Human being tends to have the tendencies of taking for granted for sure, and that sometimes they misuse the expectation on other human being so as they can spend effortless to achieve what they anticipated.
Even if they know what they want from people, but they must understand that no pain no gain, and that, superstitious does not exist in this world anymore, blindly expect and misuse the real intention of expectation, are wrong.
If course, life can not live without expectation, in every facet of life, expectation simply exist. As the general-semanticists comes out with the equation of ‘H=ME+MM’ which represents ‘Happiness = Minimum Expectation + Maximum Motivation’. Thus, expectation can not run away from normal human life, even if it is in relationship. It is part of your life which helps to make up of your life rainbow.
Meanwhile, Action + Expectation = Goal; Goal, alone incorporated Action & expectation, while, expectation alone did not cover action, however, when you set your goal, you are setting expectation of what to achieve and the timeframe to achieve your goal so that you can gauge the degree of energy, similarly, action that you need to enforce. However, if expectation comes without action, it was then considered as mis-use.
Simple example is when you were asked to pen down your expected salary, while you can not write the number if you don’t have the least, minimum expectation in you, just like the semanticist equation has shown.
Human being merely, can not leave without expectation, even if you are setting your goal, expectation is tag along with goal. Another example of expectation is which does not express in word but in behavior. This, prince hopes to enlighten and open up your thought, especially your wisdom on ‘expectation’. It is common for parent to compare their children with the one in neighbor or relatives. This particular act has implicitly fuel in the sense of expectation, and later on when the action comes in is when parent starts to send their children to children center, and giving and pressuring them with many other activities, expecting them to become as good as neighbor kids.
Wednesday, September 28, 2005
Tuesday, September 27, 2005
Prince: Human Behavior...
Prince into a few situations before, whenever he tried to educate young parents about parenting skills, he noticed that a few parents will tend to deny the fact that they are using the similar approach as their parents have brought them up, and that they also deny the fact that they are wrong. Fortunately, not everyone shares the same character and psychological behavior.
Prince realizes that there is no wrong or right, they may deny the fact but psychologically they agree to the point. This is human nature; they are bound by their responsibility to protect someone they are closely related. Human being denies the fact because they are exerting some soft of self-defense. Psychologically feels the need to protect their beloved one or themselves personally.
For example, you tend to protect you child from being reprimanded by their teacher when they did mistake, you tend to be irrational. Some parents do that, and they blindly turn down every fact that the teacher has to tell them by taking at their children side. What is more when the parenting topic is related to their paternal traditional styles, at which you continuously rectify them.
Prince realizes that there is no wrong or right, they may deny the fact but psychologically they agree to the point. This is human nature; they are bound by their responsibility to protect someone they are closely related. Human being denies the fact because they are exerting some soft of self-defense. Psychologically feels the need to protect their beloved one or themselves personally.
For example, you tend to protect you child from being reprimanded by their teacher when they did mistake, you tend to be irrational. Some parents do that, and they blindly turn down every fact that the teacher has to tell them by taking at their children side. What is more when the parenting topic is related to their paternal traditional styles, at which you continuously rectify them.
Monday, September 26, 2005
Prince:Village Fellowships...
Prince still remembers he was in the fellowship of the future to be. He has 4 friends who leading to the birth of the circles.
B.K is a studious student; he always scores a good result for his study, and has currently completed his food bio-tech from USM, and now pursuing his Master in the similar University as Prince believes. B.K does not expect a lot but to be able to support his family will please him much. He does not think and dream high, as he believes time will come, and opportunity will soon arrive though.
Y.K is a diploma holder in Mechanical Engineering, who is now working for a machine manufacturing company in Penang. He travels to US often. He is ambitious, and used to dream a lot. He does not mind to work extra, and goes extra mile just for an achievement which he believes he desires the most. One scenario which can describe him, he is like a tiger who notice a prey, and is walking slowly to eat the prey. He has a dream and walking slowly to achieve it.
Max has just completed his law from University of Nottingham. Max is a bit sluggish, he isn’t look ambitious but he has got his own dream, which is becoming a lawyer. Max has a persistency in his dream, which we all tend to doubt initially. From the past few year with him, we all know that he isn’t a studios type, and isn’t do well in study. However, the least, he manages to pass all his paper, perhaps, that is the reason we all are worried about him. We encourage him a lot, whenever we meet, and of course, we are glad that he managed to get through every stage until now.
As for prince who is a Business Administration student majoring in Marketing Management, and currently pursuing his Master in International Business in Prime College. He dreams a lot, and he is such an ambitious man, who walks slowly, step by step to achieve his dream. Prince always believes, time is not a problem for his achievement, as long as it provides stability and a greater success.
J is a diploma holder in Computer Science, currently has no news on him, because he used to be considered as the worse case in the fellowship, perhaps. Something may have happened for sure.
Five of them share the same background, both are not from well-off family, and has been through a tough time. For prince, the toughest time is during Economic crisis when his family owes hundred of thousands, and even food had become a problem for them. During that time, it was rather being thrifty and leads a normal life, than no money at all. Prince has no money to be thrifty!
The five fellows sit together and vow to each other that they will help each other in future, for those among the fellowship who become a successful figure, will help those in the fellowship who still trying their best to achieve their dream.
Prince tags it along with a few conditions, that each of them must strive for the best. They must always be aggressive and look for self-improvement. They must not take for granted and rely on other fellows for achievement, and thus, this is to make this fellowship a pure fairness, which everyone contribute and try their best. They promise to each other if anyone of them is in trouble in future, then other will assist either monetary, or on their own expertise.
Prince said, ‘we all must work hard, and assuming that I am fortunate enough to own a factory, then I will get Max to come in as a partner and be my legal consultant, then Y.K to look after the machine, B.K can come in for his related field, and this is a good example of how we can help each other and become a partner to each other’.
Prince reiterated, ‘certainly, I have to be rational, the condition must also stand to its ground, if you are not good, we will help you, unless you aren’t helping yourself, same to me here, If I am not good, then I will feel like an embarrassment to you and myself, but I will not allow this to happen to me’.
Prince added, ‘If I am not good, then how am I supposed to help you in future when you approach me? And that will be an embarrassment to me because you look up to me, and I disappointed you, so to avoid this problem, every one of us must make sure that we are the best’.
The fellowship has been 6 years, and prince meets them every year, whenever he has time, though it is difficult to meet up with some of them such as Max who is in UK, and has just completed, while, Y.K who sometimes go overseas, and B.K who now busy with his own University work. This is such a village fellows, and they are still sticking to it, and everyone is improving from time to time…
B.K is a studious student; he always scores a good result for his study, and has currently completed his food bio-tech from USM, and now pursuing his Master in the similar University as Prince believes. B.K does not expect a lot but to be able to support his family will please him much. He does not think and dream high, as he believes time will come, and opportunity will soon arrive though.
Y.K is a diploma holder in Mechanical Engineering, who is now working for a machine manufacturing company in Penang. He travels to US often. He is ambitious, and used to dream a lot. He does not mind to work extra, and goes extra mile just for an achievement which he believes he desires the most. One scenario which can describe him, he is like a tiger who notice a prey, and is walking slowly to eat the prey. He has a dream and walking slowly to achieve it.
Max has just completed his law from University of Nottingham. Max is a bit sluggish, he isn’t look ambitious but he has got his own dream, which is becoming a lawyer. Max has a persistency in his dream, which we all tend to doubt initially. From the past few year with him, we all know that he isn’t a studios type, and isn’t do well in study. However, the least, he manages to pass all his paper, perhaps, that is the reason we all are worried about him. We encourage him a lot, whenever we meet, and of course, we are glad that he managed to get through every stage until now.
As for prince who is a Business Administration student majoring in Marketing Management, and currently pursuing his Master in International Business in Prime College. He dreams a lot, and he is such an ambitious man, who walks slowly, step by step to achieve his dream. Prince always believes, time is not a problem for his achievement, as long as it provides stability and a greater success.
J is a diploma holder in Computer Science, currently has no news on him, because he used to be considered as the worse case in the fellowship, perhaps. Something may have happened for sure.
Five of them share the same background, both are not from well-off family, and has been through a tough time. For prince, the toughest time is during Economic crisis when his family owes hundred of thousands, and even food had become a problem for them. During that time, it was rather being thrifty and leads a normal life, than no money at all. Prince has no money to be thrifty!
The five fellows sit together and vow to each other that they will help each other in future, for those among the fellowship who become a successful figure, will help those in the fellowship who still trying their best to achieve their dream.
Prince tags it along with a few conditions, that each of them must strive for the best. They must always be aggressive and look for self-improvement. They must not take for granted and rely on other fellows for achievement, and thus, this is to make this fellowship a pure fairness, which everyone contribute and try their best. They promise to each other if anyone of them is in trouble in future, then other will assist either monetary, or on their own expertise.
Prince said, ‘we all must work hard, and assuming that I am fortunate enough to own a factory, then I will get Max to come in as a partner and be my legal consultant, then Y.K to look after the machine, B.K can come in for his related field, and this is a good example of how we can help each other and become a partner to each other’.
Prince reiterated, ‘certainly, I have to be rational, the condition must also stand to its ground, if you are not good, we will help you, unless you aren’t helping yourself, same to me here, If I am not good, then I will feel like an embarrassment to you and myself, but I will not allow this to happen to me’.
Prince added, ‘If I am not good, then how am I supposed to help you in future when you approach me? And that will be an embarrassment to me because you look up to me, and I disappointed you, so to avoid this problem, every one of us must make sure that we are the best’.
The fellowship has been 6 years, and prince meets them every year, whenever he has time, though it is difficult to meet up with some of them such as Max who is in UK, and has just completed, while, Y.K who sometimes go overseas, and B.K who now busy with his own University work. This is such a village fellows, and they are still sticking to it, and everyone is improving from time to time…
Prince: Heaven, Earth & Hell...
This is another good example of Heaven, Earth and Hell. Prince remembers he used to quote that example, but now, it is going to be in use again in one relationship problem. For those out there who is having problem with boyfriend or girl friends, at which your beloved one is not the true love of your, that fulfill your expectation, and which tormenting your life.
Prince has mentioned before that each human being is born with choices, and weighing the choices before decision is made, is equally vital to determine where you will be heading in your life.
A human originated from earth, he eats, sleeps, and grew up in this land called Earth. One day, he looked up the sky, called heaven, and on top of his mind, he wanted to visit heaven. He went up, and found heaven to be a paradise. He wished to stay but was rejected. He was then sent back to earth.
During the moment of disappointment, he looked down while he walked, and found a land below the land of earth, called Hell. Someone told him that hell was not a good place to hang around with; it was full of dirtiness, and the opposite of heaven. However, He still thought he had found another replacement for heaven, which was as good as heaven, thus, he went down for a visit. He soon realized that hell was not what he was looking for, and that his realization took him year to come real.
He came back to Earth again, but nightmare was just begun, because he returned to the Earth- the land of purity, with hell.
The conclusion is, sometimes, it is better for you to stay wherever you are. You know that you can’t find heaven yet, and you also know hell is what it means by ‘hell’. Then you should have rather stayed on Earth, than going to hell-the world of torture and miserable.
Prince has mentioned before that each human being is born with choices, and weighing the choices before decision is made, is equally vital to determine where you will be heading in your life.
A human originated from earth, he eats, sleeps, and grew up in this land called Earth. One day, he looked up the sky, called heaven, and on top of his mind, he wanted to visit heaven. He went up, and found heaven to be a paradise. He wished to stay but was rejected. He was then sent back to earth.
During the moment of disappointment, he looked down while he walked, and found a land below the land of earth, called Hell. Someone told him that hell was not a good place to hang around with; it was full of dirtiness, and the opposite of heaven. However, He still thought he had found another replacement for heaven, which was as good as heaven, thus, he went down for a visit. He soon realized that hell was not what he was looking for, and that his realization took him year to come real.
He came back to Earth again, but nightmare was just begun, because he returned to the Earth- the land of purity, with hell.
The conclusion is, sometimes, it is better for you to stay wherever you are. You know that you can’t find heaven yet, and you also know hell is what it means by ‘hell’. Then you should have rather stayed on Earth, than going to hell-the world of torture and miserable.
Saturday, September 24, 2005
Prince: Study...
Prince wonders why human likes to study human behavior, and later, he found out that human study human, not because they want to know more about human, but to know more about themselves. People who want to know about human behavior, tend to exert self-expectation of being a perfect person, they like to find out the child inside of them. Of course, human study has shown that there is a child in each of every human being living in this world, and this child is living under a totally different world-‘inner city’- of that human. He/she embraces the total opposite character of the reality of him/her. To make accurate study, reading must be able to pull the child out of the inner city, so that he/she can act upon you, and the child shall tell you his/her life, expectation, and the world inside, for you to see the attractive, and interesting of the other city. That is, perhaps, the reason why human study human behavior, they want to pull their own child out of their own city, so that they can hear their own child relate to them how the world inside of them turn. The child will speak for his/her own…
Prince:Laziness and Excuses...
Laziness is part of human life, so does human want to deny the fact that they are lazy. Similarly, excuses are part of human life, so does human want to deny the fact that they are giving excuses. Prince used to think that he pays too much attention at work that he does not have time for relationship until a few years ago, he learned. He realized that he is giving excuse for laziness, because he spent time for work as usual for his dream, and too tired to spend time for others, and he used to take for granted. In fact, if he is willing to sacrifice his leisure of relaxing for relationship, it will make his life better earlier. Human being, who claims to have no time for fitness, is also giving an excuse to cover their laziness. Human being, who claims to have no time for study, is also a way to cover their failure. Prince used to think that he has no time for study previously, but recall back, he is just too lazy to spend his night on book! Luckily, prince realizes his mistake earlier and goes on with his Master study. Sometimes, human being just needs some education to construct their thought, so that they can think properly, and laziness will not bring you anyway, because if you want to go an extra mile in comparison to others, laziness shall not be in your dictionary.
Friday, September 23, 2005
Prince: See and See...Deeply....
What can be better than being your own self, living without worry? She is a determine person, a person with sense of wisdom, knowledgeable but tag along with stubbornness. In fact, she does not want to be a determine person, because this is not a life she expects when her heart speaks.
She does not want a life; where she has to care for her shape, care for her friends, think about others and many more. She feels bored, and of course, she afraid of boredom, she finds as much activities as possible to fill up her life, but at the end, she still feels the boredom, at this point she has already mingled up Boredom and loneliness, it confused her, and certainly, this is not what she wants.
She craves something different, something which can spruce her life up. Apparently, she knows what is lacking in her life, but, her sight may be too blurring to realize. She is now living in her own shadow, finding way to walk out of it, just like how she find way to make herself occupy.
Once a while, she hit back to her comfort zone, a bed that she misses a lot, a place where she want to just lay down and cuddling off. She wants to keep that moment forever, but she also realize that it is impossible because she has got her own life out there, commitment and responsibility have pressured her. She thought being in the comfort zone, can give her much pleasure, but eventually, she realized, this is just an illusion for her expectation, of what she thinks she needs, and wants.
She has a dream, moderate in its size, she want to learn and become someone knowledgeable, there’s someone in side of her that she want to beat, she desire success, and she try her best to do it, eventually, it is still not up to expectation, family, friends, siblings especially, what else can be a comparison as a measurement of what she can perform, it will only give her pressure, a pressure of life that she will eventually turn into someone else in future, perhaps, in 5 years or 10 year to come.
Friends, the only source she can rely on for now, or perhaps, the biggest source she can rely on. She cares a lot for friendship, and certainly, unable to lose one. She never tell the truth about herself, she keeps it inside of her own world, speak freely only to her inner child, and thus, transform her inner child into someone else, totally opposite of her, her child realize the importance of change, and from what she has told her, the child learns and transform the weakness into strength.
Now, the child has become someone else, which can be more rational than her for sure, but can her child reflect what she needs. Unfortunately, penetrating the life of the real person is difficult unless, she allows her inner child to speak out…
She does not want a life; where she has to care for her shape, care for her friends, think about others and many more. She feels bored, and of course, she afraid of boredom, she finds as much activities as possible to fill up her life, but at the end, she still feels the boredom, at this point she has already mingled up Boredom and loneliness, it confused her, and certainly, this is not what she wants.
She craves something different, something which can spruce her life up. Apparently, she knows what is lacking in her life, but, her sight may be too blurring to realize. She is now living in her own shadow, finding way to walk out of it, just like how she find way to make herself occupy.
Once a while, she hit back to her comfort zone, a bed that she misses a lot, a place where she want to just lay down and cuddling off. She wants to keep that moment forever, but she also realize that it is impossible because she has got her own life out there, commitment and responsibility have pressured her. She thought being in the comfort zone, can give her much pleasure, but eventually, she realized, this is just an illusion for her expectation, of what she thinks she needs, and wants.
She has a dream, moderate in its size, she want to learn and become someone knowledgeable, there’s someone in side of her that she want to beat, she desire success, and she try her best to do it, eventually, it is still not up to expectation, family, friends, siblings especially, what else can be a comparison as a measurement of what she can perform, it will only give her pressure, a pressure of life that she will eventually turn into someone else in future, perhaps, in 5 years or 10 year to come.
Friends, the only source she can rely on for now, or perhaps, the biggest source she can rely on. She cares a lot for friendship, and certainly, unable to lose one. She never tell the truth about herself, she keeps it inside of her own world, speak freely only to her inner child, and thus, transform her inner child into someone else, totally opposite of her, her child realize the importance of change, and from what she has told her, the child learns and transform the weakness into strength.
Now, the child has become someone else, which can be more rational than her for sure, but can her child reflect what she needs. Unfortunately, penetrating the life of the real person is difficult unless, she allows her inner child to speak out…
Prince: Man...
Why man like foot ball / play games/ basket ball / etc?
It is because they like challenging, and most importantly, they find nothing leisure in life. For a married man, it shows that man has a portion of their life occupied with something more important than their family.
Why man like to read newspaper in toilet?
Pleasure for sure, especially when the ‘thing’ comes out. They feel like heaven.
Why men like to look at sexy girl?
Men are filled with sense of curiosity; secondly, they are visualized creatures, they see / look to feel.
Why man involve in affairs?
It is because they feel that their own one is no better than outside!
Why men always fall for lust?
The biggest weakness of all, because they can not stand distraction!
Why men like to drink?
It makes them feel like a man!
Why man like to control their woman?
Similarly, woman likes to control their man, man feels proud when they control their woman. It fulfills their man chauvinists!
Why men like to brag?
It helps to fulfil what they can not achieve! Most importantly self esteem!
Why men do not like house work?
It is because man are born to be lazy, they after long working hour in office, they believe they should not do anything at home!
Why man takes for granted?
It is because they believe they have already own it, and personalize it, and what they have can not run away anymore!
Why man can easily voice for broke up, and come back to you later?
It is because they have got what they want! Achievement!
Why man like sex?
This help to solve their need, fulfill their self-satisfaction, and time to show that they are man!
Why men never admit their mistake (man chauvinist)?
It is because they always believe they are the best!
Why men like to watch pornographic?
First, they never believe that they are good at it, secondly, they never satisfy with what they got!
Why men like to look into mirror wherever they are?
This is because they are vain!
When men says how much they love you, do they really mean it and why?
This is because men are natural sweet-talker, and they always want to gain your trust!
Why men buy woman lingerie?
This is because they want them to wear it for them ONLY! It makes them feel the ownership of woman!
It is because they like challenging, and most importantly, they find nothing leisure in life. For a married man, it shows that man has a portion of their life occupied with something more important than their family.
Why man like to read newspaper in toilet?
Pleasure for sure, especially when the ‘thing’ comes out. They feel like heaven.
Why men like to look at sexy girl?
Men are filled with sense of curiosity; secondly, they are visualized creatures, they see / look to feel.
Why man involve in affairs?
It is because they feel that their own one is no better than outside!
Why men always fall for lust?
The biggest weakness of all, because they can not stand distraction!
Why men like to drink?
It makes them feel like a man!
Why man like to control their woman?
Similarly, woman likes to control their man, man feels proud when they control their woman. It fulfills their man chauvinists!
Why men like to brag?
It helps to fulfil what they can not achieve! Most importantly self esteem!
Why men do not like house work?
It is because man are born to be lazy, they after long working hour in office, they believe they should not do anything at home!
Why man takes for granted?
It is because they believe they have already own it, and personalize it, and what they have can not run away anymore!
Why man can easily voice for broke up, and come back to you later?
It is because they have got what they want! Achievement!
Why man like sex?
This help to solve their need, fulfill their self-satisfaction, and time to show that they are man!
Why men never admit their mistake (man chauvinist)?
It is because they always believe they are the best!
Why men like to watch pornographic?
First, they never believe that they are good at it, secondly, they never satisfy with what they got!
Why men like to look into mirror wherever they are?
This is because they are vain!
When men says how much they love you, do they really mean it and why?
This is because men are natural sweet-talker, and they always want to gain your trust!
Why men buy woman lingerie?
This is because they want them to wear it for them ONLY! It makes them feel the ownership of woman!
Thursday, September 22, 2005
Prince: Woman....
Prince still remember he used to read a book about woman psychology, the book allows woman to understand themselves and for man to know why woman react strangely! Just to list a few.
Why woman like to nag?
The theory about woman nagging is similar to a baby crying for milk. Women are complicated creatures on the earth but their mind is as simple as a child, and they occupy their mind with what they did. Many researches have proven that housewife nag the most because they spend most of their time at home, cleaning and tidying the house, and that their mind is restricted within a boundary. They lost touch to the world outside, and they tend to nag easily because you are within their territory-at home. They do not like their ‘effort’ to be tamper, and certainly, they rule the kingdom (house). Besides, they do not know that they are nagging, even if you have pointed out to them, and usually they will deny it. That’s woman! If you asked about the way to solve nagging woman, certainly, you would need advice from expert, but what prince has learned from the eldest, is to get your wife an office job, a simple job will do, as to occupy their time, most importantly, their mind.
Why woman control their man?
For this question, you would better ask why woman jealous because the answer would almost similar for both. Woman likes to control their man for four reasons, first, because they want security, second, because they know they are easily jealous, thirdly, they have low self-confidence, and last but not least, it gives them the sense of achievement! It is not necessary to mention how they control because most man know or experience it before.
Why woman knows that their love one is the worse lover in this world but still, they are unwilling to accept the truth?
Some woman, probably many out there, who knows that their men are not a good husband, but still, they are unable to accept the fact, similarly to man as well. For example, a woman is willing to marry to a man who are drug addict, alcoholic, addicted gambler and others. When they are questioned, they would probably say they believe in real love, but rather it is a blind love. A simple explanation to this, it is because woman likes to dream, at which they thought they are expecting without doing anything. It is a norm for woman to believe that their boyfriends will change, they embrace a hope that is impossible to fulfill, until the day of their wedding, woman will still embrace the hope that he will change, they keep giving themselves an excuse to deny the harsh reality. Very often you hear woman saying, ‘he will change after marry’, when you see her again, ‘she will probably say, ‘he will change after we have a child’, and then again, ‘he will change after we have children’! And more and more and they wasted their life with someone who they believe so much.
Why woman like shopping?
Woman likes shopping because they are into vanity! It is like men who are vain! Certainly you need to understand shopping woman so that you can cope with one in future, because many guy tend to halt their lover from shopping. This will be regarded as a breach of freedom, because woman can not run away from this word-vanity.
Why woman like to wear sexy?
Certainly, not just sexy, but it means beautiful and attractive. This is because they would like to attract attention especially man who put their eye on them! It makes them feel proud, sometimes they may react a bit defensive by criticizing on man, but what on earth are they expecting then. The ultimate reason is to take the attention from man who walk pass, and it gives them satisfaction.
Why woman never tell man their real feeling?
Woman always lie to their man, similar to man who lie to their woman. Woman is a jealousy creatures, this, you must understand, and they keep most of the feeling as secret until the right time to blow it out all to you. The simple explanation from the book is that woman are narrow minded, this make them the way they are.
When woman say no, it is a yes
When woman say no, they mean yes, though you must remember, it is not apply in all circumstance! For example, if you ask them out for lunch or dinner, if they say yes, it is a yes to all, because if it is a no, they wouldn’t have agreed to your invitation.
Why woman always believe that they are right?
Woman always believe that they are right because they crave for the feel of a queen. They want to be respected, and they want obedience from you. You should never argue with them when they say they are right, because they may be right, even if they are wrong, let them take it before you correct them. All you need to do is to treat them like a baby, it is self-correcting, the least you give them respect. But remember, do not sound at them when problem occurs even if you know it at the first place because it ruins the respect you have given them earlier.
Why woman always think that they are the proudest creature in the world?
A simple explanation, it is because they give birth!
Why woman is inquisitive?
It is because they got nothing better to do, you never notice an iron woman to be such inquisitive, don’t you?
Why woman never satisfy with their body?
‘I am fat’, you tend to hear this complain even if they already look like a bamboo! They will never satisfy with their body because they like to compare! When they start comparing, they will never satisfy.
Why woman sometimes talk bad about their man?
This is to make them feel great, proud, and that show that they have sacrifice a lot!
Why woman like to nag?
The theory about woman nagging is similar to a baby crying for milk. Women are complicated creatures on the earth but their mind is as simple as a child, and they occupy their mind with what they did. Many researches have proven that housewife nag the most because they spend most of their time at home, cleaning and tidying the house, and that their mind is restricted within a boundary. They lost touch to the world outside, and they tend to nag easily because you are within their territory-at home. They do not like their ‘effort’ to be tamper, and certainly, they rule the kingdom (house). Besides, they do not know that they are nagging, even if you have pointed out to them, and usually they will deny it. That’s woman! If you asked about the way to solve nagging woman, certainly, you would need advice from expert, but what prince has learned from the eldest, is to get your wife an office job, a simple job will do, as to occupy their time, most importantly, their mind.
Why woman control their man?
For this question, you would better ask why woman jealous because the answer would almost similar for both. Woman likes to control their man for four reasons, first, because they want security, second, because they know they are easily jealous, thirdly, they have low self-confidence, and last but not least, it gives them the sense of achievement! It is not necessary to mention how they control because most man know or experience it before.
Why woman knows that their love one is the worse lover in this world but still, they are unwilling to accept the truth?
Some woman, probably many out there, who knows that their men are not a good husband, but still, they are unable to accept the fact, similarly to man as well. For example, a woman is willing to marry to a man who are drug addict, alcoholic, addicted gambler and others. When they are questioned, they would probably say they believe in real love, but rather it is a blind love. A simple explanation to this, it is because woman likes to dream, at which they thought they are expecting without doing anything. It is a norm for woman to believe that their boyfriends will change, they embrace a hope that is impossible to fulfill, until the day of their wedding, woman will still embrace the hope that he will change, they keep giving themselves an excuse to deny the harsh reality. Very often you hear woman saying, ‘he will change after marry’, when you see her again, ‘she will probably say, ‘he will change after we have a child’, and then again, ‘he will change after we have children’! And more and more and they wasted their life with someone who they believe so much.
Why woman like shopping?
Woman likes shopping because they are into vanity! It is like men who are vain! Certainly you need to understand shopping woman so that you can cope with one in future, because many guy tend to halt their lover from shopping. This will be regarded as a breach of freedom, because woman can not run away from this word-vanity.
Why woman like to wear sexy?
Certainly, not just sexy, but it means beautiful and attractive. This is because they would like to attract attention especially man who put their eye on them! It makes them feel proud, sometimes they may react a bit defensive by criticizing on man, but what on earth are they expecting then. The ultimate reason is to take the attention from man who walk pass, and it gives them satisfaction.
Why woman never tell man their real feeling?
Woman always lie to their man, similar to man who lie to their woman. Woman is a jealousy creatures, this, you must understand, and they keep most of the feeling as secret until the right time to blow it out all to you. The simple explanation from the book is that woman are narrow minded, this make them the way they are.
When woman say no, it is a yes
When woman say no, they mean yes, though you must remember, it is not apply in all circumstance! For example, if you ask them out for lunch or dinner, if they say yes, it is a yes to all, because if it is a no, they wouldn’t have agreed to your invitation.
Why woman always believe that they are right?
Woman always believe that they are right because they crave for the feel of a queen. They want to be respected, and they want obedience from you. You should never argue with them when they say they are right, because they may be right, even if they are wrong, let them take it before you correct them. All you need to do is to treat them like a baby, it is self-correcting, the least you give them respect. But remember, do not sound at them when problem occurs even if you know it at the first place because it ruins the respect you have given them earlier.
Why woman always think that they are the proudest creature in the world?
A simple explanation, it is because they give birth!
Why woman is inquisitive?
It is because they got nothing better to do, you never notice an iron woman to be such inquisitive, don’t you?
Why woman never satisfy with their body?
‘I am fat’, you tend to hear this complain even if they already look like a bamboo! They will never satisfy with their body because they like to compare! When they start comparing, they will never satisfy.
Why woman sometimes talk bad about their man?
This is to make them feel great, proud, and that show that they have sacrifice a lot!
Wednesday, September 21, 2005
Prince: Charity begins at home...
For some people, having a family is a burden, while for some people, having children is a burden. Somehow this is merely an excuse to avoid holding any extra responsibility. For some people, setting up a family means settling down, but for prince, setting up a family is just a beginning of his real life. The old one always said, Charity begins at home, somehow, they do not explain it quite clearly to others who absorb the knowledge. Everything must have a starting point, and family is certainly where you should start. For people who are aging but still working for money, who neglecting another part of his life-setting up a family, tend to lead a solitary life, and this has led to imbalance of life as well. Somehow, they can also achieve this far if they are willing to spend some time thinking of it. Imbalance of life, can affect human in many different ways, but the most significant one, is on their behavior, which simultaneously affect their life styles and habit. If you try to spend time observing, you will notice the different…………
Tuesday, September 20, 2005
Prince:Feeling of importance...
Prince loves writing, and sharing, but writing alone in a confined room right now is just not what he wants in life. He certainly can gain more inspiration if princess is around. Prince stayed with princess a few days back, in his father’s house. He feels home somehow, perhaps, princess was around that time. To his amaze, prince was able to complete his work faster than before, because he knew that princess was waiting for him for dinner right behind his back. This is how a lover should feel, perhaps, one kind of motivation. He believes that this is very important in a relationship, because if this weird feeling of motivation does not exist, then it does not reflect the importance of the other party. Similarly, for princess, when she knows that prince is waiting for her, she will usually speed, hoping that she can see prince right away…prince always laugh his way up, and advise her ‘don’t speed, no worry, I will be waiting’… Prince still remember when princess was sick, he used to cook porridge for her, hoping that she will recover soon. Similarly, when prince was sick, princess brought a pot of red bean soup (Is that what it calls- soup?) Same to every one of you out there, because if your beloved one does not feel the importance of you, then you may need to re-look into your relationship now, it may still in time… cheers and good luck…
Monday, September 19, 2005
Prince:Dr. House...
Prince watched Dr. House today, and learns a word of two. He has no idea what movie it is since he is not a movie follower; however, to tell a bit about the movie, it is about a Doctor, named House, patient calls him Dr. House. He is someone who does not believe in god, as he had said in the movie, if he believes in god, he wouldn’t be a doctor anymore, because people die and go heaven. The concept of believe is different now as he told one of the nun, because the nun basically believe in everything that happen on her is the will of god. It reflects how human being making use of god, and spend effortless in their life. Worse still, sometime they utilize god’s word to criticize others, it is sad to learn this development stage of modern religious nowadays. There will be no freedom of religion anymore if this particular concept of belief goes on. Every religion will appear to be commercial, and loses the purpose of real religion.
Meanwhile, another nun, who embraces a different concept of belief, at a different scenario for sure, has made prince think of what she had said about Dr. House. She said to Dr. House, ‘you know you have to be serious about it, but somehow you are not serious about it, you hide your seriousness with joke of the day because you afraid’. It is true that people makes joke to hide their inner world, they do not want other to know what they currently think of, perhaps, with the mere purpose of not letting other down. When you are sad, you tend to hide your sadness with joke, similarly, when you are serious about your work, you tend to hide away your feeling of seriousness because you do not want the atmosphere to aggravate, and pressuring. It is a norm to human being, thus, the old one has always claimed that the one who makes the most jokes are the one who are solitary, however, this, only tell you one portion of the life. In work, people who joke a lot are people who are serious about their work. Among friends, the one who joke a lot are the one leading solitary life with lot of expectation to fulfill. In family, the one who joke a lot are the one who love the family the most. In relationship, the one who joke a lot are the one who are willing to sacrifice a lot to make the other happy…and the list goes on…
Meanwhile, another nun, who embraces a different concept of belief, at a different scenario for sure, has made prince think of what she had said about Dr. House. She said to Dr. House, ‘you know you have to be serious about it, but somehow you are not serious about it, you hide your seriousness with joke of the day because you afraid’. It is true that people makes joke to hide their inner world, they do not want other to know what they currently think of, perhaps, with the mere purpose of not letting other down. When you are sad, you tend to hide your sadness with joke, similarly, when you are serious about your work, you tend to hide away your feeling of seriousness because you do not want the atmosphere to aggravate, and pressuring. It is a norm to human being, thus, the old one has always claimed that the one who makes the most jokes are the one who are solitary, however, this, only tell you one portion of the life. In work, people who joke a lot are people who are serious about their work. Among friends, the one who joke a lot are the one leading solitary life with lot of expectation to fulfill. In family, the one who joke a lot are the one who love the family the most. In relationship, the one who joke a lot are the one who are willing to sacrifice a lot to make the other happy…and the list goes on…
Sunday, September 18, 2005
Prince: Children...The psychology aspects..
Do you believe that children can feel what you feel? And children, certainly, can discern good and bad, only if they are properly taught about discernment. When you look into the eye of baby, you see love, innocence and passion. But when you look into their eye again at the age of 3, 4, 5 or 6, you tend to see expectation, curiosity, and mischief. These are those characteristic that may take too much of their attention sometimes. Somehow, it is alright when your child hardly answer your call at home, because they may be born with different type of character, which you should not feel irritated or annoyed nor disappointed. As you should know by now; that every children need nurturing and to go through the learning process. All those characteristics at different age, needs reinforcement to overturn it from negative to positive, and your patient and passion are two important elements to ward a successful nurturing.
Also, when children likes to beat others children, it is because they feel insecure, and if you scolded them, beat them as punishment, you tend to worsen the matter. Since they have felt insecure, and your punishment will make them feel even insecure with your existence. When you look deep into the psychology of a child, you may also notice that they are very sensitive, children are smart human being, they can play with one ear, and the other ear listening to what the surrounding has to tell them. Apparently, this is how they learn and adapt to the environment.
Why children do not like to be hugged by stranger, or sometimes, even own relative, grandparents. Perhaps due to the familiarity or a better word to describe as the bond they have built with their own parents, and that, the children do not want the lose tie of the bond? No, it is not true, it is also not a matter of children are born with introvert character or extrovert character, but more than half of the children just vulnerable to posses the ability to feel what the adult feel, and read the adult mind.
A child has the ability to discern other human being, when you walk near them, they will look at you, once you make your move to hug them, and they will cry and refrain. They notice and read every one of your movement, even though they might be playing with apparatus!
Every child has their own comfort zone, and when you walk into their border, you must not bring your emotion along with you at that time, because the feeling you have internally, will bring a signal of insecure to them. You must be neutral, or otherwise, the least, feel positively, without over-reacting, aggressive movement or excessive expression. All these will spook the child, and you will have a tough time with them when you breach their security zone.
Also, when children likes to beat others children, it is because they feel insecure, and if you scolded them, beat them as punishment, you tend to worsen the matter. Since they have felt insecure, and your punishment will make them feel even insecure with your existence. When you look deep into the psychology of a child, you may also notice that they are very sensitive, children are smart human being, they can play with one ear, and the other ear listening to what the surrounding has to tell them. Apparently, this is how they learn and adapt to the environment.
Why children do not like to be hugged by stranger, or sometimes, even own relative, grandparents. Perhaps due to the familiarity or a better word to describe as the bond they have built with their own parents, and that, the children do not want the lose tie of the bond? No, it is not true, it is also not a matter of children are born with introvert character or extrovert character, but more than half of the children just vulnerable to posses the ability to feel what the adult feel, and read the adult mind.
A child has the ability to discern other human being, when you walk near them, they will look at you, once you make your move to hug them, and they will cry and refrain. They notice and read every one of your movement, even though they might be playing with apparatus!
Every child has their own comfort zone, and when you walk into their border, you must not bring your emotion along with you at that time, because the feeling you have internally, will bring a signal of insecure to them. You must be neutral, or otherwise, the least, feel positively, without over-reacting, aggressive movement or excessive expression. All these will spook the child, and you will have a tough time with them when you breach their security zone.
Saturday, September 17, 2005
Prince: Baby...
How much do you know about children? Apart from fostering and nurturing children, have you ever considered the psychology aspect of the children? No, certainly, none of you has ever think about it, you may only consider children as a reflection of your own childhood, thus, you tend to bring up your own children the way you were brought up before, remember this statement. When this happen, you are being dominated by your own shadow, which you are starting to assume your understanding of children, but in fact, you are merely fulfilling your own psychology needs at that time due to your own experience, not your children!
You must always remember from the birth of a baby, he/she is already a person, a perfect human-being, was formed from fetus to a baby, and delivered by the proudest human being on earth-the mother. A baby is born neutral, and their mind is as blank as a piece of blank paper. The fundamental need a baby would ask for (if he can talk at that time), is your care and love, and the only language a baby has, is crying and tearing, similarly, both are also the only weapon a baby has.
Baby, when they are first bring into this world of multiple colors, they are holy, and they do not see you as a person, or perhaps, merely, an object. Your emotion at the moment, can affect your way of nurturing your baby before the baby developed into seeing you as a person.
When time goes on, after months and months, you tend to see baby differently, more likely, a person, and you tend to notice many reflection of your own shadow, many different type of behavior such as isolation from parents, friends and surrounding, mischief and picky, and you must be able to use the right encouragement to nurture them.
You must always remember from the birth of a baby, he/she is already a person, a perfect human-being, was formed from fetus to a baby, and delivered by the proudest human being on earth-the mother. A baby is born neutral, and their mind is as blank as a piece of blank paper. The fundamental need a baby would ask for (if he can talk at that time), is your care and love, and the only language a baby has, is crying and tearing, similarly, both are also the only weapon a baby has.
Baby, when they are first bring into this world of multiple colors, they are holy, and they do not see you as a person, or perhaps, merely, an object. Your emotion at the moment, can affect your way of nurturing your baby before the baby developed into seeing you as a person.
When time goes on, after months and months, you tend to see baby differently, more likely, a person, and you tend to notice many reflection of your own shadow, many different type of behavior such as isolation from parents, friends and surrounding, mischief and picky, and you must be able to use the right encouragement to nurture them.
Thursday, September 15, 2005
Prince: Prince & Princess...
Time passes as the pendulum swing! Prince has been with princess for almost one year from the first time they met. Many incidents have led to more understanding; many arguments spark off a better relationship, and many sharing leading to more passionate feeling for each other. Of course, the architecture of the relationship is very much based on the feeling that they have for each other.
Prince has got to know about princess’s parent, and both her father and mother are caring and loving for prince. One by one, many struggles have been though, until the stage of stability, certainly, not about the cooling period that prince has always mention, because prince will ensure that the fire of passion is flaming all the while.
Princess is sick, she caught with flu, while, prince was caught with two big ulcers in his mouth, making his daily meal almost impossible to consume without pain. It may have caused by the heat lately, and possible haze which hit Malaysia again…..
Prince has got to know about princess’s parent, and both her father and mother are caring and loving for prince. One by one, many struggles have been though, until the stage of stability, certainly, not about the cooling period that prince has always mention, because prince will ensure that the fire of passion is flaming all the while.
Princess is sick, she caught with flu, while, prince was caught with two big ulcers in his mouth, making his daily meal almost impossible to consume without pain. It may have caused by the heat lately, and possible haze which hit Malaysia again…..
Prince: On Medical Leave...
Prince was sick; he had sore throat and two big ulcers in his mouth, making him almost impossible to eat without pain. The sickness lingers on to slight fever, and he has no choice but to consult doctor, and took medical leave for two days. Certainly, it may be good for him because from now on, he may have to work almost every weekend, it would be good to rest, as the old one always said, ‘rest as to walk a longer road’.
Wednesday, September 14, 2005
Prince: Nice email !
Prince received this email from Angela, and find this pretty true in most company...
How to put the right person in the right Job?
Does your Company have a problem in recruiting the right person for the right Job? If yes, try this simple experiment.
Put around 100 bricks in some particular order in a closed room with an open window. Then send 2-3 candidates into the room and close it from outside. Leave them alone and come back after 6 hours, and then analyze the situation:
If they are counting and recounting the number of bricks - PUT THEM IN ACCOUNTS DEPT.
If they have messed up the whole place with the bricks - PUT THEM IN ENGINEERING
If they are arranging the bricks in some other order - PUT THEM IN PLANNING.
If they are throwing the bricks at each other - PUT THEM IN OPERATIONS.
If they are sleeping - PUT THEM IN SECURITY.
If they have broken the bricks into pieces - PUT THEM IN INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY.
If they are sitting idle - PUT THEM IN HUMAN RESOURCE DEPT.
If they have thrown the bricks out of the window - PUT THEM IN THE MATERIALS DEPT.
If they are clinging onto the bricks - PUT THEM IN TREASURY.
If they say they have tried different combinations, yet not a brick has moved - PUT THEM IN SALES.
If they have already left for the day - PUT THEM IN MARKETING.
If they are staring out of the window - PUT THEM IN STRATEGIC PLANNING
AND last but not least....
If they are talking to each other and not a single brick has been moved - PUT THEM IN TOP MANAGEMENT.
How to put the right person in the right Job?
Does your Company have a problem in recruiting the right person for the right Job? If yes, try this simple experiment.
Put around 100 bricks in some particular order in a closed room with an open window. Then send 2-3 candidates into the room and close it from outside. Leave them alone and come back after 6 hours, and then analyze the situation:
If they are counting and recounting the number of bricks - PUT THEM IN ACCOUNTS DEPT.
If they have messed up the whole place with the bricks - PUT THEM IN ENGINEERING
If they are arranging the bricks in some other order - PUT THEM IN PLANNING.
If they are throwing the bricks at each other - PUT THEM IN OPERATIONS.
If they are sleeping - PUT THEM IN SECURITY.
If they have broken the bricks into pieces - PUT THEM IN INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY.
If they are sitting idle - PUT THEM IN HUMAN RESOURCE DEPT.
If they have thrown the bricks out of the window - PUT THEM IN THE MATERIALS DEPT.
If they are clinging onto the bricks - PUT THEM IN TREASURY.
If they say they have tried different combinations, yet not a brick has moved - PUT THEM IN SALES.
If they have already left for the day - PUT THEM IN MARKETING.
If they are staring out of the window - PUT THEM IN STRATEGIC PLANNING
AND last but not least....
If they are talking to each other and not a single brick has been moved - PUT THEM IN TOP MANAGEMENT.
Tuesday, September 13, 2005
Prince: You are given two choices!
Every human being was born with two fundamental choices, one which leads a normal life, and the other which leads a bombastic life. Those who choose a special and challenging life may sometime deviate into the devil route, because robbing a bank is challenging as well (if you get the meaning!). You can appear headline by helping people, or you can appear headline by killing people, this is the different!
Even in relationship, either you want a good and stable; or a challenging or romantic relationship, it reflects that life involves choices, but the above are the simply choice where you are given since young. However, you must remember how you think (your thought), and how you work now, your character, behavior and your life style can lead you into a totally different life, whether success or not, is a different story.
Even in relationship, either you want a good and stable; or a challenging or romantic relationship, it reflects that life involves choices, but the above are the simply choice where you are given since young. However, you must remember how you think (your thought), and how you work now, your character, behavior and your life style can lead you into a totally different life, whether success or not, is a different story.
Monday, September 12, 2005
Prince: How do you learn from reading?
When you read, you must read with your heart and your brain, not with your emotion which will carry you away from the underlying value. Thus, ones must be able to draw conclusion or draw the wisdom from what they read, either positive or negative, and related it to others as sharing.
From what prince has read since 13 years old, until now, from history to business related book and novel, Prince learns some skills- the strong survival skills. Since young, he understands the human philosophy, and the way nature works its way through. He also understands that every human being has its own choice to make, that may or may not lead them to be a successful example.
Talking about survival skills, prince draws up this few skills, and keeps it secretly because it may not be good skills, thus, may not necessary to mention how, but to tell you what! Prince calls this the TICK, because it makes thing tick! You will not learn this if you don’t know how to draw wisdom and knowledge from what you read, and you will know if the process of relating doesn’t exist (process of learning- Read, understanding (analyzing), relating).
The Trick and Trap skills- useful when you have lunch or dinner in a restaurant and have no money, without hand phone, and you can’t ask anyone for help, worse still you know you can’t pay. This trick can help you get out of the situation, without the need to pay anything, but someone will give you money and pay for you!
The Illusion skills – When you know you are in trouble, how to get away without people knowing that you are running away! This is useful when you are on the edge of being caught by police or anyone who may harm you.
The Chaos skill – A combination of above, getting all the benefit, can either running away, hiding, getting money or anything without being caught!
The Killing birds skill – useful when you are out of money and you need to have some money to spend for family, or yourself, it was called killing birds skill because when you kill a bird, you can eat it to get rid of starvation.
From what prince has read since 13 years old, until now, from history to business related book and novel, Prince learns some skills- the strong survival skills. Since young, he understands the human philosophy, and the way nature works its way through. He also understands that every human being has its own choice to make, that may or may not lead them to be a successful example.
Talking about survival skills, prince draws up this few skills, and keeps it secretly because it may not be good skills, thus, may not necessary to mention how, but to tell you what! Prince calls this the TICK, because it makes thing tick! You will not learn this if you don’t know how to draw wisdom and knowledge from what you read, and you will know if the process of relating doesn’t exist (process of learning- Read, understanding (analyzing), relating).
The Trick and Trap skills- useful when you have lunch or dinner in a restaurant and have no money, without hand phone, and you can’t ask anyone for help, worse still you know you can’t pay. This trick can help you get out of the situation, without the need to pay anything, but someone will give you money and pay for you!
The Illusion skills – When you know you are in trouble, how to get away without people knowing that you are running away! This is useful when you are on the edge of being caught by police or anyone who may harm you.
The Chaos skill – A combination of above, getting all the benefit, can either running away, hiding, getting money or anything without being caught!
The Killing birds skill – useful when you are out of money and you need to have some money to spend for family, or yourself, it was called killing birds skill because when you kill a bird, you can eat it to get rid of starvation.
Sunday, September 11, 2005
Prince: Can you learn by looking at one side?
How far can you go in your working life, study life and your tedious life without the aspiration to learn? It is very sad to see that human being set confinement on their learning curve due to the lack of the thought of learning, for example, you can learn a great deal with reading, writing, playing and other routine activities, provided that you are equipped with the thought of learning which enable you to be receptive and ponder at the macro perspective.
Talk about reading, it is not so simply about reading an interesting article, an intriguing story, or history, if you read it so just to spend your time, then you will not be able to learn and comprehend thoroughly the underlying value. You may just admire the surface; it is like judging a book by its cover.
How much can one person learns in one life is solely depend on that person willingness to open up their mind, without being carried away by their emotion at that moment. It is hard, of course, to stay at a neutral ground in any particular learning platform, nevertheless, this is the only way to judge matter rationally so as to achieve optimum learning experience.
This is what the old one deem as ‘elite thinking’, to become an elite thinker, you shall not only look at one object at only one angle, but to ponder the object at different angle, certainly, you also must not take or defense your underlying thinking, in such a way that acting against the new concept.
The process involves read, understand and related, when you read, you are not just reading but also understanding the underlying value, then you relates it to share with people who has zero knowledge, it will become a viral knowledge that spread along the community, and knowledge can carry along from generation to generation. However, if this does not happen, then the opportunity for other to learn was deprived!
Think about University professor, who, if teach you only one side of the story or theory, either all about the good story or all about the bad story, under this circumstance, will you be able to learn more? One must not always stay on one path, the old one deems the outdated figure as traditional because they can not hold up to new meaning in life, and when you aren’t able to accept the fact, which has been proved generally effective with wide adoption, then you are more than just traditional.
Talk about reading, it is not so simply about reading an interesting article, an intriguing story, or history, if you read it so just to spend your time, then you will not be able to learn and comprehend thoroughly the underlying value. You may just admire the surface; it is like judging a book by its cover.
How much can one person learns in one life is solely depend on that person willingness to open up their mind, without being carried away by their emotion at that moment. It is hard, of course, to stay at a neutral ground in any particular learning platform, nevertheless, this is the only way to judge matter rationally so as to achieve optimum learning experience.
This is what the old one deem as ‘elite thinking’, to become an elite thinker, you shall not only look at one object at only one angle, but to ponder the object at different angle, certainly, you also must not take or defense your underlying thinking, in such a way that acting against the new concept.
The process involves read, understand and related, when you read, you are not just reading but also understanding the underlying value, then you relates it to share with people who has zero knowledge, it will become a viral knowledge that spread along the community, and knowledge can carry along from generation to generation. However, if this does not happen, then the opportunity for other to learn was deprived!
Think about University professor, who, if teach you only one side of the story or theory, either all about the good story or all about the bad story, under this circumstance, will you be able to learn more? One must not always stay on one path, the old one deems the outdated figure as traditional because they can not hold up to new meaning in life, and when you aren’t able to accept the fact, which has been proved generally effective with wide adoption, then you are more than just traditional.
Saturday, September 10, 2005
Prince:Blame...
Have you ever been into a situation where you are being blame for the irresponsibility of others? Yes, many of us would have experience it once or more, prince believes. In work place for example, when many projects are in progress, company tends to manipulate the existing resources by appointing chairperson and vice chairperson, and one can be a chairperson in certain projects, and vice chairperson in other projects, this is to share the heavy responsibility among others. But, under certain circumstances, when your chairperson was an irresponsible person, then you will have to take up heavier responsibility on your side, and worse still, you bear the risk of being blame for any failure that shall occurs.
This would happen when your chairperson is not a good employee after all. He may leave you a lot of follow up work, or let you clean up the messy ending but never even inform you about you duty of doing it. When problem occurs, they will simply hide away, and let you take the blame! Stressful isn’t it? Of course, stressful and life is full of worry since you will not know when the next escapade is! There is one way to solve the problem, where you can talk to your superior about the situation, and constantly update them about your responsibilities through emailing, the least; they know that you are doing your part. Meanwhile, you need to be transparent to your colleague, who leaves you the blame, at least, hint them your dislike! Many of us afraid of losing a friend or a good colleague, thus, they do not dare to be transparent in any situation required. This could be wrong.
This would happen when your chairperson is not a good employee after all. He may leave you a lot of follow up work, or let you clean up the messy ending but never even inform you about you duty of doing it. When problem occurs, they will simply hide away, and let you take the blame! Stressful isn’t it? Of course, stressful and life is full of worry since you will not know when the next escapade is! There is one way to solve the problem, where you can talk to your superior about the situation, and constantly update them about your responsibilities through emailing, the least; they know that you are doing your part. Meanwhile, you need to be transparent to your colleague, who leaves you the blame, at least, hint them your dislike! Many of us afraid of losing a friend or a good colleague, thus, they do not dare to be transparent in any situation required. This could be wrong.
Friday, September 09, 2005
Prince: Life has problems! even planning!
Do you believe that every problem will have solution, and that every plan will have problem? This is human life, and no way, you can run away from this nature behavior of life. In management, people are talking about planning, but they do not understand the meaning of planning, whereby, it bounds to have problem because no plan is perfect. It is sad to see many manager to adopt the belief that plan should be no problem in the execution. May be they are bound by their own wisdom, and they should be learning about life philosophy before they are able to lead!
Thursday, September 08, 2005
Prince: Synchronize...
Prince heard this from his previous superior, Mr. Kit, during an event speech. Prince can’t remember who the scientist was but he remembers the theory. There was a man who owned two pendulum clocks in his house, one day, when he was going out for a lunch appointment; he noticed that both pendulum clocks were swinging at a different direction.
An hour later, when he came back from his lunch, to his amaze, he found out that the two pendulum clocks were eventually, swing synchronously. He researched the nature of the pendulum swing, and devised the synchronization theory.
The theory tells that, when two pendulums are put together in one room, even though it swings at different direction, but it will eventually swing synchronously.
Same to human being, we will be able to ‘synchronize’ when all human being stays together for quite a period of time; it is similar to pendulum swings synchronously. Certainly, there must be one objective to achieve.
An hour later, when he came back from his lunch, to his amaze, he found out that the two pendulum clocks were eventually, swing synchronously. He researched the nature of the pendulum swing, and devised the synchronization theory.
The theory tells that, when two pendulums are put together in one room, even though it swings at different direction, but it will eventually swing synchronously.
Same to human being, we will be able to ‘synchronize’ when all human being stays together for quite a period of time; it is similar to pendulum swings synchronously. Certainly, there must be one objective to achieve.
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Prince: Still need trust in management...
Prince has a presentation today, about one of a minor project he involved. His CEO said he was too conservative in drafting the proposal. At least, prince feels that he obtains the trust from the management when the word ‘go ahead’ was voiced.
Prince has doubt about the trust that being laid on him by the management, because in many occasion, management has indirectly related prince as less of trust. The recent occasion, when prince was told to show lack of nationalism in company, the situation put company as country which indirectly assumed prince to be in such behavior.
For so many months working in the company, prince has built their trust slowly, but unfortunately, it is not enough. Simply, prince’s outlook may be the major hindrance to him. He may need to re-look into his own character now (Perhaps). However, prince still feels careless about it, because he believes only in his own self, and he knows, he is committed to company.
Prince has doubt about the trust that being laid on him by the management, because in many occasion, management has indirectly related prince as less of trust. The recent occasion, when prince was told to show lack of nationalism in company, the situation put company as country which indirectly assumed prince to be in such behavior.
For so many months working in the company, prince has built their trust slowly, but unfortunately, it is not enough. Simply, prince’s outlook may be the major hindrance to him. He may need to re-look into his own character now (Perhaps). However, prince still feels careless about it, because he believes only in his own self, and he knows, he is committed to company.
Tuesday, September 06, 2005
Prince: Reality still needs Contigency...
The reality about management and the practical implementation are hardly in line. Very often, management talked about their expansion plan but forget to draft the contingency plan that allowed them to look into the problem that may occur. When you are too indulge in expressing your view, you may have forgone that many others to have a different perception on what you have to say, because they are able to look at the wider picture, and may have doubt about what you got to say.
Of course, nothing is impossible; solving a problem is every human being’s instinct. However, if they are not psychologically prepared for problem due to their indulgence in their own plan, it can cause serious problem then you have ever thought of.
You may talk about how much you want to do, but if you forgone the fundamental problem that may arise in implementing your thought, then you can be easily given up in the process, or it may halt your plan from branching.
Of course, nothing is impossible; solving a problem is every human being’s instinct. However, if they are not psychologically prepared for problem due to their indulgence in their own plan, it can cause serious problem then you have ever thought of.
You may talk about how much you want to do, but if you forgone the fundamental problem that may arise in implementing your thought, then you can be easily given up in the process, or it may halt your plan from branching.
Monday, September 05, 2005
Prince: Oppress...
Prince was asked to be patient many times by different people from different background, even though he feels being oppress in work place, whereby, idea wasn’t allow to be executed accordingly. Different in thought may be a major hassle to all, secondly, the power struggle that stop prince from functioning? Very often, human being is influenced by the ‘religious idiosyncrasy’, this type of behavior tends to be aggressively impart own value into other, with the hope of transforming someone into similar behavior. This type of people will only believe in own value, idea and thought. They will be happier to see people implement their idea than other using their own idea, and they will try their ever best to force their thought to be in placed. When you come across this type of behavior, adopts ‘look see’ strategy to protect your position, or on the opposite, ‘offensive strategy’ to defense your stand till your grave!
Sunday, September 04, 2005
Prince: Lies Detector
Prince was taught about human character / behavior and the causation effect since young, he can not stop himself from reading and observing people around. Initially, he was taught about this because his master does not want him to be cheated by people in the society; somehow, it brings a considerable consequence.
Prince can’t claim to be the best, but he was a lies detector in himself, he knows when people brag, he knows when people lies, and he can’t help it. It is inside of him. The instinct used to prevent him to making more friends until 2 years ago when he met up with his master again in hometown. Only then his master enlightens him that every human being tells lies before! Every human being is not honest creatures! Human being is not holy unless you are a monk.
His master said, “You learn about the technique but you don’t understand the philosophy, if you don’t understand, then you will not be able to be receptive because the fact is, every human being tell lies and not honest, because they are not holy, that’s why you tend to lose your trust whenever you come across someone.”, he continue, “you must not let your knowledge becomes a barrier, but to develop it, now that you know every human being is a liar, because every human being lies before, then you must learn to accept the fact, but, also learn how to identify those human being tells the most lies, only then you walk out from your own shadow!.”
Now that prince has learned, to make friend with everyone and trust every one in the circle, because he realizes that, no human being is holy. Somehow, he can not help to control his instinct who tells him quietly in his heart about something……
Prince can’t claim to be the best, but he was a lies detector in himself, he knows when people brag, he knows when people lies, and he can’t help it. It is inside of him. The instinct used to prevent him to making more friends until 2 years ago when he met up with his master again in hometown. Only then his master enlightens him that every human being tells lies before! Every human being is not honest creatures! Human being is not holy unless you are a monk.
His master said, “You learn about the technique but you don’t understand the philosophy, if you don’t understand, then you will not be able to be receptive because the fact is, every human being tell lies and not honest, because they are not holy, that’s why you tend to lose your trust whenever you come across someone.”, he continue, “you must not let your knowledge becomes a barrier, but to develop it, now that you know every human being is a liar, because every human being lies before, then you must learn to accept the fact, but, also learn how to identify those human being tells the most lies, only then you walk out from your own shadow!.”
Now that prince has learned, to make friend with everyone and trust every one in the circle, because he realizes that, no human being is holy. Somehow, he can not help to control his instinct who tells him quietly in his heart about something……
Saturday, September 03, 2005
Prince: Human-Animal Instinct
Prince realized that human has no different than any other creatures in this world when he found out that a stray cat gave birth to 4 kittens a few days ago. The stray cat is very protective of her 4 babies; she has set herself a comfort zone whereby no one is able to walk across. Once she saw a moving object, her eye will stare on it; it is like waiting for an order to attack. However, the situation will be different, if the cat is belong to you. As a master of your cat, you certainly, will be able to do almost anything on her, for example, hugging her babies, feeding, touching her and many more. This is probably built on trust, because your cat trusts you.
Similarly, human shares the same instinct because you will not allow anyone to enter your house, room or any compound you deem as comfort zone at which you feel secure upon. You tend to become furious once your secure zone was breached because you are acting on self defense. You will start acting on self-defense when you realize that someone is looking or strolling around you secure zone even though they aren’t do it on purpose. This is the nature of human being. However, if you trust the person in breach, there shall not be breach anymore. This is the animal instinct attach to human body.
Trust is one element that affect human to act upon animal instinct but when ponder deeply, prince found that, it can link to more elements. For example, if you have done something wrong, you tend to react on your self-defense, it is like police trying to enter a compound full of drug addicts, they (drug addict / trafficker) will run, or fight back because their secure / comfort zone was breached.
Similarly, human shares the same instinct because you will not allow anyone to enter your house, room or any compound you deem as comfort zone at which you feel secure upon. You tend to become furious once your secure zone was breached because you are acting on self defense. You will start acting on self-defense when you realize that someone is looking or strolling around you secure zone even though they aren’t do it on purpose. This is the nature of human being. However, if you trust the person in breach, there shall not be breach anymore. This is the animal instinct attach to human body.
Trust is one element that affect human to act upon animal instinct but when ponder deeply, prince found that, it can link to more elements. For example, if you have done something wrong, you tend to react on your self-defense, it is like police trying to enter a compound full of drug addicts, they (drug addict / trafficker) will run, or fight back because their secure / comfort zone was breached.
Friday, September 02, 2005
Prince: "Synergy"
There is no way you can accommodate or adapt to a character which you know is wrong, however it is not impossible after all, to accept or adapt to one character. It is also not impossible to synergy the character which needs a lot of give and take. Both ways work through but arrive at a different outcome and consequences, one for long term (synergy) and the other for short term (adaptive). The most difficult part is to make the other party understand of what should be amended, because every human being lives through their age, and it is very difficult, for example, to ask a human who has a bad temper to be patient, because he could have lived with the bad habit for the past 20 years! You are asking him / her to change a 20 years routine, similarly, you are asking for his death…sigh…human character is difficult to understand and change if they are not opening their mind wide enough…
Thursday, September 01, 2005
Prince:Tough Luck...
Prince wonders what is wrong with his luck this month, because bad incident seems to arrive pretty soon and in a series. He lost his laptop and one of his hand phone in a burglary, not long after, his current hand phone broke down, and need RM 100 to repair (but he only purchased it at RM 200 6 months ago!) When working, office network is going up and down due to wiring problem, and no technician seem to be able to fix it right! It halts prince’s productivity and efficiency in delivering professional service to his company!
Prince:Ancient History...
That night hanging out in Seri Kembangan with Fion, Kevin, Foong Peng and Siew Ci, had allowed prince to recall what he had read since young about China ancient history about war, it reminded prince about Zhu Geliang, Liu Bei, Chang Fei & Guan Di, when Siew Ci literally said that she liked to read China ancient history.
When reading a history, it requires you to look into the meaning and understanding the underlying moral value in order to widen your thought and wisdom. Prince still remember the scene whereby, Guan Di was killed because of his arrogance that the enemy troops will not be able to engage his own troop, but eventually he fell into the trap and die under the thousand arrows from enemy. Prince ponders deeply, and realizes how the word arrogance can destroy a person; even a life can be sacrifice.
The story not yet ends in this way, Liu Bei, as the king of his kingdom, lost his best comrade. He called for a revenge and raised a troop of hundred of thousand, to declare a war against Country Wei (if prince still remember vividly). Zhu Geliang was then an adviser for Liu Bei, realized that it is not the time to declare war against country Wei since the troop had just been defeated. But Zhu Geliang did not voice out his view to Liu Bei, instead, he allowed Liu Bei on his decision.
One of the general asked Zhu Geliang, ‘Why aren’t you stop our king from the war?’, Zhu Geliang said, ‘At this moment, when our king was carried away by the vengeance of the moment, he will not take any advice from us anymore, any additional words against his will, will be treated as committing a treason’.
Prince, again, thought deeply, and realized the fact that, it is true when someone was too much indulge with his own perspective, such as in relationship, when the old one said, love is blind because they are too indulging into a relationship that halt them from thinking properly.
Liu Bei with his troop walked against their enemy, he set his tent at a location whereby his enemy can easily cut his water supply, and set fire against his troop. Zhu Geliang received the location map where Liu Bei set his tent, and surprised by Liu Bei ignorant about the strategy and location, quickly, he sent a soldier to advise Liu Bei to change his position against his enemy, but Liu Bei was too arrogant to take his advice. Zhu Geliang was very sad because he knew the consequences.
The next day, Liu Bei soldier shouted, ‘Fire’, by the time Liu Bei realized his own mistake, half of the troop was burnt to death, and was killed by their enemy, As a result from that, Liu Bei had to retreat, and it caused the country to take a defensive approach for a few years before they can start to raise a war against others. Prince learns a great deal about the story, whereby, arrogance can destroy a person, and when you are being carried away by the moment, no advice you can accept, except your own view.
When reading a history, it requires you to look into the meaning and understanding the underlying moral value in order to widen your thought and wisdom. Prince still remember the scene whereby, Guan Di was killed because of his arrogance that the enemy troops will not be able to engage his own troop, but eventually he fell into the trap and die under the thousand arrows from enemy. Prince ponders deeply, and realizes how the word arrogance can destroy a person; even a life can be sacrifice.
The story not yet ends in this way, Liu Bei, as the king of his kingdom, lost his best comrade. He called for a revenge and raised a troop of hundred of thousand, to declare a war against Country Wei (if prince still remember vividly). Zhu Geliang was then an adviser for Liu Bei, realized that it is not the time to declare war against country Wei since the troop had just been defeated. But Zhu Geliang did not voice out his view to Liu Bei, instead, he allowed Liu Bei on his decision.
One of the general asked Zhu Geliang, ‘Why aren’t you stop our king from the war?’, Zhu Geliang said, ‘At this moment, when our king was carried away by the vengeance of the moment, he will not take any advice from us anymore, any additional words against his will, will be treated as committing a treason’.
Prince, again, thought deeply, and realized the fact that, it is true when someone was too much indulge with his own perspective, such as in relationship, when the old one said, love is blind because they are too indulging into a relationship that halt them from thinking properly.
Liu Bei with his troop walked against their enemy, he set his tent at a location whereby his enemy can easily cut his water supply, and set fire against his troop. Zhu Geliang received the location map where Liu Bei set his tent, and surprised by Liu Bei ignorant about the strategy and location, quickly, he sent a soldier to advise Liu Bei to change his position against his enemy, but Liu Bei was too arrogant to take his advice. Zhu Geliang was very sad because he knew the consequences.
The next day, Liu Bei soldier shouted, ‘Fire’, by the time Liu Bei realized his own mistake, half of the troop was burnt to death, and was killed by their enemy, As a result from that, Liu Bei had to retreat, and it caused the country to take a defensive approach for a few years before they can start to raise a war against others. Prince learns a great deal about the story, whereby, arrogance can destroy a person, and when you are being carried away by the moment, no advice you can accept, except your own view.
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