An article in the ‘Comment’ section in The Star Newspaper relates the idea of woman’s liberation in Singapore which emerges as a national crisis with more than 300,000 white-collar workers in Singapore who can’t find wives!
They blame this on the fast emergence of educated women. Undoubtedly, female undergraduates have outnumbered males and also matched or outperformed them in many professions as part of on-going global trends. This trend is growing in Malaysia too, but will the similar problem occur in our country for years to come?
The writer contended that Singaporean men are convinced that foreigners make better wives because they are perceived as more domesticated, less arrogant and materialistic. This has led to the increasing number of Vietnam women being married to Singaporeans. Match making agencies arrange these marriages with a certain fee and Singaporean men are willing to pay for it. Many considered this arrangement as a ‘trading’ instead of an actual marriage! However, this leads to the doubt of whether the relationship can actually survive for a long time since the marriage is arranged on money terms instead of fondness between two parties.
Some men attribute this problem to the increasing demands of women. Very often we hear about Singaporean women that demand for the 5Cs – Condo, Car, Credit Card, Country Club and Cash. This has, in fact, prevented
Marriages should not be based solely on materialistic interests. History tells us that pre-arranged marriages are not always happy. Parents arrange the marriages of their children before the children make their decision to keep the wealth ‘within the clans’; and what’s worse, the rich only marry the rich or richer and the poor only to the poor. Many question the intimacy of husbands and wives in pre-arranged marriages. They claim that this ignores the fundamentals of understanding in a relationship.
One of the Singaporean men is quoted in the article as saying, “Some Singaporean females are simply arrogant, especially those with high education levels. They always think that Singaporean men are good for nothing while they themselves are perfect.” Others complain that many women in Singapore don’t know how to cook or do household chores and have become too dependent on maids since they were young. Some Singaporean men even perceived Singaporean women as being highly materialistic. Shopping is considered a major hobby and looking good is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur or bag carrier.
Meanwhile, one Singaporean women commented that she wished to see more ‘backbone’ in men. She did not care about the man’s earning power. Rather, she was more concerned with him being able to show the attributes of a ‘true man’, and not some whining screw-driver. They tell themselves that they are not going to be one of those docile wives who nod their heads and cook for men at the slightest command; and claimed to be the women of the new age!
They blame this on the fast emergence of educated women. Undoubtedly, female undergraduates have outnumbered males and also matched or outperformed them in many professions as part of on-going global trends. This trend is growing in Malaysia too, but will the similar problem occur in our country for years to come?
The writer contended that Singaporean men are convinced that foreigners make better wives because they are perceived as more domesticated, less arrogant and materialistic. This has led to the increasing number of Vietnam women being married to Singaporeans. Match making agencies arrange these marriages with a certain fee and Singaporean men are willing to pay for it. Many considered this arrangement as a ‘trading’ instead of an actual marriage! However, this leads to the doubt of whether the relationship can actually survive for a long time since the marriage is arranged on money terms instead of fondness between two parties.
Some men attribute this problem to the increasing demands of women. Very often we hear about Singaporean women that demand for the 5Cs – Condo, Car, Credit Card, Country Club and Cash. This has, in fact, prevented
Marriages should not be based solely on materialistic interests. History tells us that pre-arranged marriages are not always happy. Parents arrange the marriages of their children before the children make their decision to keep the wealth ‘within the clans’; and what’s worse, the rich only marry the rich or richer and the poor only to the poor. Many question the intimacy of husbands and wives in pre-arranged marriages. They claim that this ignores the fundamentals of understanding in a relationship.
One of the Singaporean men is quoted in the article as saying, “Some Singaporean females are simply arrogant, especially those with high education levels. They always think that Singaporean men are good for nothing while they themselves are perfect.” Others complain that many women in Singapore don’t know how to cook or do household chores and have become too dependent on maids since they were young. Some Singaporean men even perceived Singaporean women as being highly materialistic. Shopping is considered a major hobby and looking good is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur or bag carrier.
Meanwhile, one Singaporean women commented that she wished to see more ‘backbone’ in men. She did not care about the man’s earning power. Rather, she was more concerned with him being able to show the attributes of a ‘true man’, and not some whining screw-driver. They tell themselves that they are not going to be one of those docile wives who nod their heads and cook for men at the slightest command; and claimed to be the women of the new age!
Highly educated women have demands; so do highly educated men. High earning men do not want to be tied down with commitment of families or
relationships; instead they look for freedom. This explains why there is a
high number of unmarried men in Singapore too! The argument put forward ignores the value of a real relationship.
A relationship is supposed to be aesthetic in nature, not materialistic. Men who fall in love must be able to accept every aspect of his beloved, so must women. Women who cannot cook don’t necessarily make bad wives. As for women who treat men purely as another accessory, chauffeur or bag carrier, they have forgotten the theory of love as the basis of bringing better, long-lasting and romantic relationships.
For women who make docile wives and cook for men without whining, living in today’s modern society can revolutionize their way of thinking. Subsequently, a fundamental question that arises for men to ponder on is: would you divorce your wife if she does not cook for you and whined about all the household chores to you? Relationships are a give and take process and one cannot categorize relationships as material goods upon which you select your choice of quality!
The writer has complimented Singaporean women for being highly educated and outperforming men in many areas, but at the cost of not being highly valued as wives. They proudly present it as women’s liberation; I would rather name it a revolutionizing or transforming of relationships from the heartfelt to a more material base.
relationships; instead they look for freedom. This explains why there is a
high number of unmarried men in Singapore too! The argument put forward ignores the value of a real relationship.
A relationship is supposed to be aesthetic in nature, not materialistic. Men who fall in love must be able to accept every aspect of his beloved, so must women. Women who cannot cook don’t necessarily make bad wives. As for women who treat men purely as another accessory, chauffeur or bag carrier, they have forgotten the theory of love as the basis of bringing better, long-lasting and romantic relationships.
For women who make docile wives and cook for men without whining, living in today’s modern society can revolutionize their way of thinking. Subsequently, a fundamental question that arises for men to ponder on is: would you divorce your wife if she does not cook for you and whined about all the household chores to you? Relationships are a give and take process and one cannot categorize relationships as material goods upon which you select your choice of quality!
The writer has complimented Singaporean women for being highly educated and outperforming men in many areas, but at the cost of not being highly valued as wives. They proudly present it as women’s liberation; I would rather name it a revolutionizing or transforming of relationships from the heartfelt to a more material base.
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