Prince:Relationship Involves Stages..

Every relationship is made up of stages, and the development stages differ. A relationship will have to go through the struggling period after the commencement, and after this period, will certainly lead to more understanding and a better relationship. The stages are very simple to explain but may be difficult to understand thoroughly.

A relationship should start true heartedly with the match or compatibility of the inner personality, it will eventually lead to love, which is a romantic feeling for both party. If a relationship starts true heartedly without faking effect, it will ultimately lead to a lesser possibility of struggling in the process.

A relationship will have to go through the struggling period, because the couple does not start true heartedly, they simply, faking themselves for each other, because they want to show their partner the best of them. If a normal relationship starts from ‘faking’, which is terribly wrong in its nature, instead, a normal relationship should start from the person itself. Struggling period will arrive very soon after they get along. The reason is because they find out each other weaknesses in the process, and trying hard to accept each other weaknesses. A break- up occurs when they have finally given up of accepting each others.

What they have to do during the struggling period is to find a solution, and the solution is to foster trust and create transparency to each other, at which they have neglected during the first stage.

During the struggling period, tolerance and understanding become a vital element. Couple is learning to tolerate their own weaknesses, and understanding their inner personality, which they did not explore thoroughly before the commencement.

When they have been through the struggling period, it leads to another stage of romantic relationship, however, it also lead to another stage, either you are already married or not, this is another problem stage which we call the cooling period.

It is very important for you to set rule in your a relationship, for example, couple promises each other to hold hand whenever they are together, giving each other morning kiss, good night kiss or a warm kiss when they meet each other again or many others.

These rules may not help to solve the cooling period, but, if the rules are laid down in a relationship, it may become an indicator for you, as when the cooling period has arrived. When cooling period arrives, either party will do less of the above rules, then you should know it is time to do something so as to spark off the relationship again. If you allows the cooling period to go on and on without thinking of a solution, then any solution will work in lesser effect as time moves on. Indicators can help to remind you about the cooling period so as you can design a solution to your problem and leads to a happy ending with feeling of love and compassion

When will the cooling period arrive, and how do we catch the start of a cooling period, for examples, when you feel the fading of passion through daily life concern; when you feel difficulty in bringing up discussion; when you start to talk to your partner instead of talking with; when you no longer want to hold your partner’s hand, waist or gently cuddling; when you can not / no longer able to imagine or no longer want to give morning kiss or good night kiss to your partner.

Cooling period doesn’t mean a break up or divorce, it can be in a lesser effect. For example, a couple hitting 40 year old, no longer feel love, you tend to notice most of the Asian couple at this age, tend to go shopping, either the wife or the husband tend to walk faster than the others, and they seem careless about each other, because at this stage, after the long cooling period, they have drifted apart, and only commitment, responsibility and companionship that tie them together, instead of the true feeling. If matter worsen, there MAY be ‘hu-ha’ in one family or quiet life until end of their life. When the cooling period get longer, the outcome can either break-up, divorce or the better way, divert their love to one of their children which means may possibly spoil their children. The fault lies at both parties who did not try to do something, there shall be no one to blame except the couple.

The realization of the commencement of cooling period is important, because one party effort can still help to spark if off, but when it drifted too long, it will then need both party to put tremendous effort in the ‘sparking’ process, which seems almost impossible based on real life observation. Long cooling period has made revitalization impossible to happen again.