effort from both parties is needed, however, if it doesn’t work, then what you should do?
When a problem can not be solved, it is because one party does not believe in changes, and prefer to lead with their own way, if that is the case, then no problem can be solved in that particular relationship.
Very often, when a problem isn’t solved, they will slowly channel their belief and fall into the above dilemma, whereby, they tend to ‘believe’ that their partner will change, from during they are together, until the day of their marriage, and after, they will still believe that their partner will change. They are then cheating themselves. By that moment, somehow they have already wasted their life to that partner who does not appreciate them at all.
Eventually, they either bear with it or believe it is fated or it will take a huge courage to reach at a decision of separation with their partner, but this is the only choice of not giving yourself to someone who does not appreciate you at all. This is a naïve believe in relationship into something impossible to happen.
They tend to channel their belief, and fall into the common dilemma in relationship, of loving too much. When you are not appreciated anymore in your relationship, you first, need to find solution to your problem. Effort from both parties is needed, however, if it doesn’t work, then what you should do?
When a problem can not be solved, it is because one party does not believe in changes, and prefer to lead with their own way, if that is the case, then no problem can be solved in that particular relationship.
Very often, when a problem isn’t solved, they will slowly channel their belief and fall into the above dilemma, whereby, they tend to ‘believe’ that their partner will change, from during they are together, until the day of their marriage, and after, they will still believe that their partner will change. They are then cheating themselves. By that moment, somehow they have already wasted their life to that partner who does not appreciate them at all.
Eventually, they either bear with it or believe it is fated or it will take a huge courage to reach at a decision of separation with their partner, but this is the only choice of not giving yourself to someone who does not appreciate you at all. This is a naïve believe in relationship into something impossible to happen.
Saturday, August 13, 2005
Prince: Expectation Process
When you set your dream, vision, direction or objective, and try ever best to achieve it, the process of achieving what you have set for yourself, is called ‘expectation processes’.
When you perform something, and wish to receive a token as a return, is also deem as expectation. In fact, it is all similar, because when you set your dream, and achieving it with your effort, you are actually, putting your effort and wishing to gain a return.
The return is to obtain what you have set for yourself. When you fail to gain what you have expected, you are then disappointed, disappointment is actually part of the expectation process.
It is inevitably, but you can retrospect and improve. If you fail to achieve your vision after so much effort, you can sit down and ponder what has gone wrong and what has to be done in order to achieve your dream. People are expecting every different thing every day. Some people have a low expectation, high expectation or even unethical expectation, whereby, you do nothing while still waiting for return!
When you perform something, and wish to receive a token as a return, is also deem as expectation. In fact, it is all similar, because when you set your dream, and achieving it with your effort, you are actually, putting your effort and wishing to gain a return.
The return is to obtain what you have set for yourself. When you fail to gain what you have expected, you are then disappointed, disappointment is actually part of the expectation process.
It is inevitably, but you can retrospect and improve. If you fail to achieve your vision after so much effort, you can sit down and ponder what has gone wrong and what has to be done in order to achieve your dream. People are expecting every different thing every day. Some people have a low expectation, high expectation or even unethical expectation, whereby, you do nothing while still waiting for return!
Friday, August 12, 2005
Prince: Love is a feeling...
Love is a feeling that covers many elements in life, mutual understanding, tolerance, loyalty, kind, and many other values are under the umbrella of Love.
Love is challenging, because love is born in such a way, that it can last until the end of your life.
Love is the sparking power, because when you are down, de-motivated, losing your grip or lonely, love can be such a strong driver in life, to drive you through all the tribulation.
Love is the long lasting feeling, because love is a feeling that never diminishes but only growing more and more, and grows forever…
Love is challenging, because love is born in such a way, that it can last until the end of your life.
Love is the sparking power, because when you are down, de-motivated, losing your grip or lonely, love can be such a strong driver in life, to drive you through all the tribulation.
Love is the long lasting feeling, because love is a feeling that never diminishes but only growing more and more, and grows forever…
Thursday, August 11, 2005
Prince: Companionship....Dilemma..
Companionship and love relationship are from totally two different worlds, companionship is a dilemma in relationship; however, it can be the very first relationship stage before going further, or start with companionship, and love relationship can grow later (but this is seldom the case).
Companionship is friendship or merely, a relationship of expecting someone to only be with you, or to get rid of your loneliness. It may occur without commitment, responsibility and the feeling of love. Usually at this trap, couple no longer feel ‘young’ anymore, and the fire of love has not ignite for a long period of time (cooling period). Companionship could be mainly due to aging problem, before or after married.
If it happens before marriage, then it is usually at age before 28, when a couple has been together for more than a year, sarcastically, they deem it as boredom, have conquered their life. Meanwhile, it also happen for couple at age after 28, this is the most significant one because both parties at this age, merely looking for people who can accompany them until the end of their life, instead of feeling, feeling may no longer stay within the person itself.
Companionship also happens after marriage, when a bad incident occurs, you care, but you care for love or cares for companionship, can be a tricky question. You may cry, mourn and grieve over the incident, but the purpose of grieving is different. You grieve because you lost someone you like, not love, you cry because you afraid of loneliness instead of love. Sometime, you hear people, crying over a dead body, “how can you leave me like that for the rest of my life, I want to go with you!” this is a statement that you most hear in practical life.
Companionship and love relationship, a dilemma for a couple! You need to make sure you are on the right track.
Companionship is friendship or merely, a relationship of expecting someone to only be with you, or to get rid of your loneliness. It may occur without commitment, responsibility and the feeling of love. Usually at this trap, couple no longer feel ‘young’ anymore, and the fire of love has not ignite for a long period of time (cooling period). Companionship could be mainly due to aging problem, before or after married.
If it happens before marriage, then it is usually at age before 28, when a couple has been together for more than a year, sarcastically, they deem it as boredom, have conquered their life. Meanwhile, it also happen for couple at age after 28, this is the most significant one because both parties at this age, merely looking for people who can accompany them until the end of their life, instead of feeling, feeling may no longer stay within the person itself.
Companionship also happens after marriage, when a bad incident occurs, you care, but you care for love or cares for companionship, can be a tricky question. You may cry, mourn and grieve over the incident, but the purpose of grieving is different. You grieve because you lost someone you like, not love, you cry because you afraid of loneliness instead of love. Sometime, you hear people, crying over a dead body, “how can you leave me like that for the rest of my life, I want to go with you!” this is a statement that you most hear in practical life.
Companionship and love relationship, a dilemma for a couple! You need to make sure you are on the right track.
Prince:Relationship Involves Stages..
Every relationship is made up of stages, and the development stages differ. A relationship will have to go through the struggling period after the commencement, and after this period, will certainly lead to more understanding and a better relationship. The stages are very simple to explain but may be difficult to understand thoroughly.
A relationship should start true heartedly with the match or compatibility of the inner personality, it will eventually lead to love, which is a romantic feeling for both party. If a relationship starts true heartedly without faking effect, it will ultimately lead to a lesser possibility of struggling in the process.
A relationship will have to go through the struggling period, because the couple does not start true heartedly, they simply, faking themselves for each other, because they want to show their partner the best of them. If a normal relationship starts from ‘faking’, which is terribly wrong in its nature, instead, a normal relationship should start from the person itself. Struggling period will arrive very soon after they get along. The reason is because they find out each other weaknesses in the process, and trying hard to accept each other weaknesses. A break- up occurs when they have finally given up of accepting each others.
What they have to do during the struggling period is to find a solution, and the solution is to foster trust and create transparency to each other, at which they have neglected during the first stage.
During the struggling period, tolerance and understanding become a vital element. Couple is learning to tolerate their own weaknesses, and understanding their inner personality, which they did not explore thoroughly before the commencement.
When they have been through the struggling period, it leads to another stage of romantic relationship, however, it also lead to another stage, either you are already married or not, this is another problem stage which we call the cooling period.
It is very important for you to set rule in your a relationship, for example, couple promises each other to hold hand whenever they are together, giving each other morning kiss, good night kiss or a warm kiss when they meet each other again or many others.
These rules may not help to solve the cooling period, but, if the rules are laid down in a relationship, it may become an indicator for you, as when the cooling period has arrived. When cooling period arrives, either party will do less of the above rules, then you should know it is time to do something so as to spark off the relationship again. If you allows the cooling period to go on and on without thinking of a solution, then any solution will work in lesser effect as time moves on. Indicators can help to remind you about the cooling period so as you can design a solution to your problem and leads to a happy ending with feeling of love and compassion
When will the cooling period arrive, and how do we catch the start of a cooling period, for examples, when you feel the fading of passion through daily life concern; when you feel difficulty in bringing up discussion; when you start to talk to your partner instead of talking with; when you no longer want to hold your partner’s hand, waist or gently cuddling; when you can not / no longer able to imagine or no longer want to give morning kiss or good night kiss to your partner.
Cooling period doesn’t mean a break up or divorce, it can be in a lesser effect. For example, a couple hitting 40 year old, no longer feel love, you tend to notice most of the Asian couple at this age, tend to go shopping, either the wife or the husband tend to walk faster than the others, and they seem careless about each other, because at this stage, after the long cooling period, they have drifted apart, and only commitment, responsibility and companionship that tie them together, instead of the true feeling. If matter worsen, there MAY be ‘hu-ha’ in one family or quiet life until end of their life. When the cooling period get longer, the outcome can either break-up, divorce or the better way, divert their love to one of their children which means may possibly spoil their children. The fault lies at both parties who did not try to do something, there shall be no one to blame except the couple.
The realization of the commencement of cooling period is important, because one party effort can still help to spark if off, but when it drifted too long, it will then need both party to put tremendous effort in the ‘sparking’ process, which seems almost impossible based on real life observation. Long cooling period has made revitalization impossible to happen again.
A relationship should start true heartedly with the match or compatibility of the inner personality, it will eventually lead to love, which is a romantic feeling for both party. If a relationship starts true heartedly without faking effect, it will ultimately lead to a lesser possibility of struggling in the process.
A relationship will have to go through the struggling period, because the couple does not start true heartedly, they simply, faking themselves for each other, because they want to show their partner the best of them. If a normal relationship starts from ‘faking’, which is terribly wrong in its nature, instead, a normal relationship should start from the person itself. Struggling period will arrive very soon after they get along. The reason is because they find out each other weaknesses in the process, and trying hard to accept each other weaknesses. A break- up occurs when they have finally given up of accepting each others.
What they have to do during the struggling period is to find a solution, and the solution is to foster trust and create transparency to each other, at which they have neglected during the first stage.
During the struggling period, tolerance and understanding become a vital element. Couple is learning to tolerate their own weaknesses, and understanding their inner personality, which they did not explore thoroughly before the commencement.
When they have been through the struggling period, it leads to another stage of romantic relationship, however, it also lead to another stage, either you are already married or not, this is another problem stage which we call the cooling period.
It is very important for you to set rule in your a relationship, for example, couple promises each other to hold hand whenever they are together, giving each other morning kiss, good night kiss or a warm kiss when they meet each other again or many others.
These rules may not help to solve the cooling period, but, if the rules are laid down in a relationship, it may become an indicator for you, as when the cooling period has arrived. When cooling period arrives, either party will do less of the above rules, then you should know it is time to do something so as to spark off the relationship again. If you allows the cooling period to go on and on without thinking of a solution, then any solution will work in lesser effect as time moves on. Indicators can help to remind you about the cooling period so as you can design a solution to your problem and leads to a happy ending with feeling of love and compassion
When will the cooling period arrive, and how do we catch the start of a cooling period, for examples, when you feel the fading of passion through daily life concern; when you feel difficulty in bringing up discussion; when you start to talk to your partner instead of talking with; when you no longer want to hold your partner’s hand, waist or gently cuddling; when you can not / no longer able to imagine or no longer want to give morning kiss or good night kiss to your partner.
Cooling period doesn’t mean a break up or divorce, it can be in a lesser effect. For example, a couple hitting 40 year old, no longer feel love, you tend to notice most of the Asian couple at this age, tend to go shopping, either the wife or the husband tend to walk faster than the others, and they seem careless about each other, because at this stage, after the long cooling period, they have drifted apart, and only commitment, responsibility and companionship that tie them together, instead of the true feeling. If matter worsen, there MAY be ‘hu-ha’ in one family or quiet life until end of their life. When the cooling period get longer, the outcome can either break-up, divorce or the better way, divert their love to one of their children which means may possibly spoil their children. The fault lies at both parties who did not try to do something, there shall be no one to blame except the couple.
The realization of the commencement of cooling period is important, because one party effort can still help to spark if off, but when it drifted too long, it will then need both party to put tremendous effort in the ‘sparking’ process, which seems almost impossible based on real life observation. Long cooling period has made revitalization impossible to happen again.
Wednesday, August 10, 2005
Prince: Break up is a disease...
The bottom-line in relationship or in whatever you plan to do, must be crystal clear. Talking about relationship, the bottom-line must be true-hearted, regardless of the duration of each of your relationship, or any incident that may occurs during the process.
Eventually, you will fall into the process of learning, and most importantly, learn through the process and evaluate own mistake.
A break up is a disease in relationship, and must not allow it to happen, first occurrence may lead to the commencement of another relationship, but if the problem doesn’t solve, the second break up is possible.
Sometimes, the starting point is vital to determine the duration of a relationship, either forever, or short term period. How you should create and confine your own bottom-line, apart from true-hearted, there are many other look into, such as caring, real love and concern.
Eventually, you will fall into the process of learning, and most importantly, learn through the process and evaluate own mistake.
A break up is a disease in relationship, and must not allow it to happen, first occurrence may lead to the commencement of another relationship, but if the problem doesn’t solve, the second break up is possible.
Sometimes, the starting point is vital to determine the duration of a relationship, either forever, or short term period. How you should create and confine your own bottom-line, apart from true-hearted, there are many other look into, such as caring, real love and concern.
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Prince: Imitate & Emulate?
There are many successful examples in life, which you may follow or may not follow, however, the bottom-line is, we need to learn from them but not to imitate them. Certainly, when speaking about one successful story, may create such an impact on an ordinary people that it becomes a motivation for one human being to dip into the field for imitation or emulation.
Of course, nothing is impossible in life, but every one must remember that, you have your own life and, different human being carries different personality and characters at which no one can imitate, if you solely believes in the success of one person may lead to you as the second person that success in that particular field, can be a lame believe after all.
For example, a student may have successfully obtained his medical degree from a reputable university, but it doesn’t mean that you can obtain the same degree. Firstly, your interest is certainly a major hindrance to you; secondly, you may not exert your best in a field which you are not familiar with. Thirdly, different people has different objective in life which create the balancing effect. Eventually, your personality may become incompatibility with what you want to do or what to be in particular field.
Many human being simply, being affected by the talking or persuasion, which in turn create the fascination effect that lead them into the wrong track. Certainly, people need to learn the hard way, but, the hard way isn’t blindly believed in what you see. You need to take into consideration many facet of your personal life as to whether it fits you.
Of course, nothing is impossible in life, but every one must remember that, you have your own life and, different human being carries different personality and characters at which no one can imitate, if you solely believes in the success of one person may lead to you as the second person that success in that particular field, can be a lame believe after all.
For example, a student may have successfully obtained his medical degree from a reputable university, but it doesn’t mean that you can obtain the same degree. Firstly, your interest is certainly a major hindrance to you; secondly, you may not exert your best in a field which you are not familiar with. Thirdly, different people has different objective in life which create the balancing effect. Eventually, your personality may become incompatibility with what you want to do or what to be in particular field.
Many human being simply, being affected by the talking or persuasion, which in turn create the fascination effect that lead them into the wrong track. Certainly, people need to learn the hard way, but, the hard way isn’t blindly believed in what you see. You need to take into consideration many facet of your personal life as to whether it fits you.
Monday, August 08, 2005
Prince: Not everything in Natural Way...
The relationship theory tells us that everybody is connected to each other in this society, and that mutual understanding and tolerance are both important elements that attach us together. Before a human being is moving into committing themselves in a special relationship, they have to understand what the natural believe is and what is human force that can help to push thing happens, even in relationship. Nothing is natural all its way until the end of one life, however, one life must be brave enough to create and become the change agent in life.
The dull believes in natural happening may have create the stagnancy in life. How and why? The lame believe in natural happening, is one type of happy go lucky character, or merely, a statement to comfort a loser. For example, if you were defeated in a basketball competition, your friend may as well advice you to let it go, let the god determine or let it fated. But, in fact, this advice will only cover up your fear, anger and dissatisfaction.
If everybody is to believe in fate, and god, and let thing happens in a natural way, then no one would want to work hard, as they might as well waiting for the fate to come, the luck that god has endowed them. If every human being is to believe in this direction, then they will be no millionaire, there will be no imbalance in life, there will be no aggressiveness, and no sales, no revenue and no motivation theory needed.
Similarly, in a relationship, there’s no way for you to wait and wait again, because you tend to learn nothing, people, would rather believe in a romantic and long term relationship, eventually they will look for it, and find way to foster and maintain a good relationship. One human being may have been through many relationships before, but, as long as he/she learns in the process, at the end, they realize their mistake in each of their relationship. Through mistake, they understand what they should be doing in order to lead a better relationship, similarly, to work, or every facet of a human life.
When you ask for a date, it is no longer in a natural way, because you put in effort to ask for it, this, you must remember.
The dull believes in natural happening may have create the stagnancy in life. How and why? The lame believe in natural happening, is one type of happy go lucky character, or merely, a statement to comfort a loser. For example, if you were defeated in a basketball competition, your friend may as well advice you to let it go, let the god determine or let it fated. But, in fact, this advice will only cover up your fear, anger and dissatisfaction.
If everybody is to believe in fate, and god, and let thing happens in a natural way, then no one would want to work hard, as they might as well waiting for the fate to come, the luck that god has endowed them. If every human being is to believe in this direction, then they will be no millionaire, there will be no imbalance in life, there will be no aggressiveness, and no sales, no revenue and no motivation theory needed.
Similarly, in a relationship, there’s no way for you to wait and wait again, because you tend to learn nothing, people, would rather believe in a romantic and long term relationship, eventually they will look for it, and find way to foster and maintain a good relationship. One human being may have been through many relationships before, but, as long as he/she learns in the process, at the end, they realize their mistake in each of their relationship. Through mistake, they understand what they should be doing in order to lead a better relationship, similarly, to work, or every facet of a human life.
When you ask for a date, it is no longer in a natural way, because you put in effort to ask for it, this, you must remember.
Saturday, August 06, 2005
Prince: Fundamental Motivation ...
Salary is the fundamental motivation value for a company to retain their staff, and maintain the spirit of team work, and achievement. The basic motivation theory in one company management depends very much on the salary that one company is willing to pay.
The working mechanism of salary to foster motivation value in one company should go in line with company goals. Prince believes that if a human being was paid higher, they are tied with the commitment to show their ability, and their responsibility is virtually higher.
Company, who pays higher than the employee expectation, can help to create and foster higher value in employee’s responsibility and commitment. It can also help to increase the retention rate in one company.
Normal human being, perhaps, not every human being, has the sense of responsibility and commitment, however, these responsibilities and commitment are shattered only when dispute occurs.
If you were to assume dispute is a never happen matter in one company, then salary is always the basic value for employee motivation. Even if, dispute does occur in one company, if the salary is high enough to preserve his/her integrity and patient, his/her responsibilities and commitments, will still remain unshaken, but aggressiveness may be diminish as time moves on.
When you ponder deeply, what drive sales person to be aggressive, and what drive people to work? It always drilled down to the fundamental value- Material, which is money. People works for money, only a certain group of people, whom, money works for them.
Money is such a black magic; it can spoil your mind, your life and many other things. There is no ‘alphabetical’ stage as to how money should move up your stage of life, however, Prince can be sure that, it is a MUST for every human being to work for money at the early stage, before they are able to let the money work for them.
The working mechanism of salary to foster motivation value in one company should go in line with company goals. Prince believes that if a human being was paid higher, they are tied with the commitment to show their ability, and their responsibility is virtually higher.
Company, who pays higher than the employee expectation, can help to create and foster higher value in employee’s responsibility and commitment. It can also help to increase the retention rate in one company.
Normal human being, perhaps, not every human being, has the sense of responsibility and commitment, however, these responsibilities and commitment are shattered only when dispute occurs.
If you were to assume dispute is a never happen matter in one company, then salary is always the basic value for employee motivation. Even if, dispute does occur in one company, if the salary is high enough to preserve his/her integrity and patient, his/her responsibilities and commitments, will still remain unshaken, but aggressiveness may be diminish as time moves on.
When you ponder deeply, what drive sales person to be aggressive, and what drive people to work? It always drilled down to the fundamental value- Material, which is money. People works for money, only a certain group of people, whom, money works for them.
Money is such a black magic; it can spoil your mind, your life and many other things. There is no ‘alphabetical’ stage as to how money should move up your stage of life, however, Prince can be sure that, it is a MUST for every human being to work for money at the early stage, before they are able to let the money work for them.
Friday, August 05, 2005
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
Monday, August 01, 2005
The day of verdict..
Today is the day of verdict, which shows the capability of prince in organizing event for company. Prince has been through much event management, and this is the easier one, certainly, without intervention could have made it even easier. Prince was thrown into the swimming pool after the event, as a way to celebrate our success. Wet the whole body, prince running around hugging people, and he got Leo Lee, the Vice Principal Trainee, rubbing his body all over Leo, and he got wet too. Everything was cool, and prince likes the feeling of getting an event done…
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